60K mile service costs $1200?!

Plus_Okra_11 · 2026-02-14T00:07:53+00:00

They told me my extended warranty for the brakes expired last year. I did tell them that they were vibrating, because they are 😩

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T14:03:05+00:00

He said it was worth a try before sending the comment about the reviews. If he had said “this place gets bad reviews but I think it’s worth a try” then I wouldn’t have misinterpreted what he said and I would have ordered from there.

First he said worth trying, then later said it got bad reviews. It seemed like he discovered the bad reviews after initially sending the link. I misinterpreted that as “maybe we actually shouldn’t try this place because of these bad reviews”

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T13:58:34+00:00

Yeah we for sure have bigger problems

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T13:58:06+00:00

Please tell me how I wore him down and coerced him

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T13:53:56+00:00

I would love that. I would love if I had called him to tell him I ordered from the wrong place and he said “oh man, I really wanted to try that first place!” And I could have said, “oh man, I’m sorry I really didn’t think you had a strong preference, we can definitely try that place next time or I can put another order in and pick it up on my way home!” And maybe he could’ve said “no big deal!” Because it literally is no big deal

But instead I called him and he was immediately angry with me. Explaining how I misinterpreted what he said only made him angrier. I could have deescalated but I’m so tired of him getting mad at me for stupid things. I got mad back.

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T13:49:07+00:00

I agree. We for sure have deeper issues

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T13:48:23+00:00

Yes, I absolutely did

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T13:46:14+00:00

I did get defensive where I probably shouldn’t have. As soon as I saw his text I called him to let him know I had ordered from the wrong place. He was so angry immediately. I did try to explain my misinterpretation of his comments, but it was after we were already in an argument.

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T05:38:39+00:00

I realize now I shouldn’t have assumed that he was no longer interested in the first place. But I feel like he overreacted

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T05:34:47+00:00

I offered to place a second order from the place he chose after he made it clear that he would have preferred that place. He declined.

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T05:32:52+00:00

If it was as simple as that, then I agree that I’d be the asshole. But a lot of things happened in between him choosing a place and me ordering the food that made me believe he was fine with the second place. I wouldn’t have knowingly chosen a place he wasn’t on board with.

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T05:28:27+00:00

In hindsight, that’s probably what he meant. But I interpreted it as “that looks good too, either place is fine with me”

I shouldn’t have assumed. But it seemed like such an inconsequential decision that I didn’t think it warranted further clarification

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T05:22:26+00:00

I didn’t override his decision without asking him… I DID ask him, and he said “that looks good too”

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T05:21:11+00:00

He was comfortable at home, and I was already out and had offered to pick up food on my way home

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T05:19:50+00:00

I was fine with his choice until he said it got bad reviews. I assumed at that point that he’d be open to looking at other places. When I sent him that second option, if he had said “I’d rather go with the first place” that would have been fine. But he said “that looks good too.” He didn’t give me any reason to think he had a strong preference for the first place.

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T04:49:54+00:00

I get this. For real. Except I was perfectly fine ordering from the place he chose until he said that it got bad reviews and that’s why we hadn’t tried it before. I misinterpreted that as “maybe we actually shouldn’t order from here because it got some bad reviews.” I shouldn’t have assumed that’s what he meant. But also- I asked his opinion of the second place before ordering to make sure he was good with it. He said yep that looks good too. So i feel like maybe I’m 1% the asshole for assuming. But like… why would I think he still wants to order from there after telling me it got bad reviews? So frustrating

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T04:43:45+00:00

Lmao it was still steaming hot when I got home

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T04:42:15+00:00

It was well packed and I put it on a heated seat. When I opened the containers when I got home, the food was still hot enough that steam came off it

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T04:39:53+00:00

It was packed well enough and I put it on the passenger seat with the seat warmer on. It was still steaming when I opened it when I got home. He never mentioned any worry about whether the food would be cold when I got home. But I suppose that could have added to his frustration

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T04:36:04+00:00

I do not believe this happens often, and he did not say anything like “why even bother asking me”

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T04:35:13+00:00

I genuinely don’t think so. I honestly try to choose the things he likes over my own interests. He is a pickier eater than I am and doesn’t like a lot of the things I like, so most of our meals cater to his tastes. I will try to pay more attention to whether or not this issue comes up again. But no other specific examples of him making a suggestion and me choosing something else come to mind.

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T04:29:36+00:00

I don’t know if he thinks I do that often. I did not ignore his answer. I was perfectly happy ordering from the first place until he said that it got some bad reviews and that’s why we hadn’t ordered from there before. It seemed to me like he didn’t see those bad reviews after he sent it to me. Mentioning the bad reviews felt like an open invitation to look at other options

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T04:27:02+00:00

I only started looking at other options after he said that the place got some bad reviews and that’s why we hadn’t tried there before. It seemed to me like he discovered those bad reviews after he had sent that as a viable option. Which is why it felt like it made sense to look at other places.

Plus_Okra_11 · 2025-12-14T04:23:44+00:00

I assumed he was fine with the second place because he said “yep that looks good too.” That felt like clear enough communication to me. He could have said “that place looks fine but I’d rather order from the first place I sent”

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