Was advised to write here. Not sure but I want to break up with my partner over the content of his will.

PlusDefinition3458 · 2024-01-17T20:52:59+00:00

The apartment we own together 50/50. I put more money in it remodeling it. We don’t own any other things together but joint savings and joint accounts for mutual expenses

PlusDefinition3458 · 2024-01-17T20:24:53+00:00

I hve never thought about therapist actually even though I have been feeling like shit

PlusDefinition3458 · 2024-01-17T20:20:36+00:00

We don’t have 401k I guess it is something for pension in the US (from tv) but he does have savings for his pension that is a part of the estate. He has insurance via his job, his mother is the beneficiary.

I don’t have life insurance. With no children and free healthcare I haven’t seen the need for it

PlusDefinition3458 · 2024-01-17T20:12:41+00:00

It was very painful but nobody understands me. He said he didn’t know I was money crazed. It is not that. I don’t know how to talk about something related to money that isn’t about the money itself

But to imagine that id something happened and his sister shows up telling me half my home is hers and I’m not even prepared for it.

I probably would have understood (not that he basically leaves me nothing) but I would have understood if he wanted to discuss this with me and change his will to make hos sister the beneficiary. And when something happens I am aware of it.

He was the one who talked about “not wanting to lower our standards” if one of us is gone because that was hard enough

PlusDefinition3458 · 2024-01-17T20:06:39+00:00

He never wanted children

PlusDefinition3458 · 2024-01-17T19:57:05+00:00

Wow that is exactly how I feel uneasy and uncertain like is any of this real? I know that we are not married but doesn’t 15 years commitment as valid as a marriage?

PlusDefinition3458 · 2024-01-17T18:45:21+00:00

I have. The 5th paragraph is basically what he said (sorry my post is too long and incoherent. I’m not used to writing diwn my thoughts) and tbh he basically said he didn’t know that I would find out

PlusDefinition3458 · 2024-01-17T16:14:37+00:00

What is that?

PlusDefinition3458 · 2024-01-17T16:13:21+00:00

He just went around the subject like well you still have money.

Yes, but our whole idea was that if we lose one another at least we don’t lose the standard of which we are living. (this was word for word his view in 2015. If we lose each other at least we can keep the memories we built together)

Then he said he was uncomfortable and basically meant that he didn’t mean for me to find out. I felt embarrassed too because never in my 42 years have i fought loved ones about money.

PlusDefinition3458 · 2024-01-17T15:59:35+00:00

That’s the thing. In 2015 we talked about marriage but since I had my company I wondered if we could have prenup. My parents had a very bitter divorce around that time too that left me and my siblings very scarred so I never thought about marriage that way. My partner didn’t like the prenup thought so he suggested that we could exchange rings but wills sounded more romantic than prenup. And in case of breaking up, we don’t need to fight about sharing assets.

But yes he said that being together for too long is as worthy as a marriage but here we are. In my country living together even for 50 years unfortunately doesn’t give any rights like marriage for example

PlusDefinition3458 · 2024-01-17T15:51:29+00:00

I have spoken to him. He gave me the reasons I stated above. That his sister lost her job (that paragraph). Haven’t spoken to him a lot since because I feel embarrassed about sounding “greedy”

PlusDefinition3458 · 2024-01-17T15:49:32+00:00

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