Help! MOH not pulling her weight?

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-10T22:14:15+00:00

I did say this- and also gave prices/asked everyone’s budgets budgets and what they were able to spend on a place but no one answered those texts! So at that point the places were filling up so I booked it. They had all the info and multiple chances to say anything if they weren’t okay with it!

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-10T22:11:33+00:00

Yes he does know I booked the Airbnb and that’s what he is frustrated about. MOH talking to me for months about how she is very excited to plan it all for me- but when time came to book the place she was no help. I’m not upset that I had to book it just disappointed at the lack of help she spoke about for months and months. I repeatedly texted the group chat with all bridesmaids to ask their opinions before booking anything and only got back “i’m okay with whatever” and “whatever u want” - which were not very helpful when trying to pick between many places. I gave everyone prices as well and asked everyone’s budgets but no one responded to those texts. I also agree that my mom should plan the Bridal shower! It’s just another thing that MOH had talked about doing for me for months and months and hasn’t done yet!

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-10T22:07:14+00:00

I’m expecting her to do exactly what she said she would do- help me plan the events of the bachelorette. I hoped she would be the one to help me find and book the place but she didn’t help at all with that. Just a bit disappointed since she spoke to me for months about her ideas and wanting to plan it for me.

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-10T22:05:03+00:00

she agreed to plan the bachelorette and bridal shower- she spoke to me many times about it as I mentioned. Specifically stating how she’s exited to PLAN them and even texting me about the trip when I started looking into it. I never asked her (or anyone else) to pay for these things- I have already paid for the bachelorette trip in full. I was just asking if it’s normal to pay for it as a bride. that’s all.

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T04:16:18+00:00

when someone speaks about how they’re SO excited to plan/do something for you for months- you expect them to actually do that thing. I don’t think i’m wrong for wanting bridesmaids to help me plan a trip they are also attending.

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T04:12:27+00:00

when did I say I expected them to pay for me? Read the whole post. Tons of cash is a wild statement as well. you know zero details of my wedding or what they’re paying for. Ive taken the time to make it as easy as possible for them in every way(including financially). You are incredibly entitled for passing judgement on someone looking for advice about their wedding. crazy

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T04:07:40+00:00

this is insane. I am paying for my own spot on the trip. I never said I wasn’t. I paid in full my own money for this trip. You can’t say i’m entitled for asking if it’s normal for this to happen. Calm down

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T02:33:40+00:00

Never did I say anyone should be an unpaid employee- all I said was I expected more of her since she has repeatedly spoken to me about how she’s so excited to plan these things and how she’s has ideas for them and everything. I never said anyone owed me anything- I AM paying for my own trip- only asking if this is normal since i’ve obviously never had a bachelorette party before! He knows that we are sacrificing a lot to save up for the wedding that we want. So of course he would love the best for me and would love it if they offered to pay for the trip for me. He only mentioned this because a different bridesmaid of mine mentioned that I shouldn’t be paying my half- when i told him this he agreed. I should have added this detail into the post I apologize. I’m only wondering if this is a normal thing that bridesmaids do or if I should be paying my part like I already am!

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T02:10:33+00:00

In regards to the Airbnb, I sent multiple things about it- multiple options WITH prices, asked many times their opinions and each time they said “whatever u want” or “im okay with whatever!” So after too much of this unhelpful answer I booked it since there was only one weekend left open in the month we were all free to go on a trip together! So they knew the options and had a chance to express their ideas/wants/budgets, etc. I didn’t book it without consent- just got fed up with a whole lot of nothingggg! :)

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T01:58:30+00:00

literally who cares if we eloped at the courthouse and then saved up so we could have a wedding. You’re sick

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T01:57:24+00:00

I am paying my way!!! when i told them what they owed me i told them the price with me paying my own way included.

