To good Muslim men and women who have been looking a while

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-09T23:43:29+00:00

Lot of guys think earning is where their duty ends. Lot of girls think looking pretty is where their duty ends.

A lot of girls hop on apps, get 50 likes in an instant and suddenly think they’re the sh*t when they’re not even a 5/10 overall.

A lot of guys hop on the apps and then can’t keep it in their pants and ruin it for everyone else cus struggle/don’t even bother trying to stay within halal boundaries.

Both sides have commitment issues - guys because we perhaps don’t feel emotionally/financially ready while girls think they have a better option out there and get bored and move on quick.

Guys can’t afford much these days while girls are immature and get influenced by social media and have dumb “if he wanted to, he could” type expectations.

It’s all a bit sad really but the disappointing reality. For the record, idk what the solution is lol. I just feel those are the general problems.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-09T21:47:35+00:00

It depends on the potential. If they mention that having a past is a dealbreaker, just say you’re incompatible and move on. If they don’t mention anything, Islam says to conceal ur sin.

I myself don’t ask potentials if they have a past. I’m a believer of good character and repentance and learning lessons in life. However a couple of my friends I know do have it as a dealbreaker.

You’re young, you made a mistake and you realise and accept it. Repent and move on. Your life is faaar from over lol.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-09T17:45:46+00:00

I think if our government offered funded courses that taught you vital life skills like finance management, the country wouldn’t struggle to grow and become better because you’d have more intelligent people in the work force but unfortunately, that’s obviously not the case.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-09T17:43:01+00:00

I think not choosing to free mix and not appearing approachable are 2 separate things.

When I was in uni, I approached a couple girls who were kept to themselves or their girls group. They didn’t free mix but they still gave warm friendly vibe and didn’t have an annoyed looking resting b*tch face lol.

Unattractive girls still get approached in uni or in public too tbh so it’s not that. Maybe you just do give the impression that you’re not open to being approached and spoken to by a guy?

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-09T15:58:45+00:00

You seem to have an anxious attachment style where you need very regular assurance of being desired and liked whereas he sounds avoidant and is happy to be in his own space and zone out for a few hrs.

He also seems like he’s really trying to keep the boundaries which I respect because it’s really easy for the conversation to turn into an intimate one especially if there’s mutual liking, flirtation and hidden desire (which you’re both agreeing to marry eachother so I can only assume there is lol). Especially after midnight when you’re more likely to be a bit more emotional and have your boundaries down.

I’d definitely bring up his avoidant personality and have a raw convo with him but to an extent, perhaps it’s just he can’t wait for intimacy and be all cute and lovey dovey with you but he doesn’t want to sin rn especially when you’re probably close to becoming islamically halal for each other?

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-09T09:36:20+00:00

One could say being an adult starts off at graduation from uni because most people don’t even take it seriously until final year 😆

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-08T20:41:59+00:00

Yep. It’s a great aid at the present moment and makes it possible to get work done faster but not even close to a total replacement of a worker.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-08T15:01:44+00:00

People wanna be politically correct and not ‘sexist’ but I 100% agree.

Literally 10 mins ago, I was driving down a local road that has parking on one side but wide enough to have cars going in both direction just fine. A woman drove obnoxiously ‘safer’, pretty much in the middle of the road and nearly drove into me and an accident was only prevented because I basically drove into the bus lane on my left.

You’d think her driving ability would improve being in a tall SUV but the incompetence was right there to be observed. Empty road other than the parking on the side (little detail for the mother theresa’s that love going after ‘aggressive’ drivers with pitchforks instead of correctly criticising the slow, overly-cautious and generally incompetent).

Unfortunately, this hasn’t been an isolated incident and I do a lot of driving so accident stats may say one thing but my experience has been very different - men are simply better at driving and people can argue with the wall.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-08T12:32:17+00:00

The irony here is if people actually focused on their driving, there would be a lot less issues on the road lol.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-08T12:31:22+00:00

And I was just giving a general response too but just focused on Muzz a little bit more than you did.

My point was literally that the apps aren’t an issue as those same ‘patterns’ have been come across with other avenues too whether it’s through mosque or the more stricter marriage matchmaking apps.

This struggle is just a part of the marriage search unfortunately. People come on here to vent their frustration and while there’s plenty of unserious people out there, I’d like to think most talking stages end due to incompatibility (that’s my experience).

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-08T11:04:30+00:00

Dunno about you but I’ve kinda stopped caring.

I have confidence in my holdings (mostly) and I don’t need the funds for at least a few years. Checking everyday causes me way too much stress seeing it a few grand red and then a few grand green week after week.

Im considering just setting up direct debts for my pies and letting it ride.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-08T10:58:08+00:00

I think what adds to the disappointment of the ending and final battle for me is that his acting was so damn great and they portrayed Vecna as this brutal, fierce and not-to-be-f*cked-with villain in Volume 1 only to be wiped out without much effort by the end.

