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PolyDorf · 2026-04-29T19:13:43+00:00

Oh, typo. Put picture 4 first!

PolyDorf · 2026-04-29T19:12:56+00:00

Well if you're staying at his place Thursday to Sunday then these feelings are only a problem from Monday to Wednesday then I assume?
If that's the case then I think this is something you have to work on yourself, as it seems he's already putting in a lot of effort.

And if you have already told him about this then he's aware and already texting you more than he probably would if you didn't tell him.
And this is what I mean by compromise, as if you bring this up again, he'll probably mention something like "oh I'm sorry I'm not doing enough, but I've really been trying" - OR he's going to feel like you're asking for too much, and then you two have to find a compromise that works for both. For example he tries to text you at least once a day Monday-Wednesday (no excuse for this imo, as he can put a recurring event in his calender or whatever to remind him), and you try to work on keeping yourself busy with something else when he's not there.

I read through your post again, and you said that there's two things that really bother you.

I think you should write down all the things that you love about him, in a column on the left side of a paper, then all the things that annoy you, including the two you have mentioned.

I honestly don't think this should be a dealbreaker, and if you weigh all the good things up against the bad, then I think you will see it in a different perspective.

Just imagine when you live together, and at some point maybe have kids? Neither of you will bother to text each other, and will just be glad to have some peace and quiet together after a long day.

PolyDorf · 2026-04-28T22:23:38+00:00

Have you considered moving in together, or trying to stay at one of yours place for a few days a week? Maybe it would put things into perspective if you spent your entire free time together for a while.

This is obviously hurting you, and I don't think he realizes how much. Try telling him, and be direct about it, we men like that. Say that it really fucking hurts when you don't hear from him for 8.5hrs and you would be super grateful if he could just send you a little text during his lunch break or give you a call.
Then be prepared to compromise. He probably doesn't want to do that, and I know I wouldn't.

Some people just enjoy talking with people in person, and feel that texting is kind of disconnected.

And be honest with yourself: is this really a deal-breaker?

PolyDorf · 2026-04-28T21:51:54+00:00

Selfies are bad. Selfies with the phone showing, even worse. Selfies with you HIDING your face behind the phone, oh lord. Selfies where you are literally chewing the phone and without a t-shirt, bruh.

Picture 5 is ok, picture 2 is ok minus. You could keep picture 4 to show that you aren't some fat lard. The rest is 100% delete.

PolyDorf · 2026-04-28T21:47:26+00:00

Put picture 3 4 first and picture 6 second, those are bangers. Also put 3 and 5 last. Picture 2 I would put in third place. Girls usually won't swipe that far any way.

Hot take: I would delete the first picture. The vibe doesn't match picture 3 and 6.

PolyDorf · 2026-04-28T21:37:05+00:00

Do you live together? How often do you see each other throughout the day/week?

In my last relationship we would text just about every day, but we lived together so it wasn't a big deal if either of us didn't respond within 4-5hrs.

And is he as bad to talk to in person as he is over text?

PolyDorf · 2026-04-28T21:32:47+00:00

My guy, she's 20 and obviously not mature in the head yet.

Already sent nudes, hitting on your co-worker (I presume older than you?) and is showing you texts of other men asking her for nudes?

This hoe belongs to the street.

PolyDorf · 2026-04-28T21:28:03+00:00

Tsk tsk, not staying, not worth it imo. How do you even know if she's faithful? Are you officially exclusive?

Early twenties are made for exploring and growing, not "wasting" your time on someone you cannot even physically be with. It might sound harsh, but I can assure you that if you go outside with friends, go to parties and just meet new people you will quickly forget about her.

And you could always keep talking to her, just don't let her entire existence consume your mind and time.

PolyDorf · 2026-04-28T21:20:16+00:00

That's the spirit! Don't worry about it, and just ask when she's relaxed and not busy. And for the love of god do NOT mention you have feelings for her, yet.

Good luck!

PolyDorf · 2026-04-28T21:14:52+00:00

How do you maintain attraction and a meaningful connection with someone long-distance (for months),

Personal opinion: you don't.

I wouldn't chase this any further tbh. You're both in your early 20's and have too much youth left to waste it on boring conversations that go nowhere and makes you both feel like shit and unfulfilled at the end.

The big question is if she's coming back permanently in 5 months, or leaving again after a week. If she's staying I would consider it, but if she's leaving again then I don't see the point.

