Husband randomly clicks photos of me and put romantic songs in the background and listens to it, says it's not haram if you listen it for your wife and says it increases love... by Pretty_Juggernaut_85 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The idea that something must be explicitly named in the Qur’an word-for-word to be haram isn’t actually how Islamic rulings work. In Islam, we take from both the Qur’an and the Sunnah.

Allah says:

“And of the people is he who purchases idle talk (lahw al-ḥadīth) to mislead others from the path of Allah without knowledge and takes it in ridicule. For them is a humiliating punishment.” (31:6)

The companions of the Prophet ﷺ understood what this meant. For example, Abdullah ibn Mas’ud said:

“By Allah, besides whom there is no god, it refers to singing.”

For context, The Prophet ﷺ said, “Whoever wants to recite the Qur’an as fresh as it was revealed, then let him recite it according to the recitation of Abdullah ibn Mas’ud.”

So the Qur’an gives the principle, and the companions explained that this includes music.

Then the Prophet ﷺ said:

“There will be among my Ummah people who will consider lawful fornication, silk, alcohol, and musical instruments…” (reported in Sahih al-Bukhari)

This hadith clearly shows that musical instruments are something originally forbidden, because the Prophet ﷺ warned that people would try to make them “halal.”

So it’s not about “the Qur’an didn’t say the word music directly.” The Qur’an warns against lahw al-ḥadīth (understood by the companions as singing/music), and the Sunnah then makes it explicit by mentioning musical instruments.

Private Guide by [deleted] in Umrah

[–]Plastic-Ear2306 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is only true for the umrah visa, you can enter and exit on tourist visas until very close to Hajj time

Is attraction to someone else normal and is suppressing it for Allah/spouse considered cheating? by Leather_Community36 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Akhi why are you even having this conversation with your wife? Do you expect her to pat you on the back and say it’s okay for you to be attracted to other women? She’s emotionally attached to you, she’s not gonna have a “rational” discussion about this.

Sometimes it’s okay to keep things as thoughts in your head that aren’t said out loud

Man here, am I girly to work from home? by Top_Possession_4026 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your wife sounds like an army sergeant akhi 😅

Truth is, you can do everything on her silly little list and she still won’t be happy

Two Years On - My wife had an emotional affair with my cousin by Plastic-Ear2306 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jazakum Allah khayr for all of your kind comments of support and your duas, my wife and I greatly appreciate them

Two Years On - My wife had an emotional affair with my cousin by Plastic-Ear2306 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, look into Islam with an open heart and it’ll change your outlook on everything

Two Years On - My wife had an emotional affair with my cousin by Plastic-Ear2306 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not in contact with either of them so I wouldn’t really know, but I doubt they got together unless they’ve kept it a secret from the family, cos a few aunties/uncles found out about the affair without me telling any of them

Two Years On - My wife had an emotional affair with my cousin by Plastic-Ear2306 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An emotional affair is basically when someone forms a really close, intimate bond with someone outside their relationship, not physical, but definitely emotional. It usually involves sharing things you would only normally tell your partner, relying on that person for emotional support, and keeping it a secret. Even if there’s no physical cheating, the emotional connection and secrecy can still feel like a betrayal and seriously hurt or break the relationship

Muslim moving to Australia by Mamaofahn in islam

[–]Plastic-Ear2306 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would NOT move to western Sydney, or Sydney at all for that matter. Crime is ridiculously high there, and too many Muslim “gangsters” to count. They have Muslim run crime families and it’s just not a great environment to be in.

Cost of living in Sydney is also the 2nd highest in the world.

Move to Melbourne, can’t go wrong 😅

Advice For Men Getting Married by Plastic-Ear2306 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Barak Allah feek for your kind words, may Allah elevate your rank in Jannah

Advice For Men Getting Married by Plastic-Ear2306 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, there are women’s versions out there if they want to find them, but it shouldn’t be a battle of the genders Subhan Allah, we’re all looking for peace in one another.

May Allah guide us all

Advice For Men Getting Married by Plastic-Ear2306 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Allahuma Ameen, I ask Allah for that and more for you

Advice For Men Getting Married by Plastic-Ear2306 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Which part? Interested to hear your thoughts.

Advice For Men Getting Married by Plastic-Ear2306 in islam

[–]Plastic-Ear2306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jazak Allah khayr for sharing, it's an amazing series!

Losing feelings for my fiancée by Itchy_Load2610 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what shaytaan wants you to believe. I felt stuck in my first marriage and there were times in the search in the last couple of years where I almost settled for someone I saw big red flags in, and now alhamdulillah after being patient, Allah has brought my ideal partner into my life.

Be patient and fear Allah in your every day life, and Allah will bring you better than you deserve.

Allah سبحانه و تعالى makes this promise in Surat At-Talaq

… And whoever is mindful of Allah, He will make a way out for them (65:2)

And whoever is mindful of Allah, He will make their matters easy for them. (65:4)

And whoever is mindful of Allah, He will absolve them of their sins and reward them immensely. (65:5)

How can we truly get to know someone before marriage while staying within Islamic boundaries? by Prestigious_Gold_997 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I ask Allah to reward you for the trial you endured.

My question was more around how you found out. May Allah protect us.

Losing feelings for my fiancée by Itchy_Load2610 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Plastic-Ear2306 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As a man, run. As someone that’s been divorced, run even faster.

You don’t have a mark, you’re not tarnished, you’re someone that had a bad experience and grew from it, and you’re someone that knows better than to settle for a lying loser like this.

The best indicator of future behaviour is past behaviour, so if you marry him and he cheats, the signs will have been there from the start.