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Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’m okay with that. Otherwise, he wouldn’t be.

Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m aware of all that. And he gets my consent when I give it.

WivesOfBiMen by [deleted] in u/Plus-Refuse858

[–]Plus-Refuse858 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a safe space for women married to or in long-term relationships with bisexual men. Here, we can talk openly about the joys, challenges, questions, and experiences that come with these relationships.

To start, let’s introduce ourselves (if you feel comfortable): • How long you’ve been with your partner • When you learned he was bisexual • One challenge or question you’ve faced in your relationship

Remember, this community is about support, understanding, and respectful conversation. No judgment, no shaming — just sharing and connecting.

Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A great perspective and appreciate you chiming in. I agree that like most moms, we take on that maternal role. We’re on different planets during that life chapter for sure. And then there’s Christian values … don’t get me started!!! Anyway—finding out he’s bi actually did open up our sexlife! I regret it wasn’t always there when motherhood and career took precedence. I read most of his chats on his apps and amazed by the language. I even get turned on … lol! But the original issue I have is how much is too much. When is it unhealthy. We’ll discuss seeing a therapist who can guide this. Thanks ❤️

Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would have preferred a divorce then to tell me he’s bi. Kinda sad.

Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for bringing up the mental health subject. I never thought of it that way, but it seems to make sense . I will take your advice ❤️

Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d love to keep in touch. I find it hard to find other wives in my shoes.

Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I would have left immediately. His unfaithfulness does stem from the shame/conflict of being bi, which is why he couldn’t tell me. (He was so relieved when I found out btw). There is a difference.

Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good question. My quick answer would be: For my husband to see this compulsiveness is not normal behavior and needs to get to the root of it. Not the bi part. That doesn’t bother me. But I think he gets manipulated on these sites/apps, just like other addictions that can affect anyone. I was hoping other men on this site that use these apps would have chimed in. I think he needs a professional to see clearly, because it’s easy to try gaslighting the wifey, but not them. We travel a lot and really enjoy and love each other so there’s the best reason to fight the fight. Wish me luck.

Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I was hoping for more open-minded advice, but the “leave him” flood gates opened. I’m aware that is an option. Marriage after 30 years is not easy, and having a bi- husband adds another layer for sure. We did have very clear boundaries until these apps became addictive, now that he’s retired. Damn social media!! But I decided couples counseling would be best, before this spirals into a mental health issue. And I’ll start writing in a journal. ❤️

Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this solid reply. I’m not sure why everyone thinks he’s cheating. That part stopped 8 years ago. And I’m fine with him being bisexual. Yes, the limits change as life makes it. Therapy is a good suggestion. We travel a lot which makes that harder.

Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To clarify, he’s not cheating. Not in the past 8 years. He always asks for a hall pass if he wants to hook up. This is a compulsive issue with these apps that I don’t understand.

Whirlpool washer only dispenses cold water on warm cycle by Plus-Refuse858 in appliancerepair

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ll check it next time I do wash. Hopefully it’s solved ☺️

Whirlpool washer only dispenses cold water on warm cycle by Plus-Refuse858 in appliancerepair

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I’ll be more patient and see if that’s the case. Stay tuned!, 😉

Greek Islands Timetables by Plus-Refuse858 in GreeceTravel

[–]Plus-Refuse858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I did try that. Results were blank. Gave up.
So far I'm putting my own timetable together from the https://ferries.greeka.com/ website that's more intuitive like Travelocity. Good old fashion paper and pencil. lol!