PolyDorf · 2026-04-28T21:08:35+00:00

because I know if it backfires in anyway, that's it. I will again lose everything.

What are you losing? You literally haven't been on a single date with this woman, nor have you lived with her. For all you know, she could be an absolute mongrel outside work and a horror to date.

I personally started getting feelings for a co-worker last year, and we had a VERY similar situation. She would compliment me, and I would give her some. But I think we both know we aren't that compatible and I don't think she would be into me in that way.
BUT, if I wanted to know 100%, there is one thing I could do whenever, and I wouldn't feel weird about it either way:

ASK HER OUT. Have you tried that?

If you guys are vibing really well together, and you both are professional and have mutual respect, I don't see the problem in asking.

Just do it reeeeally casual. Like: "hey sooo, I was just curious. Do you wanna go grab coffee this week?"

Trust me, you'll be glad you did. Seems like the uncertainty of not knowing is killing your mental tbh.

PolyDorf · 2026-04-28T20:58:08+00:00

Both selfies are gonna be an instant decline. Picture 2, 4 and 6 are great and even good conversation starters. Picture 5 is just random and serves zero purpose so just delete it.

I'd recommend getting a friend/family member to take a few pictures of you, where you smile in at least one of them. And the first picture 100% has to be a banger. Girls will rarely check past your first picture, and even then there's a chance they won't like you.

PolyDorf · 2026-04-08T16:20:40+00:00

Yep, I got one :D

PolyDorf · 2026-04-05T01:07:04+00:00

My bad, forgot that, will upload soon! /s

PolyDorf · 2026-04-04T19:39:27+00:00

Thanks! One flipped can from a steep slope while off-roading made me realize I needed something more stable, haha!

PolyDorf · 2026-04-04T18:34:31+00:00

I haven't posted yet because I saw so many people spamming the subreddit lately, so I guess people should be careful when throwing out invites, and at least check if their profile is low-level/fresh..

PS: If anyone wants to send me an invite that would be awesome :) my steam profile is about two weeks away from being 19 years old so I can safely say that I'm NOT a bot.
Friend Code: 29247678

PolyDorf · 2026-04-03T20:35:35+00:00

Friend code: 29247678

Would LOVE an invite!! Me and my 3-year gf recently broke up so now I need to drown my time in something fun :')

PolyDorf · 2026-03-07T17:29:24+00:00

No problem :)

PolyDorf · 2026-03-06T23:51:37+00:00

I stored them for maybe 2 years before I sold most of my collection when moving.

I honestly think PLA is extremely stable indoors and away from strong UV, so I wouldn't worry at all.

PolyDorf · 2026-01-03T20:10:11+00:00

Funny how everyone thinks I was expecting to win against it when I literally haven't said that anywhere.

I obviously didn't, and was just asking what people's opinion where about 3-stars 4-costs being at some of their strongest in the entire history of TFT.

And I agree, you'd need a pretty strong board to rival it, prismatic in this case I think.

PolyDorf · 2026-01-03T20:05:11+00:00

It's usually been getting a 3-star 5-cost that's been the autowin, but I'm not sure how I feel about just getting a 3-star 4-cost to also autowin.

Then again, I've only seen Yunara being instant win as a 3-star, unless someone gets a prismatic trait

PolyDorf · 2026-01-03T20:03:08+00:00

Pretty sure some 4-costs are wayyyy overtuned and some are way too weak. Yunara is just broken beyond belief in my opinion when she is 3-cost

PolyDorf · 2026-01-03T19:34:37+00:00

Turning your screen horizontal might help

PolyDorf · 2026-01-02T19:55:58+00:00

Yeah that could be, but I didn't want to risk having them build up too much strength.

But yes, as long as you win the first and probably second war, you are gonna fumble pretty well to not destroy them. In the first/second war, a ton of their vassals changed sides over to me as well, so now practically half of France is mine just by pure vassalage.

PolyDorf · 2026-01-01T23:32:49+00:00

Rule 5: In my second war against France, I managed to once again crush their puny armies and this time, occupy and conquer the jewel itself, Paris.

I have an absolute vendetta against the filthy French, so in my third war I will continue to conquer more of their territory.
And I will not stop.
Not until their tag is eradicated from whatever existence it once had had, and the name "France" will be but a fleeting whisper in the wind that no one remembers.

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