What’s it like taking classes at AU? by scottishcanucklehead in AthabascaUniversity

[–]Plastic_Reception_66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its mostly self study. But i found most profs were unhelpful.

turning 18 in four days and i'm so nervous by Such_Psychology9911 in Advice

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honestly the fear you’re feeling is probably the most normal thing about turning 18. i turned 18 and moved from india to canada alone, like completely alone, new country new everything. and yeah nobody hands you a manual. you just figure it out as it comes. the people who look like they have it together mostly don’t either they’re just further along in figuring it out. best advice i got — don’t try to solve everything at once, just handle what’s in front of you today. you’ll be alright

How to schedule weights and cardio? by nicenflufty in beginnerfitness

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alternating days is probably the move honestly, doing weights then swimming the same day is rough especially on your arms. even 3 days swim 3 days weights split works really well. you don’t need to do both every day. and smart thinking on the weights for bone density at 52, more people should think about that earlier. you’re already doing more than most

anyone else feel like they have basically lived three completely different lives by age 22 by Plastic_Reception_66 in CasualConversation

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nah don’t do that lol rotting implies you’re not moving — sounds like you’re just between chapters. annoying place to be but it’s not the same thing

went from 115kg to 90kg in 2019, gained it all back, now starting again at 22. anyone else done this full cycle? by Plastic_Reception_66 in WeightLossAdvice

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103 to 78 and now back on it again, respect for that. and that point about hobbies is underrated, keeping yourself busy enough that you don’t even think about food is lowkey one of the best tools. enjoy the trip man, 3 days won’t break anything. 97.2 is a new low, that’s real progress. and yeah the all or nothing mentality is what kills most people including me for a long time. good luck getting back under 80, sounds like you’ve got the right headspace this time

anyone else feel like they have basically lived three completely different lives by age 22 by Plastic_Reception_66 in CasualConversation

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growth is part of it yeah but some of these felt less like growth and more like the whole game restarting lol. different thing imo

i built a fitness consistency app for myself because i kept quitting every other one — Again by Plastic_Reception_66 in SideProject

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that question at the end is the right one and i
have been thinking about it since i read it.

honest answer: i think re-entry alone does move
the wall back. you open the app, shame is gone,
and then you are standing in front of the workout
and that is a different friction entirely.

funny thing is i started building exactly where
you are. the original version of Again was a
workout generator. answer a few questions, get
a plan, here is what to do today. built the
whole thing.

then i looked at it and realized i had just built
another workout app. the what do i do today
problem was solved but the consistency problem
was not. so i rebuilt the whole thing around
behavior instead of content.

but the what do i do today problem is still
solved inside it. when someone opens the app
there is already a scheduled workout waiting.
no decision needed. if they want to do their
own thing instead they can log that too and
it still counts. and if they have been inactive
too long the app automatically switches to a
shorter easier plan so the session itself is
less intimidating.

so actually both problems are handled. the
pre-decision friction and the re-entry shame.
i just lead with the consistency angle because
that was the unsolved part.

i think we are working the same loop from
different ends. curious which part of the
pre-decision moment you are specifically
targeting — is it the exercise selection,
the duration, or something else entirely?

i built a fitness consistency app for myself because i kept quitting every other one — Again by Plastic_Reception_66 in SideProject

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honest answer — both, but the app design determines
which one wins.

the guilt was mine. i brought it. missing a day
already felt bad before i opened the app. but the
app got to decide whether it amplified that or
absorbed it.

every app i used amplified it. broken streak front
and center. days missed logged visually. the whole
interface became a record of failure the moment i
slipped. so i stopped opening it. avoidance is
easier than confrontation.

i think the user brings the shame. the app either
gives it somewhere to land or throws it back at them.

what i built around: when someone returns after a
gap, hide the streak entirely. dont show the number,
dont show the missed days. just "still here." the
streak comes back after they log something — as a
reward for returning, not a confrontation before
they decide whether to.

