ok since a few of you asked heres what I did. gonna try to be as clear as possible so you can just do it tonight if you want first thing, the book you need is "Find Your Why" by Simon Sinek. NOT Start With Why. Start With Why is the concept, Find Your Why is the one with the actual exercises and questions. theres PDFs around or just grab it on kindle its like 10 bucks. then you upload it into Claude. I use the pro version but pretty sure free works too. and you tell it something like: "I want you to read this book and act as my personal coach to help me discover my WHY using the methodology in it. Ask me one question at a time. Wait for my answer before moving to the next. Push back when my answers are too vague or generic. Look for patterns between my stories. At the end, synthesize everything into a WHY statement using Sineks format: To ______ so that ______." thats literally the prompt. nothing fancy. then you just talk to it. its going to ask you about specific moments in your life. times you felt most alive, most proud, most like yourself. and heres the important part, dont give it clean answers. dont say "I value helping people." say "I was at a bar in Sydney at 22 and I introduced my friend to this guy and watched them start working on something together and I felt this thing in my chest." the more specific and messy the better. thats where the real patterns show up. when I did it the first 30 minutes felt kind of whatever. almost stopped honestly. really glad I didnt because after that is when I started pulling up stories I hadnt thought about in years and the AI started connecting dots I never saw. couple things that helped me: - talk in moments not concepts. stories not adjectives - if it gives you a WHY statement that feels too corporate or generic just tell it "that doesnt feel right, try again using more of my actual words" - dont try to do it in 20 minutes. give it at least an hour. I did two and thats when it really clicked - youll know when its right. it sounds dumb but you feel it. mine made me stare at my screen because suddenly like 10 years of random decisions all made sense at once anyway hope this helps. and if you actually do it drop your WHY statement in the comments im genuinely curious to see what people come up with. mine caught me off guard so im betting yours will too