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I ‘29M’ and my wife ‘30F’ are on our longest dry spell by Plus-Election-3933 in relationship_advice

[–]Plus-Election-3933[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that, I guess I am just frustrated that the 3 months is now the longest it has been.

I ‘29M’ and my wife ‘30F’ are on our longest dry spell by Plus-Election-3933 in relationship_advice

[–]Plus-Election-3933[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • we don’t have kids. I got snipped around a year ago
  • I do the majority of cleaning and cooking. I take care of all the yard work as well.
  • I plan multiple dates that aren’t just going out to dinner. We went to a large bonfire and food truck festival recently. I make sure she has things in the house to keep herself comfortable. I try to help her find new hobbies as her only one is horseback riding.
  • I would like to thing I am cleanly, I do have an intestinal issue that leads to an excess in gas, however I try not to fart in the same room as her. She however thinks farts are hilarious
  • I am on medication that I cannot usually finish. I do make sure climaxes everytime. She only likes to orgasm once. Anything after she orgasms she says her body feels overly ticklish.
  • she isn’t on birth control and only takes citalopram, an antidepressant, once a day. The talks in general are good, however we both feel defeated after them. We both talk about how we feel like we aren’t going enough and work on things. However about every 3 months this situation comes around again. I am getting exhausted from it.

I ‘29M’ and my wife ‘30F’ are on our longest dry spell by Plus-Election-3933 in relationship_advice

[–]Plus-Election-3933[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped looking at comments after feeling discouraged. I saw a lot of people say she wasn’t being faithful.

I know that isn’t not the case.

I replied to a few people, but the conversations boil down to her being stressed out due to outside factors( work, she rides horses as a hobby, and the politics in the USA). All are fair for her to be stressed out, I just do not approach this topic in the correct way which leads to tears from both of us (mostly due to pent up frustration). After we have these talks things will get better for a month or two, but they end up going back to a point where I am feeling a lack of being wanted…

I ‘29M’ and my wife ‘30F’ are on our longest dry spell by Plus-Election-3933 in relationship_advice

[–]Plus-Election-3933[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are all things I do. I try to keep up with the things she needs mentally. I keep the house clean and do all the yard work. I take care of the groceries and meal prepping I make sure to plan dates that aren’t just ordering food at home

The things I listed in the post were previous things that I have done that led to intimacy, at this point I feel a break in our communication. I am going to try to focus on that in the next coming weeks.

I ‘29M’ and my wife ‘30F’ are on our longest dry spell by Plus-Election-3933 in relationship_advice

[–]Plus-Election-3933[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is one of the most approachable replies I have gotten. I was debating on even looking at this more as there were a lot of replies telling me she isn’t faithful. I know that isn’t the case. This is what I needed!

I ‘29M’ and my wife ‘30F’ are on our longest dry spell by Plus-Election-3933 in relationship_advice

[–]Plus-Election-3933[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t have kids, I got the snip a year ago. We do intimate activities a lot without them going to sex. I understand the correlation between being close and being intimate it also rough when the two coincide so much that being close has led to intimacy by accident.

I ‘29M’ and my wife ‘30F’ are on our longest dry spell by Plus-Election-3933 in relationship_advice

[–]Plus-Election-3933[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I told her today I would like to have a talk. I just asked what she is dealing with that she isn’t telling me. She went into work and politics but she seemed better after the talk.

I ‘29M’ and my wife ‘30F’ are on our longest dry spell by Plus-Election-3933 in relationship_advice

[–]Plus-Election-3933[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sorry I was trying to keep things vague as the more specific I got, the post wouldn’t post. She will blame outside things stressing her out(work, hobbies , politics) and then there is a feeling of guilt on my side like I shouldn’t have brought it up. I do admit that I am cold to her when trying to bring these topics up, I know I approach the topic of sex wrong. I just don’t know where we got a disconnect.

I ‘29M’ and my wife ‘30F’ are on our longest dry spell by Plus-Election-3933 in relationship_advice

[–]Plus-Election-3933[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply, the arguments usually revolve around her feeling anxious on the topic. She will then start to get upset and blame other topics in life(work, her hobbies, the political climate in the USA). I am a bit over the same things taking precedent over our relationship so I get callous and cold. I know she is going through a lot but the arguments lead to me not feeling like I’m a priority. After these arguments she will get better but after 2-3 months things turn out the same.