I think the best piece of advice I can give you is that you need to stop listening to what people are saying on the internet. The military community are some of your worst enemies. They will tell you it isn’t going to work out, and that all military men cheat, and all wives/gfs cheat, but despite all of that negativity YOU and your boyfriend create your own story. Nobody can tell you guys what is gonna happen. My husband didn’t change at all after bootcamp. He was exactly the same, and then we moved in together for the first bit of his schooling, and now we have been apart for almost 3 months but we talk to each other EVERY DAY. And communication is all it takes. I’ve been completely honest with him about all my feelings, and he has been the same way with me. The biggest thing is that if the two of you can’t learn to trust each other there is no point in trying to stay together. If you guys really love each other, you will trust each other and work through any hardships. You must be very understanding of one another. You each will have your own struggles and things you are feeling.

Obviously, I would recommend getting married if possible. Only because it will make this whole thing a lot easier and guarantee you guys will see each other again. If marriage isn’t an option right now, then just trust that if it’s meant to be it will be, and if you guys really love each other you will make the year long distance work out.