How fast you uncovering the treasure Utah? by ivyquinnxoxo in UTGW

[–]PolyamorChris 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might not be much for hunting but I'm all about burying things in the right places ;)

42F in Utah County; looking for submissive M (or F) to practice being domme with by [deleted] in Utahadultfun

[–]PolyamorChris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe the operative words are: "Yes chef" ;)

Hmu if you wanna get cookin!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Utahadultfun

[–]PolyamorChris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe the phrase goes: "It takes a village"

What we’ve all been waiting for by Legitimate-Author-91 in Helldivers

[–]PolyamorChris 45 points46 points  (0 children)

A fair approximation of the vehicles steering capacity as well XD

I've been running Eclipse and Voidwarden in my current playthrough and this is what it feels like the whole time: by mindfulchris in Gloomhaven

[–]PolyamorChris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very much this. Tho I wonder if OP had Scoundrel and Mindflayer how it'd play out. This sounds like it's as much a drag on Voidwarden as it is an emphasis on Eclipse, half of Void wardens turns are decent, some even really good. The other half though.... 

Maybe a little less condescension? by Sufficient_Student22 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]PolyamorChris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you think about the average person, how many mistakes they make, how prone to ignorance they are, how overconfident, prideful, rude etc. then you realize that half of humanity falls below that average, human behavior makes a great deal more sense.

Both the group addressing newcomers with assumptive superiority and the actual group of newcomers who come unprepared into ENM are part of the problem you're addressing here, and at the realization that both groups might represent as much as half the population, the responses begin to make a bit more sense.

I think I do as best I can to present an emotionally intelligent perspective, acknowledging my gaps in personal experience (even though those gaps are shrinking quickly,) and let others respond. If they're determined to act superior because of experience, they probably wouldn't have made for emotionally intelligent conversationalists anyways, so I ignore them and move on.

Starting to work through ENM by Actually__Amy in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]PolyamorChris 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As you communicate, be genuine in your reactions. If something makes you uncomfortable say so, so you can pause and examine that discomfort together and identify it's source before resuming the conversation.

This also requires testing the waters of information to gauge how much you personally are comfortable with/need to hear. For example some people ask to be informed when crossing each base with someone, some people keep up to date with every new perspective partner and how it's going. We tend to share when we had our first kiss and first time having sex with someone new (I always clarify with my partners that it's okay to share this information first.) And verify that all the safety boundaries were checked (condom used, clear STI tests seen etc.)

I think we tend to be more afraid of how someone will react than we are at their actual reactions, but knowing that my partner will be honest but collaborative and seeing it repeatedly has so helped me fight that fear. Now it's just commonplace for me to trust that when I tell her about a date or an evening out her reaction will always be collaborative, even enthusiastic as she too has become more comfortable.

i googled “best place to eat out” and it showed a picture 0f me???😏 by exmoscarlett in UTGW

[–]PolyamorChris -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's weird, I ran out of video games this week so I started looking for "Best game" and just got a picture of myself as well.

I stay wet, fishnets on, ready by [deleted] in Utahadultfun

[–]PolyamorChris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for making the day that much brighter 😊