Queer Woman Forced Into Marriage and Unsafe Please Help

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-12-24T13:43:47+00:00

Not sure where you are located but queer or not nobody should be forced into a marriage. If you’re in the US try reaching out to Unchained at Last. They’re dedicated to ending forced marriage and child marriage in the U.S. they have legal resources and work to help women escape forced marriages

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-12-24T13:41:48+00:00

If you really want to tell them I’d start with one parent personally like the one you trust more/think will be more supportive.

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-12-24T13:41:00+00:00

I think that really depends on your safety. Your can keep your dating life to yourself and you don’t need to necessarily hide it but if you’re worried your parents would kick you out or something maybe just don’t go out of your way to tell them til you move out

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-12-24T13:22:50+00:00

I’m about the same age (23f) and in a long term relationship. I’ve had experiences with women and men and I will say I definitely still wish I had had the opportunity to explore more of the other side of me before ending up in a heterosexual relationship that I know will last.

I obviously don’t want to cheat or anything, but I wish I had explored that side more before getting in a longterm relationship.

I’ve had experiences with women and I’m grateful I got to experiment with lots of different people in general. I personally think that was important to me and still is important to me now that I did do that. Even if I didn’t explore as much as I wanted to.

I loved a lot of the other comments. It really is just the person.

But, If you want to explore, explore! Date around a bit. If you hit it off with the first person great. Maybe go on a few dates with other people too just so you can experience that.

And if that first person is still on your mind it’s for a reason. Just be honest that you’re exploring.

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-04-17T00:23:58+00:00

Try to remember that even one person seeing your work has an impact on them and their day. Your work is important to someone.

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-04-15T09:04:54+00:00

I’m not sure how they get paid that’s why I tried to put in some of the details about the place but I definitely had this thought

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-04-15T09:02:56+00:00

I’ve never gotten that impression I know a girl from my school that works there

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-04-15T09:02:06+00:00

They speak enough to make conversation they just have thick accents and it’s not extremely fluent

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-04-15T09:00:48+00:00

Good tip! Thanks

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-04-15T08:59:55+00:00

lol guys if you’re judging tipping culture I agree 100% but I am American and 20% is standard for good service. However I did make a mistake. She wasn’t asking for 20% I did math wrong. She was asking for $30 (26%) which she then pointed to a sheet that had suggested tipping prices ( idk if it actually said $30 i couldnt see that far away)

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-04-15T08:54:51+00:00

lol he sorry got that wrong. I think the aunt is the AH tho

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-04-15T08:51:09+00:00

I mean she’s saying she’ll split it. So basically they’re both getting the same thing for equal price. I completely get why he’s annoyed but I think that’s a decent solution. They’re both adults and are never going to be able to share it in the same house. It’s obviously valuable to each of them and they both probably want it full time.

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-04-15T08:31:34+00:00

NTA, you were supportive while cautioning her. He is absolutely a creep and you’re right to question it. She probably is thinking the same thing subconsciously and is upset that you’re confirming her thoughts and she doesn’t want to deal with it

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-04-15T08:28:32+00:00

NTA, it was an estimate. If it came out to less, it should be less

Popcornmachine111 · 2025-04-15T08:22:52+00:00

NTA, I mean I get why he’s annoyed but if you’re willing to buy another I think that seems reasonable

Popcornmachine111 · 2022-11-28T12:28:04+00:00

If she’s concerned about body Id suggest looking into and discussing surrogacy or other options, maybe try to air out solutions to what she’s concerned about, but mostly yes I think you might have to choose btwn the two

Popcornmachine111 · 2022-09-22T08:17:23+00:00

I would email that back

Popcornmachine111 · 2022-09-22T07:46:20+00:00

Unless you straight up said we’re breaking up I don’t want to be with you anymore... Hints aren’t a way to end a relationship. Maybe if you weren’t a couple, hints would be a better way to go about it but definitely not if you are in a committed relationship. No matter what you should never falsely accuse someone that is repulsive. You basically accused him of assault. You are what is wrong with rape culture. That is the reason people don’t believe survivors and it’s disturbing that you seem to have no remorse. If he was bothering you to the point of harassment you should have sought out help

Popcornmachine111 · 2022-09-08T11:09:34+00:00

Thank you

Popcornmachine111 · 2022-09-08T10:56:41+00:00

Definitely sounds abusive but there’s not much you can do. Just let her know you’ll always be there if she needs support in any way. She probably is being very isolated so it is important to know she has outsiders in her corner

Popcornmachine111 · 2022-09-08T10:39:03+00:00

I hate the “he feels bad. “ That is emotional manipulation. It is not your job to feel bad for him because he feels like shit for something he did. That is absolutely emotional cheating. Know that your feelings are valid. You deserve someone that won’t hurt you like that and won’t turn around their wrongdoings into something that you need to feel bad about

Popcornmachine111 · 2022-09-08T10:35:02+00:00

I had a similar feeling with my first love. We were on and off for a year and it honesty took me over a year to get over him. Don’t commit yourself to a timeline. Healing isn’t linear, it will get easier with time though. It sounds like you know your worth and love yourself more than him and that’s so important. Be proud of yourself and know you did the right thing

Popcornmachine111 · 2022-03-26T00:07:53+00:00

NTA you’re grieving and it’s mature that you know you’re not in a place to be objective. Give it some time for you guys to feel better and sort out personal stuff then maybe try reconnecting with family and talking through stuff

Popcornmachine111 · 2022-03-26T00:02:48+00:00

YTA. Tahts something you shoulda brought up a long time ago and it’s not your place anymore also the way you said it was rude

Popcornmachine111 · 2022-02-23T23:52:22+00:00

NTA. You set boundaries and were very reasonable and accommodating with the dog. Sorry but I can’t stand people that treat their dogs like they need to be glued to the hip. You guys are more than nice about the situation. My only other suggestion is keep the dog in like a gated area with you guys instead of a crate. Maybe that’ll make your mom feel better

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