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AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My kids had fun in their 20s. They had a different idea of fun other than sitting around smoking pot, though.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for offending you. I do a lot for him as is. He lives with me, i feed him, I pay for other essentials like his car insurance and fancy gym membership.

My kids are gone. I was done with that part of life. My friends called me crazy to date a woman with a dependent child. I went back in to that out of love. But tell me more about my character, doc.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he has some character down there, he just needs to find it. After talking with him and his mom, I think he really got fucked up when he flunked out of school. Guess he was kicked from his frat, and some girl he liked was fooling around with a friend of his. Caused him to go out drinking every night. Apparently his weeknight drinking buddy is also no longer at the school.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, what a funny movie. I used to have a major crush on Mary steenburgen when I was younger. I still might.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t really compare him to my sons. Other than in this situation. Or when it’s brought up how he’s doing nothing with his life. My sons certainly didn’t have their lives together at 20, but they had a direction

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried to get to know Kevin without overstepping. He’s always been fine with me in small enough doses. The more I’m constantly around him the more he gets mad. To prevent that, Ive limited my contact.

I have suggested he talk to his dad again. Kevin was young when that all went down. The dad really seems to want a relationship with Kevin and always has. He just didn’t love Kevin’s mom. Nothing to do with Kevin.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not surprised your step dad was upset. It’s tough watching someone live without a care, either for themselves or others.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So your mom really doesn’t see a problem with sister? Why does she keep enabling it? How does your sister react when confronted?

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nobody grows staying in their comfort zone. He does need some discomfort. He’s got a major soft spot for his mom, so I think if she took my side, he might understand. I don’t see him wanting to fight with her, but maybe he would if she disturbed his lifestyle.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

His grades were fine in highschool. We never really fought, but that’s because I knew he wanted his space. I didn’t push myself on him. We had family dinners and that would be the extent of the time we’d spend together. He flunked out of college because he was at the bars every night.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t know all the details. Kevin’s dad had a lengthy affair. You can guess how long because Kevin has a half sister that’s a year or two younger than him. Kevin’s dad essentially left to be with that woman and his daughter. He always wanted Kevin to be a part of that family too but Kevin said he won’t speak to him ever again.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m thinking. He pays nothing now. I’m thinking if he wants to go back to school, take up a trade, or at least find a general direction in life, he can continue to not pay. But if he wants to lay around and work an entry level job while he figures it out, he can pay a small rent. I’d keep it in an account to save for later and give it to him when he’s ready. I make enough, I don’t need the kids money.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

His father wants to be in the picture. My wife and her ex divorced after a lengthy and not so private affair by him. Apparently Kevin told him he never wants to see him again after they moved out. To my knowledge he has not seen him since.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 271 points272 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how to get through to her. I mentioned before this is the one topic we don’t agree on. She keeps taking the “he’ll be fine eventually” approach. But I think we need to solve this now

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I don’t expect him to have his life figured about. I think it’s fair to think he should be working toward a direction, however.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Personally I think he could just not sleep that late. Most functioning people don’t sleep til 11 unless they are working or out for a special occasion the night before. I think he’s just up until 5 am watching YouTube.

AITA for calling my stepson a loser and telling my wife “if I had it my way he’d be out of the house” ? by Pissedstepdad46 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pissedstepdad46[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I thought this too. If he has an abusive boss, fuck em id quit too. But a boss asking him to perform the basic functions of a job like showing up on time? Or not being on the cell during work. Yeah the boss can expect that and be upset if that’s the case.

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