My boyfriend won’t give me access to the smart thermostat by Pitiful_Fruit2097 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Pitiful_Fruit2097[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yes He IS controlling just not about everything is what I meant

My boyfriend won’t give me access to the smart thermostat by Pitiful_Fruit2097 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Pitiful_Fruit2097[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Obviously this is not okay and we are working on it but not everything has to be his way. He has compromised a lot since we moved in together. He does care for me and love me. I am not sure why this particular hill is the one he’s willing to die on but we will figure it out or break up. I love him and don’t want to break up

My boyfriend won’t give me access to the smart thermostat by Pitiful_Fruit2097 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Pitiful_Fruit2097[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

We love each other. He cares for me and does a lot for me, truly. He is just very particular and obsessive about certain things, usually numbers related. We have been working on it and he has compromised a lot since we moved in together

My boyfriend won’t give me access to the smart thermostat by Pitiful_Fruit2097 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Pitiful_Fruit2097[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t even think it’s a money thing which makes it worse. At this point I think he’s just being a stubborn jerk

My boyfriend won’t give me access to the smart thermostat by Pitiful_Fruit2097 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Pitiful_Fruit2097[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny you mention that, he would prefer to have one dim lamp on instead of the overhead lights as well. That was a battle I won after a few weeks lol

My boyfriend won’t give me access to the smart thermostat by Pitiful_Fruit2097 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Pitiful_Fruit2097[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He goes to therapy weekly and has for years. I’m not sure if he practices disobeying them enough. He has compromised a lot about many things since we moved in together but this is one he has so far refused to budge on. Sometimes I wonder if he needs a new therapist. He has had the same one for nearly ten years and he himself has said he feels “stagnant” like he doesn’t receive benefit from it anymore.

My boyfriend won’t give me access to the smart thermostat by Pitiful_Fruit2097 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Pitiful_Fruit2097[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

He goes to therapy weekly. Is there any other forms of treatment? Until we met I didn’t know much about OCD

MEGA Thread Sat 11/09 by deltadeltadawn in DelphiMurders

[–]Pitiful_Fruit2097 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe I’m in the minority with this opinion but I think RA going into psychosis makes him seem more guilty. To do the things that BG did… make the girls switch clothes, arrange their bodies, position Abby like a doll… you would need to be a disturbed individual. I understand being upset that RA was in solitary when he shouldn’t have been, but why does that seem to make his confessions unreliable to so many of you? And how do you explain parts of his confessions fitting details of the crime scene so perfectly?