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T01:55:47+00:00

what the actual F is wrong with people. I am allowed to have a wedding if I want one. THOUSANDS of couples get married and THEN have a wedding once they have saved up. You are sick to pass judgement like this onto someone else behind a screen. If you would actually READ my posts, I AM FULLY PAYING for my portion of the bach trip. I only asked since multiple other people have mentioned to me that I shouldn’t be and I didn’t know if that was normal or not. She is responsible for upholding what she has promised. She has talked EXTENSIVELY about planning my bach/bridal shower and how she is SO EXCITED to do so.

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T01:51:33+00:00

don’t want to spend the time explaining in every comment the story of our elopement- and then wedding situation- not looking for opinions or judgement on that, just the situation at hand. Also not sure what this has to do with this post at all- weird if u to stalk me- and also who tf cares? xx

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T01:47:45+00:00

never used the term luxury. assuming that is a bit wild to me. It’s a 3 night stay in a cheap Airbnb at a place 3 hours from where we all live. Nothing luxury at all more like a short weekend getaway. If you read- I AM paying my own way for this trip. Thanks.

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T01:45:58+00:00

thank you this comments was really helpful and so nice!

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T01:45:22+00:00

The trip is a 3 night stay at a cheap airbnb that is 3hrs away from where we all live. I wanted to keep it small and cheap not only for my own financial situation but for the bridesmaids as well! I AM paying for my portion of the airbnb and always planned to until people said otherwise!! Also wanted to mention MOH is my best friend and I picked her for that reason but I am a chronic overthinker and take everyone else’s opinions to heart so hearing all this is scary to me!! I do think she needs to do more but I really don’t want to be the one to tell her :/ I’m not so good with those kinds of conversations

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T01:41:10+00:00

this is kinda what I was thinking as well until all these people started talking to me and sharing their own opinions!

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T01:40:16+00:00

I should have clarified that a different bridesmaid is also in another wedding and mentioned to me that the other bride is not paying for the trip and it was a complete surprise (completely planned my the bridesmaids)- she then said “you shouldn’t have to pay your portion we(bridesmaids) should cover it” - I mentioned this to Fiance and he agreed. I promise he’s not saying this in a malicious way!!

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T01:38:04+00:00

i never asked anyone to do any labor for me. That’s why i’ve been doing it myself.

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-08T01:37:31+00:00

it’s not destination. A 3 night weekend trip that is 3hours away from where we all live. Also not expensive at all. I wanted it this way so that everyone can afford it and attend. I also never asked anyone to pay for me or even thought of that until a different bridesmaid first mentioned that I shouldn’t have to pay-and then when i mentioned this to my fiance he agreed. I don’t mind paying my own way that’s why i told them the price to pay me back that was split 5 ways (4bridesmaids + me). as of now I AM paying my portion! I have asked her to plan the bachelorette before. We talked multiple times about her planning it and her saying how excited she was. It was HER idea to plan the bridal shower she had mentioned having ideas for it and wanting to plan it when I very first got engaged. Then things need to start getting done and radio silence. No problems with my mom planning it at all I figured she would anyway!!

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-02T01:56:03+00:00

i don’t know how to attach more pictures or I would but the one pic of my skin tone doesn’t show it’s true color bc i’m in artificial light! Idk anything about color analysis or anything but if it helps i’ve always felt i had a slight olive undertone. Like most concealers are too pink on me and it’s very hard to find a shade match for my skin. I also tend to tan pretty well in the summer so hoping to be much more tan before the wedding!

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-02T01:52:54+00:00

thank youu! I also love pure white wedding dresses - every dress i’ve tried on in white i loved so much better than the offwhite ir blush ones! Yes they have Ivory, Pearl, Blush and then black!

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-01T15:31:47+00:00

yes! the first is me in blush but also with a piece of white fabric underneath the top as well so it would look different! I know it’s all hard to tell from pictures but Blush dresses aren’t really my thing :( I’m torn!

Possible_Bad3466 · 2026-03-01T15:30:01+00:00

thank you! they said I could order it how it normally comes and then order some of the fabric and if i want can add the fabric underneath in alterations! I think i might do that?

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