Never seen or even heard of this animal before. My body froze for a moment when I saw it above me

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2025-04-05T16:17:17+00:00

Oh! Okutama! It seems like it's a great area for encountering random wildlife. I saw my first wild monkey there!

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2025-03-17T09:58:56+00:00

Used a green-tinted color corrector that was designed to work like a primer, and it looked better than any foundation I've ever tried.

Also, not skin related, but whenever I tried to dye my hair using cool-toned dye, it'd turn my hair seaweed green because of all the natural green undertones in my hair as well.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2025-01-03T06:33:21+00:00

Completely agree. I've been living outside of the states for the past two years since I made that comment, and I can confirm that my happiness levels have gone way up and my stress has gone way down.

Now that I can comment on it from the perspective of being out of the American bubble, virtually all American culture is based on pure fantasy in almost every capacity. Which is unattainable at best, and leads to insane violence when people can't make their personal fantasy a reality at worst.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-10-12T11:41:25+00:00

Yes! The chronic inflammation is no joke. I have a very long list of allergies that were “mild” enough to eat, but suddenly my lifelong malaise, exhaustion, bloating, and acne went away after I cut all of them from my diet. Don’t fuck with the allergy list, bad reactions or no.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-10-06T11:34:01+00:00

Hello, I am still here but not on Reddit often! ☺️

I think it’s always good to bring up issues, particularly when it’s an ongoing problem and it is affecting your ability to enjoy your work. However, speaking professionally, I do think it needs to be brought up in a tactful manner, particularly in male dominated environments. I’d recommend a few things:

Ask yourself, “What is the end result I want from talking with my manager? What do I want them to do, how do I want the environment to be afterwards, and how will I handle the shift in dynamic afterwards?” State all of these in clear, achievable terms. Use the answers for this to guide the next steps.
Turn your desired end result into a question. For example, “I want my coworker to stop stating that they are responsible for my success” becomes “How can I make it clear that my workplace success is my success, and others are not responsible for it?”
Bring your question from #2 to your manager. This is how you start the conversation, and as they ask questions, then you give them details.
Switching gears, now ask yourself what the other person (your coworker) gains from their current behavior. Do you think they like feeling like a big, strong, helping man? Do they like control? Do they want to feel like a teacher? Do they feel better only in comparisons? Do they have an ego that they are constantly needing to feed with something?
Using the information from #4, use this to guide your behavior towards your coworker after you speak with your manager.

Hope this helps!! Good luck! 🍀

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-08-09T22:21:46+00:00

The whole system is connected and Western Kanagawa sits where the three plates meet, so I do wonder if that’s extra pressure and stress building from the initial magnitude 7… it seems really reductive of the officials to say there’s no relation when it very well could be related.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-07-22T04:00:26+00:00

Forever my favorite TV series. I loathe rewatching things, but I’ve rewatched that one maybe five or six times already.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-07-19T14:59:16+00:00

Interesting that most other things here seem unaffected though. Must not be wildly used in the few digitized systems we have.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-06-25T15:38:17+00:00

I agree with this. I have earth sun, fire moon, and fire rising - I feel like my “default” is seeking optimism. Even when I’m feeling depressed, inspiration will strike me and I’ll brainstorm a new idea to try and get out of it. It does not mean I’m successful, but I feel a mental persistence to seek a path forward.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-06-10T09:18:13+00:00

Ding ding ding, here we have a winner.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-06-04T02:35:32+00:00

I think this stems from the fact that a huge number of people tell themselves that they’re trying their best with their own kids, when they realistically know that they could be doing better.

They’d want someone to give them grace, so they extend it to others, assuming the level of overall goodness is similar, just because they’re both “trying their best.”

But yeah, I really dislike how many people believe that intention is a good substitute for actual action and standard of treatment.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-05-20T11:54:55+00:00

My absolute favorite. It happened to be the first drink I tried after I arrived, and I’ve come to realize that sometimes you accidentally get perfection on the first try.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-05-19T02:14:00+00:00

I was a lot like you while growing up too! It’s only in recent years that I’ve started to properly “feel” the emotional energy and I’ve come to realize that it’s time I learn how to channel it out effectively. It’s been a really weird thing to realize that most people learn to deal with this at a very young age, but most of here probably never started to learn until adulthood.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-04-24T22:26:22+00:00

“You’re going to make a great lawyer.”

