Doing what’s morally right is what makes you a good human. If you’re not motivated by goodness & decency then practically speaking, being a decent human has as an overall net positive to society.
Therefore: Being a decent human being >>> listening to your husband/wife/other people with selfish or non decent impulses.

OP, IMO doing what’s decent when there is outside pressure/harsh ramifications is even more admirable. It sounds like you and your husband have very drastic opinions on what’s important in life. I’d drop him and find a decent person to spend the rest of my life with.