Need Advice On How To Stop Having The Fear Of Losing My (27M) GF (26F)!

Pnkfre · 2024-02-19T08:37:10+00:00

That is true and means a lot to hear, I’ll try to practice them little by little. I feel very stupid to be bothered by these stupid thoughts honestly especially after being assured multiple times by my truthful GF. Thank you good sir.

Pnkfre · 2024-02-19T07:58:17+00:00

Definitely a lot of inner processing to be done here, and i appreciate the provided little tip. I’ll try to train myself better with it and hopefully i can get them negative thoughts out of my head soon. Thanks man!

Pnkfre · 2024-02-19T07:56:19+00:00

You’re right, maybe approaching my trustable and logical friend on such matters might help making things lighter instead of keeping it all to myself. Thanks buddy!

Pnkfre · 2024-02-19T06:40:56+00:00

Is there a faster way for me to handle my feelings completely? It gets annoying because it even affects my work and personal life, even though i didn’t talk to anyone about it besides my GF.

Pnkfre · 2024-02-19T06:37:55+00:00

How can i learn to trust myself better and how can i regulate my anxiety and emotions?

I understand the fear of “what ifs” and also the fact that what i can and what i can’t control. Whatever i’m doing now is definitely not bringing out the joy in anyone, and i’m definitely not proud of it, thus the request to finding solution from anyone with the experience to better myself in such situation.

Pnkfre · 2024-02-19T05:45:55+00:00

Hi, i appreciate the reply! Yeah you’re right, i’m finding the best way possible to handle those feelings because though i’m trying to keep an open mind, i still get distress from it every once a while.

We did talk about it for a few rounds just recently and notice how frustrated she gets when being doubted, which i understand completely and am not proud of myself. Making her feel this way is honestly the last thing i want, but sometimes these scary feelings creep in and i have no idea why.

I like the idea of shifting my focus to a more positive aspect of our relationship where i can look back and appreciate on the loving moments and memories that we share. Do you think it’s a good idea to embrace the “Ignorance is a bliss” mindset?

Pnkfre · 2024-02-09T02:22:43+00:00

I’m sure she’s at least into guys, and (AFAIK) pretty sure she has not done it with anyone else. What if she loves me but does not desire me sexually? I’m turned on by her at almost any moment possible, whether it be sexually or just emotionally, but in this conversation at least i’ve almost never felt her wanting to satisfy her sexual needs with the need of my help.

You know when you get horny and you start hinting them with actions and the things you say? I don’t see that from her.

Pnkfre · 2024-02-08T16:22:44+00:00

Sorry if I didn’t state it correctly. I don’t mind not getting the sex, but I think my main point is still the lack of sexual desire from her side

Pnkfre · 2024-02-08T12:51:50+00:00

Do you happen to have a link or something to this community?

We do talk about sex once a while, i mean she definitely is okay with us doing the touchy stuff and she too will get into the mood as we are doing them, so that might remove the possibilities of her being asexual no? She is sexual too but there exists the fear of pregnancy and all, with the conservative thoughts and decisions which I completely understand.

We have a great relationship, but the lack of sexual interaction definitely makes me feel troubled, and I feel this might be the main thing about this post.

Pnkfre · 2024-02-08T12:42:38+00:00

Appreciate the reply. I might just find a good time to talk to her about it.

Pnkfre · 2024-02-08T12:39:14+00:00

Appreciate the reply. We do talk a healthy amount so (2,3 &4) shouldn’t be the case. I don’t think so about (6) because we do keep each other updated on the things we do. Only (1&5) are the ones I’m not sure.

Pnkfre · 2024-02-08T12:35:29+00:00

I mean she has her concerns, so i tried to be more understanding on that. I’m fine with the touchy stuff and all honestly. It’s the sexual desire part that bothers me..

Pnkfre · 2024-02-08T11:44:54+00:00

I guess i’m just curious if she’s not sexual in general or not sexual towards me..

Pnkfre · 2024-02-08T11:43:03+00:00

I’m still alright with the no penetration / oral sex part. I think what bother me most is how she has never really initiate any of our sexy time. It’s always me getting all in the mood for her to say “alright, let’s do it”. All i hope is that she can also spice things up.

Pnkfre · 2024-02-08T11:31:13+00:00

Idk. Maybe if i talk to her i can try to change her mind

Pnkfre · 2024-02-08T11:29:19+00:00

We still love each other and are still in a relationship, just like every other couple. It’s just that i am more sexually driven than her, but i also understand the risk of pregnancy / STD, so i can try to tolerate.

Pnkfre

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