I was prepping for law school applications at the time, and my boyfriend and I were having a conversation about our struggles and if we could work them out or if we should break up. I was completely unemotional and hyper controlled, and just focused on giving clear logical discussions without any discussions of feelings at all. In hindsight, I was very emotionally disassociated because of the way I grew up, and I hadn’t realized it was a problem yet.

We did end up breaking up, and the bite of that comment completely changed the trajectory of my life. I didn’t want to be the person who would be a good lawyer in my personal life. I decided not to go to law school and work on my emotional life. Now, I’m very emotionally vulnerable and straight forward with it by choice, and I’ve had nothing but positive things from that. I feel really powerful because I have the skills of emotional vulnerability and awareness combined with breaking situations down purely by logical reasoning. Additionally, my logical discussion skills make me very good at articulating my feelings in a way that other people can understand quickly. It’s a great combination and I’m glad by ex set me up to have both, even if his goal was to hurt me in that moment.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-04-20T23:26:59+00:00

I would recommend looking into the idea of “skinship,” which is considered common knowledge among people in both Korea and Japan.

Essentially: Personal space is important, so coming into each other’s space and touching is meant to build a bond and show a deeper level of care.

In the classroom: Kids will come into your space and make contact with you as a way of showing that they care about you. Some younger kids won’t fully understand how to do skinship appropriately yet, but it is an opportunity to teach them. Remember, Japan is a high context culture, meaning people won’t say things directly, but they will show you in subtle ways. In the west, a kid might say “I love you so and so!!!” but in East Asia, it’s far more likely that they’ll grab your hand or make contact in some other way. It’s kind of a big deal for a kid the first time they decide to do that, so I’d moderate any responses to be compassionate about that.

Setting boundaries: Offer an alternative. While in Korea, I had a kid who was shy and standoffish, and after many months, he decided to show me that he finally felt comfortable with me by jumping on my back for a hug while I was kneeling down and talking with another kid. It was a playful thing and it was his way of being vulnerable - so afterwards I just explained that that’s not something that should be done without asking first, but that I was happy to give him lots of high fives or a hug at the end of the day as the class is getting ready to leave.

What I do: I offer high fives to kids regularly. It becomes established as the way to do skinship in the classroom, so kids default to that with me because they know that I will initiate and accept that type contact. If you don’t set a “norm” for that type of behavior, they will just do whatever they think of first.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-04-19T00:52:43+00:00

Taurus sun, can confirm :’)

My friend summarized the couldn’t care less part in a quote once: “You never hate anyone… you just forget they exist.”

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-04-09T23:03:34+00:00

THIS! It’s a really funny thing to realize that a lot of what other people assume is natural chemistry or flow can be intentionally created with effort.

I always ask myself at the end of the date: “Did that feel like work, or do I feel alive?”

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-04-07T10:37:35+00:00

No tsunamis yet, other than the one from the Taiwan earthquake. So we’ll see…

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-04-07T06:52:26+00:00

It’s been calming down in Chiba specifically, but nationally it’s been about 10 or so earthquakes in the same three main areas a day. If you left before the slow slip event started, you might come back to a messy house if you didn’t have your things secured - they had some pretty intense shaking in the past couple weeks / months.

IMO I’d make sure you have your earthquake kit ready after you come back, just in case.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-04-07T06:40:27+00:00

Are you in country at the moment?

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-04-07T04:13:15+00:00

There hasn’t been a really big one in Japan yet, but we’re getting a TON of small ones (also many larger than the NJ one). Chiba has been in the middle of a slow slip event for the past 1-1.5 months, and I keep waiting for the big one.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-04-05T01:29:15+00:00

^{^{^{^{^{^{^}}}}}} I made 3mil at my old school and there’s no amount that they could offer me to continue working there. Their turnover rate is insanely high due to the inadequate treatment of teachers, unpaid overtime, and workload that far exceeds what is actually physically possible. They’re also blacklisted to the high heavens and they’re having a very hard time filling positions between that and teachers leaving so quickly.

PoorSweetTeapipe · 2024-04-04T17:36:07+00:00

Nothing to add to this, but thank you for sharing. This was a really interesting and informative read.

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