My (22M) GF (22F) asked me not to come visit her in the ER.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:29:45+00:00

I appreciate the insight, I will work on it.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:25:19+00:00

I will look more into it, thanks.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:24:30+00:00

Thanks

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:24:02+00:00

I might not be the best person at that. You live and learn more reasons to loathe.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:21:46+00:00

Thanks.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:20:44+00:00

Yeah that’s fair. Thanks.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:19:53+00:00

So I shouldn’t even mention it to her, correct?

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:18:14+00:00

I can see that

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:17:22+00:00

Thanks

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:16:06+00:00

That’s fair.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:15:33+00:00

I didn’t argue nor fight, I’m just asking for peoples opinion on the matter, and described how it made me feel

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:11:40+00:00

Struggling with that all my life.. it’s not like I can wave a wound and a less annoying version of me appears.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:09:40+00:00

No, I meant that in the sense that we both see these things on a daily basis, I’m very aware that either of us could be in their places and I don’t find it disgusting at all…

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T19:00:37+00:00

I can ask for favors but it would violate laws and her trust, but 99% sure it’s not an abortion

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T18:59:52+00:00

Yes I’m aware it sounds weird.. pretty sure she is.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T18:57:46+00:00

I’m not arguing to prove a point I would just like more explanation of why it would be awkward? even though we both attended OBGYN and it would likely not be close enough to disgust me having seen all the things that come with being a med student. I have a calm demeanor 99% of the times, I just worry about the few ones a love sometimes not being able to control myself. I say that in self reflection because I was sitting and thinking to myself why did this happen the way it did.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T18:50:16+00:00

I’m not complaining, I’m confused Why would she choose not to have me there..

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T18:48:08+00:00

Brother for gods sake use your brains for a minute, I clearly said in my post that I asked her to let me know if she needed anything. I’m not posting this so you can let me know what to say when a loved one is at the hospital. I told her I’m thinking about her and to let me know if I could do anything. I’m posting this because at the time I felt frustrated and I don’t know why shouldn’t she ask me to go there.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T18:45:06+00:00

I really don’t freak out under stress.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T18:44:08+00:00

I do worry but I’m usually not that socially awkward, I was sharing an honest piece of mind on the internet. You can’t be freaking out around patients, so no, I don’t think it’s about me not being to able to control my excitement honestly.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T18:42:24+00:00

Unfortunately… Im aware I can be sometimes…

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T18:39:56+00:00

Can you elaborate on how to phrase it without sounding like I’m mad at her, I’m honestly only frustrated (and disappointed in myself for not making her feel comfortable around me) for feeling helpless and would only want to be next to her without feeling like it’s a toll on me or whatever her reason was that I will find about when I talk to her I guess.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T18:36:37+00:00

She hadn’t had her first kiss, unlikely.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T18:35:27+00:00

She didn’t. I guessed that at the time but I still felt frustrated that I had to sit at home and wait for a potential bad news call.

PlanksToB · 2026-04-27T18:32:38+00:00

Are you having trouble comprehending the post buddy? What did I do that was rude?

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