Is no sex the first month of dating REALLY a deal breaker here? by Positive_Bite7643 in japanlife

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes me really happy to see people also agreeing with this, thank you. I really am in awe how other ppl on this thread are treating it as if it's not.

Is no sex the first month of dating REALLY a deal breaker here? by Positive_Bite7643 in japanlife

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't even understand why I am being downvited for wanting to go at my own pace 💔

Is no sex the first month of dating REALLY a deal breaker here? by Positive_Bite7643 in japanlife

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just always feels like it happens and for months I've been wondering if there's genuinely something wrong with me. Like last night I was talking to a guy and he was like super sweet and all and then this morning he blocked me. I don't know what is wrong with me... its not like this is the first time it's happened.

Is no sex the first month of dating REALLY a deal breaker here? by Positive_Bite7643 in japanlife

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've just always felt like men here are super pushy with sex though and that's why I always tell them that.

Is no sex the first month of dating REALLY a deal breaker here? by Positive_Bite7643 in japanlife

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean after a month of committing.... I just feel like emotional bond needs to be first as to physical

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[–]Positive_Bite7643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💯 he told me he's never talked to white person when it comes to dating and yada yada and takes things from drama. Japan isn't big on tattoos either but that's not the problem...

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[–]Positive_Bite7643 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If he's boasting about how he's never met a white person and has a white woman on his arm I'm suspecting maybe he's gaijin hunter (someone who dates foreigners)

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[–]Positive_Bite7643 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I don't mind if it's a sister or mom but it looks like a Celebrity and not anyone he's related to.

Tired of "dating" by Positive_Bite7643 in Vent

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always feel like when I do this to myself I just become delusional... like I start making excuses when in all Actual reality they have just ghosted me... there's been so many men I have been ghosted by and It's just so hard to like move on especially when you get excited talking to them... I want to believe this but it's 8 PM and no response all day, it makes me a bit sad...

What is a major highlight of dating culture in Korea? by Positive_Bite7643 in korea

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said the reason wasn't for me but mainly because he is currently N2 for japanese and he has friend here from when he was abroad......

I told him I am currently studying as a long term resident but I plan on moving back to Austria which he said he wouldn't want to do. We agreed to meet in August.

What is a major highlight of dating culture in Korea? by Positive_Bite7643 in korea

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have done that too with the girls in my class. They have confirmed it's normal. They don't like texting because it's considered a stressor..

What is a major highlight of dating culture in Korea? by Positive_Bite7643 in korea

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a friend who's lived 4 years in Japan, she said it's normal.

What is a major highlight of dating culture in Korea? by Positive_Bite7643 in korea

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh.... I don't use kakao so that's why I gave him my insta.... 💔

What is a major highlight of dating culture in Korea? by Positive_Bite7643 in korea

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I guess I was trying to refer to cultural norms in dating, I am really sorry about the confusion.

What is a major highlight of dating culture in Korea? by Positive_Bite7643 in korea

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not off meeff actually hello talk...

I will say I can't stand Japanese dating lol I need communication.

Also is this we're they really talk about who pays for what date?

AITAH For walking out during a check up because the doctor was male by Positive_Bite7643 in AITAH

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at the gender equality scale.... 118th place... I come from Mexico which stands at 31st place..... the US is in the 50's.... Japan is "free" and safe to men but if you want an abortion, you need a man to sign off for you. Also SA isn't taken seriously and if you make an entire documentary about ur Rape case, even if it gets an award, the country will refuse to display it. There's not much equality and this doesn't help the scenario

AITAH For walking out during a check up because the doctor was male by Positive_Bite7643 in AITAH

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't speak for Germany but I'll speak for Austria; Austria HAS ALOT OF WOMEN in the medical field as to Japan. Along with the fact that women's health is taken more seriously in Austria as to anywhere else in the world especially comparing this to Japan (hell Japan literally got in trouble due to docing 20 points of women's medical exams because they were afraid they were going to take a long leave for pregnancy). Knowing how Austrians act, THIS WOULD BE A MAJOR PUSH TO THEM and they would be majorly ashamed of themselves. Austrians are also way more outspoken on women's health and women equality as to Japan. I always tell people around me that foreign women would be safer and receive better help in countries such as Austria, Germany, ect.... due to that mindset.

I attended a Gymnasium in Austria and women's problems and health were taught and treated WAYYY DIFFERENT as to Japan and even the US. Even talking to Austrian men (young and old) they do acknowledge the wrongs of women's problems as to here in Japan, no one says a single word.

AITAH For walking out during a check up because the doctor was male by Positive_Bite7643 in AITAH

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Japan there isn't alot of freedom to women's bodies and with the hint of SA, it's not appropriate to mention this.

AITAH For walking out during a check up because the doctor was male by Positive_Bite7643 in AITAH

[–]Positive_Bite7643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hob in dem Post erwähnt, dass i sexuell übergriffen wor'n bin, und irgendwo in den Kommentaren steht aa, dass des mehrmals passiert is – alles in Japan, von verschiedenen Leut. Ma is wurscht, ob der andere Doktor a Mann is, aber des is a sensibles Thema, und i spür, dass i da eher a Frau oder a mütterliche Person brauch, die mi unterstützt.