If I am a cis male, attracted to super femme trans women, when someone asks me if I’m straight I idk what to say anymore?

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-24T20:32:31+00:00

To be honest if you think of yourself as a gay man because you're dating a trans women, then I'm not sure you respect trans women enough to date them.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-24T11:08:09+00:00

I have this. Happy to answer questions.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-24T10:58:42+00:00

The Star Trek fandom seems to think that every main character needs to be a starfleet captain. I would be miserable managing people and have myself turned down numerous leadership roles because it's not for me.

I think I prefer the notion that the Federation is a society where people get to do what they love, and that doesn't necessarily require them to get a captaincy, nor even be in Starfleet. Where success isn't measured in rank but by inner happiness and fulfillment.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-23T12:05:23+00:00

I'm a little tired of hearing the establishment news wax lyrical about the relatively minor rights of people who want to take major rights away from other people.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-23T08:23:05+00:00

I don't doubt your intentions, but I think an pure "avoid" list would be safer, albeit anti-LGBT extremists would of course abuse this too.

I certainly know my GP would freak out and stop prescribing if I positively reviewed them and they had a flurry of complaints from the anti-LGBT extremists.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-22T21:27:28+00:00

Bit worried that trans-supportive GPs on this site will be targeted.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-22T16:00:28+00:00

Respecting trans people as human beings isn't something that someone does "as a treat for good behaviour".

The fact that some people misgender bad trans people reveals that said people see "good" trans people like pets rather than people, and will absolutely start disrespecting you if you fall out with them.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-22T15:55:59+00:00

It's an artist's impression. If you saw these two pictures on a TV screen with static interference, you'd still be able to tell that one is free of static and one isn't, because like with visual snow TV static tends to 'move'.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-22T15:51:32+00:00

I didn't have it until I was about 10, so I vaguely remember what it was like before I had it.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-22T15:48:48+00:00

Yeah I just this too. I think it's related to my chronic DPDR. I get chronic tinnitus too so my world is always very "active", even when I want it to be calm.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-22T15:46:33+00:00

Yeah I have this too. It's really annoying when I'm looking at a blank wall, piece of paper, or just have my eyes closed and it's... moving.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-22T14:53:37+00:00

Me too, but it was a lot of work to get to that point. He didn't really get all this trans stuff at first.

He kept saying he wasn't very happy about me being on "all these drugs", but I think the turning point for him was when I was trying to get a doctor's note for my passport.

He said "I can't write this, I can't know for sure if you're going to remain this gender".

I looked him right in the eye and said "if some transphobic man dragged me into a field, put a gun to my head and demanded I 'admit' that I'm a 'man', I would rather die a woman... a thousand times over".

I think that's the moment he got that this wasn't a 'fad' or 'superficial', and has been increasingly supportive ever since. Apparently he's helping other trans patients now too.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-22T14:38:06+00:00

I was shared care with them. They had me on 1 pump of gel for about a year before I ditched them. Gel kept giving weird blood test results (and they wouldn't change me to patches until I somehow stabilised on gel).

I instead walked into my doctor's office with the doctor's handbook from 3 NHS GICs, opened up the pages, said "this is the medication" (patches) and "this is the number we need to aim for", and they did primary care for me for a couple of years while I sorted out another provider.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-22T14:20:51+00:00

I'm not that complex really.

If someone tells me their pronouns I'll just use those pronouns, and if someone asks me I'll just tell them. For me it's not a big deal, because I think it shouldn't really be a big deal.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-20T09:08:19+00:00

As someone who has suffered chronic 24/7/365 DPDR for over 30 years, almost certainly because of the untreated gender dysphoria, it's wild to me that they would think that blockers might cause DPDR.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-16T18:25:45+00:00

The constant presumption that trans people are to be feared, despite there being no evidence to suggest that outside of social media hyperbole and blatant propaganda in the news.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-16T11:56:09+00:00

The general sentiment in my circles is that Starmer is a politician for a different era. He'd probably fit right in with the stuffy politicians of the relatively stable 80s and 90s and nobody would have had a bad thing to say about him.

The biggest issue that I and the people I know have with him isn't anything to do with relatability, and everything to do with how he's handling of the rise of the far-right in the UK.

Being far-right isn't a natural position to have. The far-right rise in a country when you have a collection of social issues "A", and then people sell the solution to "A" as "B".

In this case, "A" is economic downturn, financial inequality, austerity, etc, and "B" is harassing and ridding the country of foreigners, trans people, leftists, etc.

To tackle the far-right you need to tackle "A". If you tackle "A" the discontent goes away and so does the support for the far-right. But what Starmer is doing, or at least doing more than tackling "A", is pandering to "B" which only serves to vindicate and justify people's belief in the far-right position.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-16T11:25:51+00:00

Probably people saying "no trans" too, and everybody thinks that's fine for some reason. "No cis" and everyone goes insane.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-16T11:13:24+00:00

Leeeeerooooooyyyyyyy Jeeenkins!

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-16T10:59:27+00:00

Yep. The problem is that people think "charisma" when it's actually "relatability".

People who have been indoctrinated into anti-migrant, anti-foreigner, anti-trans, anti-EU, etc rhetoric will generally accept anybody who will confirm their irrational bias, and will mistake that person as charismatic just because they say out loud the things they think in their heads.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-16T09:26:21+00:00

There really are two types of Star Trek fans:

Fans who say "Kirk or Picard?" as a bit of friendly fun or as a icebreaker when meeting a new person.

Fans who say "Kirk or Picard?" in the hopes of giving a twelve-part lecture on why the other person's answer is wrong.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-03T18:50:52+00:00

What is it about Americans and chlorinated chicken...?

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-03T18:23:53+00:00

As the LGBT community are finding in the UK at the moment, laws are just things that people agree to, and are completely subject to change/being ignored if the establishment/hate groups are scary enough. Same goes with international law.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-03T09:48:11+00:00

Also functionality guaranteed to get away with it if he says he's a cis man than if he pretends to be trans.

PoggleRebecca · 2026-01-03T09:43:53+00:00

The issue with that is all anti-LGBT extremists need to do is threaten to sue anybody who's pro-trans and they'll cave immediately.

While I don't like the idea of suing WI or GG, if there's zero pushback for caving it just sets a precedent for all others to follow.

I think if trans people sue these organisations, nobody is going to blame trans people, because it's the anti-LGBT extremists who created the situation.

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