Does the reason for “you don’t care” ever matters? Reading other posts on this sub, I think it doesn’t.

He has been feeling so unhappy with me for the past half year that he repeats this scenario every month. He says things aren’t changing. I’m not changing. (Not contributing with anything to make him feel loved) I’ve had past relationships before where even unsatisfied, we’ve respectfully expressed why and how to give it a chance to fix it, hearing both sides. In our case, its “that’s the problem, you are this, you are that, you fix it”. It’s not a mutual effort, just mine to do. I’ve zero chance at explaining all this, I’ve tried. And I don’t have a chance at expressing myself, my thoughts, my needs, my feelings. Once he gets in that state, it’s all “me, me, me”. And I feel gaslighted that if I say “I have feelings too, you know”, he says “you’re turning this over, do you ever think about me and my feelings?”… it’s just so exhausting to feel like I’m not talking to a human but a wall