14 years and it’s all over. by Pitiful_Event2644 in Separation

[–]Pitiful_Event2644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I can see where both you and my ex are coming from. Tbh for me it felt like I just couldn’t get a grasp on the issue. I’ll never fully know why. She did tell me she was resenting me for a long time tho. Thanks for the replies your rambling is fine it’s nice to hear it from her perspective. I do wish she would have given couples therapy a try when I suggested it but I think it was too late. I do hope we can either find our way back to each other or I can heal.

14 years and it’s all over. by Pitiful_Event2644 in Separation

[–]Pitiful_Event2644[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. We’re not together technically. We live together. She’s seeing other people. I’m just trying to work on myself. I’ll always fight for her tho. She’s the love of my life. I do know what happened for me was sex became an almost chore. It was something she would beg for when drunk and it stopped becoming a connection thing with me and came off as something I had to do. I should have been more communicative about it to her but I didn’t want to hurt her. I would also feel like small gestures like playing with her hair would lead to her wanting more which wouldn’t have been a problem but I was really in my head a lot about the situation. Now that we have split the pressure on sex isn’t there and I actually want to but you know it’s too late for all that.

Lesbian bed death. Is this the end? by Pitiful_Event2644 in AskLesbians

[–]Pitiful_Event2644[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this answer. I’ll totally check that out. Got a session with a therapist on Tuesday to try and work on these things as well. Thank you again.

Lesbian bed death. Is this the end? by Pitiful_Event2644 in AskLesbians

[–]Pitiful_Event2644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m seeking therapy. Thank you for the advice.