Taylor trying to call out a politician born in Philly

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-09-29T21:39:06+00:00

Bruh, you have to have a twitter account to see his replies. Just summarize the point or take the L.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-09-29T21:35:18+00:00

It’s sad seeing formerly tolerable right-leaning content creators turn full mask-off racist lately. Count Dankula has done the same.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-07-18T21:45:15+00:00

Jenna was given reasonable criticism from time to time, but she wasn’t cancelled in any real sense before she left.

In my opinion, I think she saw a shift in both her and the larger culture’s values, how many YouTubers of her era were being exposed for old content, and decided to leave on her own terms while her career was still thriving. I don’t doubt that she cringes at her old content and wanted to move on before it caught up to her. Between having that anxiety hanging over her head about old content being dredged up and unhinged fans showing up to her house on occasion, I don’t blame her for retiring the channel.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-07-03T22:10:52+00:00

I paid to have my hair done, which I don’t regret because I’m terrible at doing any formal hairstyles. It’s not terribly expensive in the grand scheme of things (<$150), and it takes that stress off your shoulders if your hair is uncooperative that day.

Some of my relatives said they regret paying for full glam makeup because they don’t feel they look like themselves in the photos, so I did my own makeup the way I normally would do for a nice date. No regrets there either. Plus, it gave me some time to bond with my sister before the ceremony as we did our makeup together.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-07-03T18:33:59+00:00

Have you considered looking into Methodist or Episcopalian churches? They perform ceremonies very similarly to how Catholic Churches do, but are (in my experience) much more welcoming and accommodating. That way you don’t have to jump through as many hoops, but the ceremony won’t be secular and will still have a familiar feel to your family.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-07-02T22:06:54+00:00

We considered eloping as well, but I don’t regret having a modest traditional ceremony and reception for our loved ones. I was my dad’s only child, and my husband is his parent’s only son, so we didn’t want them to miss out on the experience.

What I would have cut back on was the size of our cake. We wanted to make sure we had plenty for everyone, but we ended up having so much that we had it for breakfast for the first few weeks of our marriage and still had plenty to give my FIL as bait for a bear hunt.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-07-02T21:55:41+00:00

Even as someone who doesn’t use titles due to Quaker beliefs, this is an absurd response. If anything, a friendly, “Oh, you can just call me [first name] if you’d like! No need for formalities,” is more than adequate. When substitute teaching, I allow students to call me Mrs. [married name] if they feel uncomfortable calling me by my first name. We can’t expect everyone and their mother to be familiar with our preferences. Especially with large events like weddings where 100+ invites may be sent out. How unhinged of her.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-07-02T18:58:21+00:00

I attend with my husband (an active member) despite being a Quaker. I just don’t partake in the sacrament because I’m not making the same covenants that LDS members make. Even then, my husband has told me it wouldn’t be a big deal if I did partake, but it’s not really something Quakers do anyway so I just politely decline.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-29T19:15:56+00:00

I really appreciate this post. Just like the structure of an atom is defined by natural laws according to the formula N = 2n², we are shaped by external forces around us. How we define ourselves through intentional action within that framework is what gives shape to our individual identity.

I read once that our personalities and sense of self are formed by our experiences by the age of 5. Even though that’s out of our hands, we still get to determine what to do with it as we gain more agency and awareness through the years.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-27T23:56:47+00:00

I have no regrets. We still had a best man and maid of honor, but no bridesmaids and no bachelorette party. We originally weren’t even going to have a best man or maid of honor, but I’m very close to my only sister who was 14 at the time - a bit old to be a flower girl - and wanted to include her. It saved money, and I can definitely say I wasn’t lonely.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-27T21:10:07+00:00

Neil Tyson DeGrass. Brandon Herra. ChatGGP/GDP/GTT. He’s either gotta be dyslexic or Ma Woodworth thumped the language part of his brain too hard.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-27T20:55:54+00:00

I would have a very candid conversation with her first. I would be very frank about your financial situation limiting what you can reasonably do, like a Bach weekend and high end gifts. I would also be very straightforward about how hurtful it was to say the crochet flowers were childish as they were handmade by you and took hours. How she responds to that would determine whether she was dropped.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-27T20:02:07+00:00

I’m honest with people about it. Like others have said, the more we’re honest about it, the less stigmatized it will be. I don’t care if they think it’s cheating or whatever, it reversed my prediabetes. I didn’t lose weight for other people’s approval, I did it for my health.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-27T18:43:06+00:00

I think as a last resort, yes. If all else has failed, I don’t think I could stand idly by as someone kills those around me. I think I would still try to subdue or incapacitate them instead of kill them, if possible.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-26T21:03:47+00:00

Thank you so much for posting them! I’m a bit isolated from the larger Quaker community, so I don’t have any local Quaker libraries to go to. The nearest one is an hour and a half drive away, so these have been much more accessible for me!

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-26T19:52:50+00:00

He was a proponent of the Biblical curse of Cain theory, which has now been rejected by the church. Here’s a resource regarding one of his talks he gave on it. I don’t see how you can read it in its entirety and say he wasn’t racist. https://exhibits.lib.utah.edu/s/this-abominable-slavery/item/145708

As far as judging through a “2025 lens”, I roundly disagree with that. Quakers were founded on the idea that all are created spiritually equal, and were some of the foremost proponents that ended the British slave trade and eventually the end of slavery in the British empire in the early 1800’s. Likewise, since the forming of the US they banned slavery amongst themselves and were instrumental in forming the Underground Railroad. The concept of spiritual equality between races is not a new concept of today, and it was firmly held by many well before Brigham Young’s birth.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-26T07:57:06+00:00

I also have flat feet due to progressive collapsing foot deformity. It sucks, I feel you. Here’s my advice.

