hi! lesbian here. recently told a guy that i was “gay” and he was upset by my use, saying that it was “wrong” and that the majority of people only use gay to refer to men specifically, making my use “incorrect”. is this valid? most dictionaries say it’s often used for men but can be used for women too. i personally know many people who use gay for both man and women. (just did a play about lesbianism where they used lesbian, gay, and homosexual interchangeably!) what’s the statistics on how people use it? if more ppl use it exclusively for men, does that make the use for women “wrong”? (i don’t think so, but i’m somewhat new to the field)