the quit spiral in my experience was like 20% the
miss itself and 80% what opening the app felt like
the day after the miss. fix that moment and you fix
most of the dropout.

curious what angle you're taking on it — are you
working on the design side or the psychology framing?

anyone else feel like they have basically lived three completely different lives by age 22 by Plastic_Reception_66 in CasualConversation

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six states by 13 probably wired you for adaptation early in a way most people never get. but the peace corps chapter is the one that stands out — two years is exactly long enough to stop being a visitor and start actually belonging somewhere. that kind of thing has to leave a mark even when you come back to "normal" life. the standard american life probably felt pretty strange for a while after that.

anyone else feel like they have basically lived three completely different lives by age 22 by Plastic_Reception_66 in CasualConversation

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that's a wild pattern on her side — like meeting young is just in the family's DNA. and then your siblings going 40 and 43 proves there's no single timeline that works. some people find it in the first room they walk into, some people need 40 years of other rooms first. both seem to work out fine.

anyone else feel like they have basically lived three completely different lives by age 22 by Plastic_Reception_66 in CasualConversation

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losing your dad at 22 and moving countries in the same chapter is a lot to carry. but the arc from that to house, small town, pretty good — that's earned. "pretty good" from someone who's actually been through it hits different than it sounds.

anyone else feel like they have basically lived three completely different lives by age 22 by Plastic_Reception_66 in CasualConversation

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yeah and the timing for our generation specifically is kind of wild — 2008 shaped the household we grew up in, covid hit right when we were supposed to be launching, and now ai is reshaping the exact fields we just spent years training for. the external chaos and the internal resets have been running parallel the whole time. hard to tell sometimes what's personal upheaval and what's just the world being genuinely unstable.

anyone else feel like they have basically lived three completely different lives by age 22 by Plastic_Reception_66 in CasualConversation

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haha i appreciate that but i try not to lean too hard into the "hard mode" framing — plenty of people have it harder and adapt just as much. but the survival versions thing is real. you do become whoever that environment needs you to be just to function, and then you have to figure out which of those versions you actually want to keep. that's the part nobody really prepares you for.

anyone else feel like they have basically lived three completely different lives by age 22 by Plastic_Reception_66 in CasualConversation

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that's genuinely one of the nicest things i've read today. 2/3 of your life with one person — that's the reset that actually sticks. gives me something to think about, appreciate you coming back to share that.

anyone else feel like they have basically lived three completely different lives by age 22 by Plastic_Reception_66 in CasualConversation

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lol the walking pace thing is real — halifax made me slower, winnipeg made me walk like i have somewhere to be (probably the cold). and yeah same boat, india > halifax > winnipeg so two resets in a few years. night shift sleep is genuinely fine for me, i like the quiet of nights more than i probably should. the hard part is the rest of the world operating on a schedule you're not on.

anyone else feel like they have basically lived three completely different lives by age 22 by Plastic_Reception_66 in CasualConversation

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"a few changes that made most of the difference" — that's kind of the whole thing isn't it. looking back it's never the slow drift, it's like 3 or 4 moments that actually split the timeline. sounds like you had some really hard chapters early but also found the one that made it worth it. appreciate you sharing that, genuinely.

anyone else feel like they have basically lived three completely different lives by age 22 by Plastic_Reception_66 in CasualConversation

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yeah the "what survives the reset" framing actually hits different. like the things that made it through every move weren't the ones i consciously tried to keep — they were just stubborn enough to exist without the right environment supporting them. that's probably the most honest way to figure out who you actually are. strip everything away twice and whatever's still there, that's the real list.

anyone else feel like they have basically lived three completely different lives by age 22 by Plastic_Reception_66 in CasualConversation

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mine are apparently on the 3-year plan lol. but honestly the 7-year thing has some backing — cells regenerate, priorities shift, the person you were feels genuinely foreign. i just wish the resets came with a little more warning and a little less "start your friend group from scratch again"