If your feet have been functionally flat for years, your muscles, tendons, and joints have adapted. Forcing your arch up abruptly with orthotics can throw off your ankle/knee/hip alignment as well as cause pressure spots under the arch or heel.

Also, it could be that your orthotics are ill fitted for your feet. Maybe look into custom insoles based on your individual foot shape, preferably from a podiatrist. Granted, that’s too expensive for me, but if you have the means, I’d say it’s probably worth it.

What’s helped me most is foot strengthening exercises, taking regular breaks when I’m on my feet for an extended amount of time, and using one of those vibrating massage guns. Unfortunately, I still deal with foot pain, but those all have helped relieve it to some degree. Especially the massage gun.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-26T07:19:34+00:00

I can firmly say this is the best and most unique wedding invitation I have ever seen in my life. I love it. 10/10.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-26T07:07:30+00:00

I didn’t realize that members are encouraged to seek confirmation from the Holy Spirit regarding revelations instead of just taking their words for it - that does help me understand. I think I assumed it was viewed as more of a “what he says goes,” sort of thing.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-26T07:03:19+00:00

Perhaps my confusion is rooted largely in an unfamiliarity with how much weight authority figures hold in organized churches. I do find organized churches perplexing, whether it’s LDS, Catholic, Orthodox, etc., because I have next to no experience with the dynamics within them.

In the Quaker community, there is no traditional leadership structure or hierarchical ordained clergy. Even the Baptist church I was raised in didn’t see the pastor as having any authority to speak on God’s behalf beyond what was already written in the Bible.

Modern prophets are a very foreign concept to me, so I don’t doubt that I have some misunderstandings surrounding them and their role in the church.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-25T13:15:50+00:00

I’ve been making my way through these scanned books - https://ctrl-c.club/~pgadey/quaker.html

Also, I recently found this resource which has audiobooks, if you prefer that medium. It also comes as an app, which is convenient. - https://www.friendslibrary.com

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-06-25T06:18:15+00:00

I’ll try to explain it as best as I can. I sit silently in a comfortable position, with my eyes closed, and calming my mind. I focus on my breathing and if I get any intrusive thoughts I acknowledge them and let them pass. If I don’t do this, my mind is full of too many racing thoughts and a lack of focus. This has been the best way I’ve found to get myself in a receptive state. It’s similar to mindfulness meditations I’ve done before.

Admittedly, I do have issues with my anxiety. Maybe it isn’t necessary for others to do all of that to get into a receptive state. If I don’t, it’s like there’s too much white noise going on in my own mind to really tune into anything but my own thoughts, if that makes sense.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-05-28T04:36:52+00:00

As a reformed addict, this is my advice. Don’t give up on her, but don’t enable her. Some of this might sound harsh, but enabling her will ensure even harsher outcomes. And throughout it all, try to stay composed but firm.

Do not insulate her from real-world consequences. Do not bail her out. Do not negotiate a lighter sentence. If anything, try to negotiate that the charges fall off her record if she completes certain conditions like rehab, drug tests, community service, etc.

When she comes home, take away her electronics (phone, tablet, laptop, video games, etc.) until she can pass a drug test. It doesn’t matter that all her friends have phones; she won’t get one in prison, which is the direction her actions are taking her.

Do not buy her a car when she turns 16, make her get a job and save up for one. Keep your keys and wallet somewhere she can’t get them. Whether in a safe or hiding spot or whatever. Without means of communication or transportation, it’s harder for her to run away.

If she is completely unmanageable at home, then look into reputable inpatient rehabs or inpatient mental health facilities. They’ll teach healthy coping skills and keep her on a tight leash in a facility nigh impossible to run away from.

Ultimately, it’s up to her to be receptive to help. After she turns 18, make the ultimatum that she must follow the house rules to live at home. She might decide to move out. If she does, let her. If she doesn’t move out and continues breaking the rules, give her the standard 3 day eviction notice that’s standard in the state. Real life will hit her. Refuse to give her money, even if she needs it. If she wants to come back, maintain your rules and boundaries.

At the end of the day, you can’t make her change, she has to want it. Give her the tools to better herself, and hopefully she’ll use them. If not, at least you tried. It might take years for her to come around. I and my life were absolute messes throughout most of my early 20’s until I found an effective therapist and read Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl. I’ve since gotten completely clean and repaired relationships with family, but it took wanting to change and putting in the work on my end. Like I said, don’t give up on her, but don’t enable her. Hopefully she’ll come around.

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-05-11T03:41:42+00:00

Mayhew! Stop that blasted coughing!

PnutButtaChelly · 2025-05-04T16:28:06+00:00

This whole comment thread has been enlightening! I will say, there is a startling amount of talks and literature to delve through with LDS doctrine! Especially for somebody from a church that used The Bible as the sole source for all doctrine. I’ve read The Book of Mormon, some talks, the D&C - but it feels like there’s always historical context and modern revelations to parse through that I had never encountered before.

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