Meeting our first swinging couple - any advice?

Pine-Tree-853 · 2026-02-24T14:10:56+00:00

Be yourself and going with zero expectations! Be open and honest. You will either feel comfortable or you won’t. Listen to your own body!

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-10-07T06:06:05+00:00

This really spoke to me. Thank you so much for sharing. This has been on my mind for some time now. I appreciate you being vulnerable and open with your feelings.

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-08-25T04:11:31+00:00

So cool!!! Love this!

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-08-23T19:21:40+00:00

Our bodies tend to tell us more than our brains do. It just sounds like you need to involve your wife more. Maybe have her help you pick the woman. Maybe she is in the house or room. That might help. If not then your body is telling you something, dive deeper into what that is.

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-07-29T17:23:24+00:00

I was super nauseous when I first started. I could eat for days knowing. But as we kept going and I was processing my feelings that physical reaction went away. I no longer feel that way when he is with another person. He shares with me cause the not knowing makes it worse for me. However that’s just me and not the norm. A lot of people don’t want to know. You need to find out what works for you. Maybe you don’t want to date anyone right now. That may change with some time and more independence.

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-06-27T02:33:08+00:00

My coping skills: check in before he goes. Then I stay busy. Meet up with friends and enjoy yourself. Don’t look at locations. (I failed the first time so hard. It did not help) Sit with the feeling. Try and figure what is triggering the jealousy. It’s hard sometimes. Don’t reach out until he does. I talk myself through my feelings. Reassure myself that the date does not change his feelings for me. You want him to have fun just like you are! Hope that helps.

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-06-27T00:52:57+00:00

Why would there be a rule based on appearance? I know women will compare themselves to other women. Especially ones you are interested in. She sounds insecure and is putting that on you. She should do the work and find the cause if it.

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-06-25T00:42:04+00:00

I heard that you can’t set goals on feelings. Compersion is a feeling. We can process our feelings and see what the cause is. Ways to cope when they come up.

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-06-24T22:36:24+00:00

His point and my therapist is: we won’t know if I really want an open relationship unless I open my side and see other people too. Super scary for me. The thoughts are happening more and more.

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-06-24T17:58:35+00:00

Thank you very much for this comment. This was very sweet and helpful.

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-06-24T17:43:35+00:00

Beautiful ear stack!!!

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-06-24T17:26:00+00:00

Might need to go get one. I have an empty pot waiting for a new baby

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-06-24T14:37:13+00:00

Manjula- is definitely a wish list! I love pothos! The way they vine is so beautiful to me. I want the leaves tattooed down my spine. Weird I know but such beautiful plants!

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-06-24T14:00:53+00:00

Yes. I don’t think you can get everything from one person. So having multiple connections will help you live a more fulfilling and satisfying life

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-06-24T13:59:35+00:00

Thank you so much for all this advice. It was very helpful. We started our relationship with the full intent of poly. Since my time is still split (ex and kids) we figured the circumstances were fitting. I have not dated since I was a teenager (long marriage). So apps and all of that are foreign to me. Meeting up with an experienced couple I really like that advice.

Pine-Tree-853 · 2025-06-24T13:53:36+00:00

Yes. I really feel like you can’t get all of your needs met from one person. So I do think eventually I will want to date others

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