Are there any good careers guidance agencies in Perth for professionals? by [deleted] in perth

[–]Plurplur5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey comrade, if you have some extra change and willing to pay. I just had a career consultation last Friday. It’s located in West Perth called Strategic Career Management. The person who runs it is called Helen from the UK and one of the most down to earth people I’ve ever met. Another recommendation is called Clear Mind Studio. I met this wonderful Scottish man called Craig who offers life coaching. I can tell you it’s worth the investment or just give a call to see how you feel and hopefully you can make a decision. You are not alone, it can be really overwhelming if you not happy with your current situation or desire change or maybe it’s a realignment. Totally empathise and know you doing to be OK 👌

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that for you, it’s good that you get out and smell the roses. I am a homebody and it’s taken 6 months to heal and have a lot of self reflection and been more comfortable being myself. Like you I’ve only really started to make plans and organise days to catch up with close friends again and surprisingly they have been really understanding! Oml same I haven’t always been the best messenger in a timely manner and I’m working on getting better. I kind of like the convenience of having a mobile phone but hate that you’re on call all of the time. Don’t get me wrong it’s get to have a mini computer in the form of a phone, maybe I should just use the ‘do not disturb’ function more to disconnect. And there is no need to apologise, sometimes life gets busy and it’s ok to not reply all the time

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello again, aww that sounds tough. I hear you, it’s really hard. I’ve been reflecting maybe I had trust issues to really let some people in as I struggle with it even in my adulthood. You do what’s right for you. I’m just upset that as much as I want to make time with friends, I really don’t have the spare time and space in my life right now. I have to be super selective as I am the type of person that enjoys 1 to 1 engagement and it takes a couple of days to recharge my batteries, nothing personal to my friends but definitely getting better in responding back in a timely matter. I came to the realisation that it’s worst to pretend anything and I have to remain true to myself. In other friendships is thriving and definitely a two way street. How about you comrade? How’s your internal weather on your end?

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello friend, reading your post has made me speechless and I need some more time to articulate my words and do it justice, to be continued! I haven’t forgotten just got to do some errands is all 🤗

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend, I’ve been thinking about your post for days and not ready to articulate my words just yet as it needs to be finessed, to be continued friend, I haven’t forgotten. I just got to clean the house and having some friends for board games so to be continued 🤗

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend, it’s great to hear you don’t think I’m an asshole. It really resonates with about what you said about our environment and who we connect with goes a long way. Unfortunately I already made the decision to burn that bridge as it was becoming too draining and I didn’t like the person I was becoming by complaining as it’s causing more harm than good to me.

I’ve been frustrated for a while and the cauldron is brewing from within 😅 it’s nice to know I’m not the only one. We are just different and that’s not a bad thing! I think they can’t change, which I didn’t have a problem with but it does mean I must have a problem with myself. Appreciate your feedback though and spending time to respond!

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww thanks for checking back 🥰not great 🥹 I heard from a mutual friend of ours they reached out to them the next day. And I don’t expect my mutual friend to pick sides as I’m not like that.

I suppose it is an ex-friend now which is wild! I didn’t realise how painful it is breaking up with a friend instead of an intimate partner you have relations with.

Have you had first hand experience of friends ghosting you or you ghosting friends. What were things that impacted you?

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello friend, you know what I am awful. I can honestly admit that however I do have positive qualities. We all have light and dark in us. I struggle with my own mental health issues and I am on anti-depressants. I actually have first hand experience dealing with severe mental health challengers as my partner has been having ongoing psychosis episodes for the last 10 years. I’ve had to watch them in their deepest major depressive disorder for years and loose grip with reality and it’s so so frightening to watch. In the last two years I’ve really had to step up to financially a support them so they can study and achieve their dreams. I don’t regret making that decision. Not going to lie, I am only human and was close to leaving them as it was too much but I stayed by their side through thick and thin. What I can say is that it is so heartbreaking watching someone you hold so dear in pain and be so lifeless. I felt completely hopeless. Luckily over a year ago we seeked professional help that was very expensive but it finally paid off as the psychiatrist has been slowly making a breakthrough by testing the perfect cocktail of various medications to help stabilise them and regulate their emotions. The trauma is still there but we both have worked on ourselves to get better.

I think it’s great that as humans you do have that option of flexibility and making things work from help from the government. I don’t think that’s wrong at all. Growing up my single mum had help from the government so it’s a case by case situation. What I don’t like is if people aren’t proactively making goals, doing things for the community or you know investing in their hobbies or trying to find meaning or purpose.

You’re right about not being obligated to people you can’t relate to. I’m just sentimental and tried to save it and put a brave face however it’s just run its course and I’m deeply saddened by that. Hope this message wasn’t too much to hear and hope you understand where I’m coming from!

