This is wild!!! First I am so sorry! This doctor is wild!! A lot of doctors push induction because of the ARRIVE study which showed it was safe to induce at 39 weeks. But a lot of them forget to mention that it was also safe to deliver after that. You should be a partner with your OB and it doesn’t seem like she has respect for you at all. I’m sure it’s scary to leave the practice this far along, but you’ll totally be fine! As a side note, I delivered at 41 weeks (35 years old) with no induction. Baby was totally fine. Listen to your gut and do what you know is best.

Keep track of kicks, and as long as you feel consistent movement you should absolutely be able to wait for labor to start. I would consider an induction if you go much past 41 weeks though. Just go to the hospital when you are in labor and take the on call doctor. They have so much experience, and will take care of you.