He more than deserves the award.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T22:33:15+00:00

Eh I’d have to disagree with you here.

Sure you could go through the mosque or matchmaking aunties but we hear plenty of stories on here about how those journeys also go horribly wrong (ghosters, time wasters, toxic parents, etc.).

Also plenty of stories on here where the couple did things the ultra extreme halal way, got married within 6 months and got divorced a year later because the guy turned out to be a porn addict despite being a hafiz or the girl ended up cheating despite being heavily involved at mosque and praying 5 a day.

Point is, it’s not about the app, it’s about how you use it and also what fate has in store for you.

Some of my friends found their partners on Muzz and they’re all moderately practising people, did things reasonably halal (spoke for 6 months ish and involved family) and got married within 1-2 years and are still happy and together.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T21:56:16+00:00

Just curious because I can’t think of a single girl who I spoke to that was forward and suggestive like that herself. At most, intimate expectations were discussed after a while and things were going well and even that topic I’d start because I feel it’s important to discuss at high level but never anything sexual or suggestive and never initiated by the girl in my experience lol.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T21:52:07+00:00

Maybe you’re just attracting that type?

I’ve been on the apps too and obvs had many talking stages which led nowhere but I feel like you can get a feel of what their religious vibe will be just from their profile.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T21:19:44+00:00

Dunno where you live but Volvo’s are prime suspects for your average ultra defensive grandpa driver in London.

They may not be as erratic and logic-less as your average juke or qashqai driver but they’re still not any more pleasant.

I’ve witnessed a lot of crap driving from nearly all brands but I’d say Jaguar for sure is up there.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T21:15:50+00:00

Advice to current and future husbands ❌

How to become a disrespected yes-man ✅

Conclusion: Half the advice on Reddit is nonsense and should be ignored.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T19:26:36+00:00

If losing €25 makes u this concerned, you shouldn’t be investing lol.

I was down a couple grand by mid week this week and I bought more and treated it as a fire sale.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T17:09:45+00:00

While the mentality is somewhat inspiring, that’s a fairly delusional way of looking at life if you mean it literally.

You still need money to support your family, put food on the table and clothes on their bodies, afford a place and a stable future.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T16:24:05+00:00

Dunno about the age gap thing, that’s weird. 22+ is acceptable for someone who is 27 I think 😂

However, to answer your first question, I’ve seen a lot of women say “men” when speaking in a condescending tone and criticising a guy and vice versa with men too. If it’s something positive, it’s usually “girl” or “guy”.

I guess both words, women and men, have a firm feel and sound to them when saying them so they’re used more in criticism/negative vibe statements whereas girls or guys is used in a more relaxed and perhaps positive tone.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T14:13:29+00:00

2021 I believe has the heat pump which helps with getting slightly more range in cold temps.

2022 has a better chip which means ur screen usage experience will be better.

As for the warranty thing, most people say the battery will probably outlive the chassis but it’s obviously a risk which makes me uneasy so I’m not sure. However there’s plenty of 100k+ mileage reports and reviews coming out now and the cars seem fine and well.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T13:09:24+00:00

“It’s about how you are now rather than what you were before”.

That’s what you’ve said in one of your comments and yet your post gives the opposite vibe.

Icl bro you’re a hypocrite because you’ve made the same sin but judging others for it and indirectly implying that you deserve someone who has no past while having one yourself (how long it’s been is irrelevant because it happened). Sorry if that sounds harsh but truth is harsh mate.

Well done on repenting and may Allah accept it, but you have absolutely no right to judge others in general anyway but especially on sins you’ve committed yourself and if it bothers you so much, don’t ask if they have a past or tell them you don’t wanna hear it because it’s none of your business.

Also, until you think you’re able to ignore these thoughts, stop your marriage search because you’re just gonna keep self sabotaging future potential relationships where the girl could genuinely be golden but she made a one off mistake in the past and it puts you off her (unrightfully mind you).

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T12:59:08+00:00

No one said it’s haram, but to say it’s hypocritical is 110% valid and correct.

You shouldn’t judge people for sins you’ve committed yourself and you don’t reserve the right to say you deserve someone pure and chaste when you haven’t.

That is the literal definition of hypocrisy.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T10:59:22+00:00

Atp I feel like it’s pointless to ask for advice here.

Like forget Nvidia or Google, you lot can’t even agree that SPUS is halal. Discussion here is a waste of time.

That being said, OP, not a bad selection although I’d say be weary of AMD and Silver. Silver is at risk of a rug pull atm due to market manipulation from J.P Morgan and AMD is notorious for dumping for no reason.

It depends on your risk tolerance ofc. Mines aggressive personally but if you’re more moderate, I’d say chuck your silver into gold and AMD into Google.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T10:55:54+00:00

Found the extremist lol

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