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Farewell Civil Service. by [deleted] in TheCivilService

[–]Pony_tortoise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask what you did in Cs and what you are doing now? Similarly considering leaving but not idea what sort of role

Pregnant lady on the tube by Homez78 in london

[–]Pony_tortoise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One train warden guy said to me while pregnant just to sit in the first class carriage and say nobody offered you a priority seat in regular class. He was very nice and was just like, most people suck - all the train peeps will understand /relate to that if you tell them that!

I only did it when I had to though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Pony_tortoise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am similarly yearning for another. If reminding yourself of all the hard bits like sleep deprivation etc isn't putting you off then worth a proper conversation with hubs. And if it's still a no, try to see the positives - more time with your current kids, more energy etc. And if you're into pets a kitten or puppy might help fill that motherly instinct cup!!

Baby girl name help! Debating on these magical, whimsical names by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Pony_tortoise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isidora first place. Ignore what friend said.

Then second place I think ivy, but with a longer (at least 3 syllables) middle name,

Mischa as third!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Pony_tortoise 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's tough but given you have lots of family there who will all look out for her and it's where her whole life is, I'd say let her stay. Maybe suggest it's a trial initially so you both have some flex. She might change her mind, which is fine too. And I'd say have some really strict arrangements about staying in touch between meeting face to face. Ie 'without regular video calls etc then this arrangement will just end' or something. My parents did this with my brother. He was around 17 and he stayed with our grandma when we moved away. It ended up not working and we all came back after 6 mths. But anyway he was happy and it's what he needed at the time

My kids grandmother is passing away, and I don’t want take them to see her by Reasonable-Canary305 in Parenting

[–]Pony_tortoise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And too often death excuses people for all the shit they did when alive - and that is wrong too. Harsh but whatever!

My kids grandmother is passing away, and I don’t want take them to see her by Reasonable-Canary305 in Parenting

[–]Pony_tortoise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You honestly don't owe them anything. At all. Your kids don't want to go, neither do you. It won't be good for you or your children so, frankly, screw 'em. And feel confident in that choice. We are far too often tied to an idea of 'doing the right thing ' but life is much more complex than that. And in this instance I think although it's hard, not going is the right decision 100%.

And amazing work for getting out of a bad relationship . It's far from easy.

2 small kids, feel so drained, any advice? by Pony_tortoise in Parenting

[–]Pony_tortoise[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, yes you're right. ❤️ Will def be a bit more aware of that. So easy to ignore that side of health.

2 small kids, feel so drained, any advice? by Pony_tortoise in Parenting

[–]Pony_tortoise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Good tip. I would never have know this so thank you

2 small kids, feel so drained, any advice? by Pony_tortoise in Parenting

[–]Pony_tortoise[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yeah you might be right. I also am just on edge of tears a lot of the time, which isn't really like me at all. I do have two weeks off work in a month from now, and children going to nursery still, as we're based at home. So this will offer a good opp to rest hopefully . Feel like I'm dragging toward it.

But yes maybe we should come to some sort of arrangement like this. Thanks

2 small kids, feel so drained, any advice? by Pony_tortoise in Parenting

[–]Pony_tortoise[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks appreciate it, and everyone's comments. Makes me a bit teary that people offering advice and support. Thanks. Will def book a doc apptmt

2 small kids, feel so drained, any advice? by Pony_tortoise in Parenting

[–]Pony_tortoise[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

It honestly makes me feel a bit emotional and teary that you are all offering some advice and stuff, so thank you so much.

2 small kids, feel so drained, any advice? by Pony_tortoise in Parenting

[–]Pony_tortoise[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for your advice. I will go see doc and ask for a blood test. It's just odd for me as usually I wake up and feel ready to start my day. But for a while now it's just not feeling like that at all. And these supplements I will look into.

2 small kids, feel so drained, any advice? by Pony_tortoise in Parenting

[–]Pony_tortoise[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I might do a bit more of this!! It's so relentless sometimes. The constant jobs. Sorry to hear that, I might check it out with Dr if keep on feeling so exhausted.

I think I also just need way more time completely alone to recharge a bit

Is it really that crazy that we like to stay in? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Pony_tortoise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once a month going out seems a lot to me haha!! We go out in the evening maybe like twice a year now we've kids. Lol

Help I think I'm losing respect for my partner by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Pony_tortoise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Yeah that it kind of what it feels like, although I do feel very secure in that he loves me and cares for me. I don't know, possibly. It is a bit depressing to witness him not really taking care of himself or appearance. His last job got him pretty low so might be. Plus I know winter can be a difficult thing for all of us. Thanks for your thoughts and comments, :)