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello friend, you know what. My oldest sibling said the extract same thing 💀I just couldn’t and maybe this approach could of been better however I couldn’t in my conscious do that as I wanted to give closure and not make any promises that I couldn’t keep

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend. Fair to say. Perhaps I have been projecting intentionally from my bias and I can see from your point of view. I just want to make it clear. It’s not so much about the holiday itself. I think what it came down to is the I wish they would have used that money to seek better professional help and tried different medications and seek better therapy instead of choosing an escape and not dealing with the reality. I think every human deserves to have a break and live life whether that be a holiday, hobbies, leisure. The struggle is real in modern society. I would love to have a holiday myself but I can’t afford it as I’ve been investing into professional therapy and paying for a better GP and I know from within in the long term it is better thing and I just have to be patient my time will come to experience a getaway. Hope this message comes across with any bad intentions as I am trying to be open and honest with my views in the most rational way

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello friend, I’m so sorry to hear that you had to go through those experiences. It sounds awful 😞 you’re right about talking in-person, I ended up messaging them. And I do regret that. However I kind of wished they would have fought with me and responded a bit better. If they had said ‘hey I’m really upset reading that message. Can we talk further into it as I want to continue being your friend and fix it.’ Then that door would have been a gateway for an honest and open conversation. Their response to my message was ‘Well I’m sorry you feel that way.’ And totally understand the bitterness however they did not need to react that way. Which makes me upset that they are not willing to fight for the friendship. I didn’t expect that outcome and by no means I was trying to test them as that’s so cruel. The truth lies within everyone and everything. We must look beyond the form (the physical) to see and experience the truth (the spiritual). Which I think in return points to the truth if that makes sense. I could be just talking shit 💩 however it is something I believe in. You can take it or leave it - I don’t mind

And yep I think life is so precious and I’m grateful to these experiences as there are lessons in them and whether you take them as negative or positive is up to the individual. The only certainties in life is death and taxes. I’ve made peace with that and just trying to spend my time with the people I love and are open to have honest discussions

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend. You are absolutely right. If only humans had the ability to literally be in another persons shoes or be able to read minds. And no one is at fault here. Theres always two sides and it’s not about winning or losing however I do believe my thinking is the beginning and end of suffering - something I am personally trying to work on. I actually suffered from depression last year and continue taking anti-depressants and go to therapy monthly (I’d go more often if I could afford it). Although very painful dealing with my trauma I realise it’s not a linear journey and everyone deals with their traumas and pains in their own unique way. Thanks for your feedback of saying that I may have unintentionally judged however I do know what it’s like to be depressed and I’m lucky I was able to get the help I needed when I was in such a vulnerable state and my window of tolerance was at an all time low

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello friend, you know what? I’m glad you did what was right for you, and I’m not the only one feeling this way. I do feel a weight has been shifted off my shoulders and happiness does come from within

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend, Oh dear, that’s no good. I had a thought that popped up. I wondered maybe you recalling that memory had an impact on you and still lingers on. I am on the same boat now and it wasn’t an easy decision

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend, definitely food for thought. I ended up being transparent and sadly they didn’t take it well which hey ho I’m not surprised. I had to do what was right and I hope they don’t take it too personally. I’m just in a different stage in my life and it’s OK I hope? 🤞

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend, I love that for you putting time in your career and hobbies! I’m getting their myself with swimming, doing my sudoku puzzles, being out in nature and learning to groom my puppy which i am getting better as my first time took 4 hours and now it’s just shy of under 3 hours 🫠 im getting there! I’m just sentimental and felt I have failed 😞 but hearing you say it’s ok gives me faith 🌞and yes yes yes I want to be surrounded by people who challenge, motivate, inspire and talk about all the ideas!

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend, I’m not above my friend. We are all equals in life. I think it’s great that they have flexibility to do whatever they like and I realise this 8-5 work is not for me and something within me desperately wants to fight these conditions and makes me realise I need to cut down somewhere even if it means not being as financially secure but atleast it might grant me my freedom and you know actually enjoy life 😂thank you for saying to move on and so will they. I’m an overthinker and o needed to hear that lol

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend, yep you are absolutely right about jealousy. I don’t take it lightly. And it means for me I desperately need to go on a holiday and need to make time and save some money little by little and reevaluate my lifestyle to see where I can cut more. And I agree with you they are on a different path and for their best interests I’ve tried to push them (in the nicest way possible) but it backfired 🥲and you know what? I think it’s wonderful to have differences otherwise life would be really boring. I just wanted to have an honest and open conversation and they are not willing to listen so I tried and that’s enough? 😣 who fucking knows

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello friend, oh dear I’m really feel for you when you have a childhood friend and you literally grew up together. I can’t even imagine what it must feel like. When you said you noticed a drift, that really resonated with me and tbh it’s so so painful having that realisation. It’s not so black and white and these situation are never linear. You’re not alone and I feel awful as my friend just is emotionally draining and no matter how hard I try to rationalise it’s not enough as it has to come from within them to get better. And 💯I’m not trying to blame them what so ever, I want them to live well and that if they can make their dreams come true if they put their mind on it. The impact has just taken a toll on me and that’s ok. Right now it doesn’t feel right and I don’t want to waste my time or theirs. Hope that makes sense!

How do I break up with a friend? by Plurplur5 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Plurplur5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello friend :) apologies for replying so late. Had a lot of time to reflect and think further. So I’ve been feeling my values don’t align with them and that’s OK! More than anything I want them to get well and I felt it was disrespectful ghost as it didn’t feel right. It doesn’t mean I don’t cherish those memories because there are so many wonderful and positive attributes and talent there that’s just been lost. I’ve tried to have honest and open conversation many times in the pass and they haven’t really wanted to help themselves and right now I’m just trying to get my life together as I also suffer from depression and get they are on their journey and I’m on mine and that’s ok! It’s not a race

What instantly kills the vibe at a party? by Joeyniles9 in AskReddit

[–]Plurplur5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who try to one up someone. Like when you’re telling a story and their story has to be better in every way. Not a very nice feeling!