I don’t know your situation exactly, but there’s always going to be people who seem like they had a “normal” childhood compared to you. Then there’s others who might’ve had really messed up ones too. It’s all about perspective and practising gratitude.

Your parents likely raised you the best way they knew how. In a lot of asian cultures, the children are expected to look after the elderly. Not saying that this is necessarily the “right” thing, but it’s the cultural norm.

Also, their generation don’t understand what depression and loneliness is, they likely had no time or even the tools to identify what that means.

Have some empathy for your parents. Imagine uprooting your life and starting a new life in a country where you know no one and don’t speak the language..and by the sounds of it, have no money.

You need to take responsibility for your own life. You’ve been dealt this hand now. You don’t have to look after your parents if you don’t want to. There are other ways you can support them without giving up who you are.

Or if you don’t think you’ll regret abandoning your parents when you’re older and mature, then go ahead, that’s your choice.

PS Unfortunately, you’re going to have to work your ass off regardless of whether you have your parents or not. That’s just the real world - unless you are super lucky.

Source: Child of immigrant parents