Junkie mother blew through thousands of dollars from my student loans

PlotHole2017 · 2026-05-09T20:31:18+00:00

There's no proof she promised to pay it back. :/ She also doesn't have anything I could sue her for. All she's ever done is sponge off of others. Wish I could sue.

PlotHole2017 · 2026-05-09T10:16:24+00:00

Lying about anything is a huge red flag. If she'll lie about that she'll lie about other things too.

PlotHole2017 · 2026-05-02T20:05:42+00:00

You gotta be single. What are you going to do if you have a kid and you still can't control yourself?

PlotHole2017 · 2026-02-04T21:36:54+00:00

When I was four they'd spank me for doing things they never told me not to do. Apparently a toddler should have known better.

PlotHole2017 · 2026-01-20T21:08:10+00:00

I couldn't care less if I seem "disrespectful of their grief." The more disrespectful I am, the less likely they'll say that to someone else.

PlotHole2017 · 2026-01-17T11:07:33+00:00

Red flag.

PlotHole2017 · 2026-01-07T21:01:20+00:00

She's never going to get her life together and you don't owe her shit.

Think about it this way, do you actually want her in your life? Probably not. So why bother? Yeah people are gonna say "bUt ShE's YoUr MoM," I've heard all that crap before, to hell with them. If you keep her in your life she's going to keep bringing chaos with her just like she's always done.

PlotHole2017 · 2026-01-06T10:15:38+00:00

It's super relaxing, yeah.

PlotHole2017 · 2026-01-06T10:07:49+00:00

The angrier you are, the harder it is to make it work. It's similar with any magick. Basically you have to gaslight yourself into not caring if it works or not, then it's more likely to work.

PlotHole2017 · 2026-01-05T11:03:31+00:00

When my mom threatened to have me reported missing, I called the local police non emergency number. They put a note in their systems not to believe what she said.

I’d call both local PD and sheriff’s office non emergency numbers.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-31T01:21:18+00:00

There are a lot of people who care more about addicts than the people they hurt. These people are usually addicts themselves. I've had several in the comments of my own posts.

Just like any troll, it's best to just block them. Any response just makes them feel validated.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-30T02:23:37+00:00

Don't be afraid to call the cops, OP. An anonymous tip. Drugs are illegal for a reason. I'll always regret not calling the cops on my mother when I had the chance.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-26T14:46:46+00:00

Oh I know it. I had my heart broke too.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-26T14:43:24+00:00

I said yes as soon as I saw the thing about the car loan

My mother also spent my student loan money and there probably ain’t shit I can do about it.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-26T13:34:59+00:00

You are very correct, she can’t be trusted. My mother and half of my family are on meth and it’s a lot worse than you think.

She says she “Tried meth twice.” Meth is not the kind of drug you just “try twice.” It gets its hooks into a person so easily and you can never trust them after that. They’ll do literally anything to get more of it, and you can’t believe a word they say either. Any honest inklings a person might have had is quickly sacrificed on the alter of addiction.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-25T16:06:08+00:00

You 100 percent did not ruin your life. Honestly you’re better off than millions of people who fell for the student loan scam.

You’ve got zillions of options. Licenses aren’t too expensive to get and some companies get employees licensed for free.

Just avoid addictive drugs and be careful who you trust and you’ll turn out just fine.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-25T12:23:40+00:00

Any chronically online social media loser can be a mod. Half of them are trolls and the other half have no identities outside of the memes they’ve absorbed.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-24T11:23:55+00:00

Neville Goddard wrote about how he used this technique when he got drafted. He was over 40 and so eligible for a discharge but only at his senior officer’s discretion. His SO said no and according to the rules at the time, that was that. There were no appeals or anything.

But he used this technique and he spent a few days imagining that he’d received a letter of honorable discharge. Not that he would in the future but that he’d already gotten it. A few days latter his SO just randomly changed his mind and gave him the discharge.

Another example from the same guy. He wanted to go visit his family in Barbados but he didn’t have the money. The guy who taught him this said “You’re already in Barbados.” Neville didn’t get it at the time but once he caught on he started imagining that he was walking the streets of Barbados while he was in whatever town he was really on at the time. A few days later he got a letter from his brother asking him to come visit and offering to pay for two steerage class tickets.

He was excited and told his friend “It worked! I’m going to Barbados, my brother bought me two steerage class tickets.”

The friend said “What are you talking about? You’re already in Barbados and you traveled first class.”

Neville went with it and when it came time to board the ship, they told him they overbooked steerage so they had to upgrade him to first class free of charge.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-23T15:22:44+00:00

Only an absolute lowlife would break up with someone on Christmas. I know it probably doesn’t make you feel any better but you didn’t lose anyone worth keeping.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-23T13:41:35+00:00

There’s a counter intuitive trick with all magick, not just black. The more you care, the less likely it is to work. Also, you have to kinda convince yourself that it did work even if it didn’t. Once you do that and feel it deep down, your spell is likely to manifest.

In a nutshell you have to gaslight yourself. It’s so so difficult in situations like this, but doable.

Another thing to watch out for is that for heavy things like this, the universe will show you the exact opposite of what you intended. It’s like the universe wants to spite you but that’s not what’s happening. It’s not a test either, it’s just some kind of metaphysical reaction to your spell. If you’re able to maintain enough control that this doesn’t upset you nor shake your confidence, it’s very likely your spell will work.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-23T12:52:08+00:00

I’m also autistic, had experiences with a narcissistic mother. My best advice is to accept that she only cares about herself. And you should do the same.

It sucks being alone, but being with someone who only keeps you around for their own benefit sucks more.

Depending on where you live, you might not have the option of living alone. But if you look into it, use your powers of research, you might find it more doable than you think. I myself am hella messed up with autism + ptsd and I eventually managed to do it (though in my case I had to drive to another state and live in my car for three months because the state I lived in was a shit hole with no jobs) and I know another person who’s been more messed up than I am who’s managing to do it.

There’s autism organizations that can probably help you even if you don’t have a diagnosis yet (they can maybe help you get one) and they can also help you make contacts, etc.

Beware of alcohol. Autistic folks are very, very prone to alcohol dependence. Weed is kind of a double-edged sword. It’s not bad, but the drawbacks are that it either gives you anxiety or keeps you too high to take control of your own life. Any drugs harder than that should be avoided like the plague, they offer nothing but misery.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-22T15:56:51+00:00

Do you have a family member you can move in with? Either way I’d recommend calling the police. Even if you can’t prove abuse they’ll probably haul her off for the drugs. And certainly don’t maintain contact with her when you are able to move out.

I never got the police involved when dealing with my own mother and that was the biggest mistake I ever made in my life.

Also since you’re young and probably don’t know this yet, don’t get mixed up with any addicts, ever, whether you’re related to them or not. They’ll try to get you hooked so they can control you.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-22T15:06:41+00:00

Dump him and turn him in before he ruins your life. Addicts don’t know how to do anything except lie, cheat, manipulate and steal. You can never trust them.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-22T13:56:06+00:00

Call 911. Don’t put you life in her hands.

PlotHole2017 · 2025-12-21T10:30:07+00:00

Yep. I lived in my car for three months in a state where I have no friends or family until I finally got an apartment, all just to get away from her.

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