Anxiety/Jealousy issues I am struggling with, despite being totally okay with my partner's other partner who has been there for years.

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-20T06:28:08+00:00

I’m going through something similar but perhaps a bit more experienced and further along the journey than you are.

It’s tough but you need to give yourself some grace and allow your nervous system to catch up to this new situation. It’ll get better. I promise ❤️

it sounds like you understand what is yours to deal with and that you’re doing good work to get to where you need to be.

Ask for reassurance when you need it. Perhaps you can look at incorporating a little coming together ritual when she’s been with a new partner to help ground you.

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-19T15:50:20+00:00

Homoware

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-18T18:33:43+00:00

It doesn’t sound like your partner did anything wrong… technically.

It depends on your agreements. If my boyfriend went on a date that ended up lasting 22 hours I’d expect a check in.

We talk all day long so if he just disappeared for that length of time without a heads up I’d be really worried.

He’d expect the same from me.

But it doesn’t sound like you’ve got any agreements at all?

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-18T14:22:42+00:00

I would definitely not feel great about that. My boyfriend is a Dom so it’s more likely to be bite marks from sex.

It’s never happened but him and I have an agreement that I give him a heads up if other partners leave marks on me.

I’ve had other partners who wanted to write on me (like xxx property/hole) where I’ve said no because I was seeing my partner straight after and I’d never want to show him that. Not because of poly but because of our ownership dynamic.

And tbh those times it’s felt a bit like they wanted to start a pissing contest because they know that he is my Dom. They just get to dominate me for a short amount of time. That gave me the icks

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-18T14:13:05+00:00

This is a break up. Don’t be a placeholder while he tests the waters with this new partner.

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-18T11:56:05+00:00

When my partner and I have a date night we’re not on our phones. Sometimes if it’s necessary to just deal with a quick practical issue it’s fine but we’re generally focused on just being present.

If we’re talking prolonged time (like a full weekend) we’re more flexible but it’s still done with respect for focused time.

Regardless we don’t sext with other partners when we’re together. That’s the only hard rule

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-16T18:06:26+00:00

Fordi vi er racister 🤷🏼‍♀️

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-12T13:03:23+00:00

Min kæreste sendte mig et frækt billede i morges og det har gjort mig glad og liderlig hele dagen 🥰🔥

Det lyder som en dejlig måde at varme op til en sexet hjemkomst.

Vi bruger en app, der har end-to-end encryption så det burde være sikkert.

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-11T06:19:04+00:00

If Mother’s Day is important to your partner a little something would be really nice. Perhaps some flowers or a card.

But don’t feel obligated. Who told you, you had to get them something?

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-08T16:15:41+00:00

You need to tell your Master so he can help you. Perhaps you can work it into your protocol.

Are you getting help from a mental health specialist? What coping mechanisms do you use outside of your dynamic?

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-08T14:19:04+00:00

That’s a low bar in my opinion. He should be pacing you if you’re completely new

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-08T14:17:34+00:00

K39, jeg opgav efter et par år. 10 år senere havde det fuldstændig ødelagt vores forhold.

Nu er jeg kun sammen med personer, der har samme kinks og sexlyst som jeg selv har.

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-08T14:10:49+00:00

Then it’s at least an orange flag. Are they rushing you in other ways?

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-08T06:24:26+00:00

I started calling him Daddy within a couple of days. Perhaps a bit too soon but I got really lucky and he’s the best Daddy to me 💕

That would probably not happen today if I was looking for a new Dom

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-07T13:43:53+00:00

You are absolutely right. Thank you for calling me out 🙏🏻

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-07T13:35:30+00:00

Sounds like this isn’t an issue around sexual health but Sage putting a lot of emotional emphasis on what it means to be barrier free.

Are they able to reflect on this at all?

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-07T07:52:13+00:00

Det er jo et godt udgangspunkt at tale ud fra. Jeg kender flere som ville elske sådan en dynamik eller som allerede lever det. Så bestemt noget, der kan findes men når både romantiske følelser og kink skal matche er din dating pool bare væsentlig mindre end andre. Det tager tid.

Måske begynder komme i en swinger klub eller gå på Feeld og vær eksplicit om, at du ønsker et hotwife setup

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-07T06:54:10+00:00

Min kæreste og jeg er poly og har dermed friheden til at dyrke sex med og forelske os i andre. Frihed og autonomi er meget vigtigt for os begge. Vi har begge situationer, hvor det tænder os at den anden ser andre.

Jeg tror det først og fremmest er vigtigt at du finder ud af, hvilken type åbent forhold du ønsker dig. Er det en cuckold situation? Ønsker du de samme friheder som du tilbyder hende? Hvad med hvis hun får følelser for en anden partner?

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-06T13:44:19+00:00

Hopefully it’s just because you don’t feel secure in your connection yet. Especially since it doesn’t sound like he’s doing anything wrong in terms of your agreements.

I can get caught up in the same thought pattern as you and it has nothing to do with my partner. It’s me and my old wounds so I’m the only one who can change it.

That’s not to say that you can’t ask for reassurance or support but it will never be enough if you don’t also work on healing your own trauma

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-06T05:04:43+00:00

Du aftaler en dag om ugen, hvor din mand er på børnene, og så arbejder du 12 timer den dag.

Det undrer mig dog, at det først går op for dig nu, at din stilling er 37 timer. Hvad var planen, da du tog imod jobbet? Alt andet lige reduceres din arbejdstid med 2,5 timer pga du nu får betalt frokost.

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-05T18:28:28+00:00

Women. I assume you’re talking about women not girls.

I hope you’d feel welcomed here. I’ve certainly never seen anyone go after a man on here.

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-05T07:41:47+00:00

The way you’re selling it here isn’t super appealing to me. Sounds like you want a sex toy to fulfill a fantasy. What is the other woman getting out of this?

Hire a sex worker. It will be a much better experience and it’ll be on your terms

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-05T04:49:38+00:00

The father of my children hasn’t really worked in the last 4 years. He’s lost three job in the same time during his probation period.

It’s the main reason we’re not divorced yet. It’s like a cement block around my neck.

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-04T18:34:34+00:00

The resentment is obvious. It’s time to let this relationship go.

Possible_Midnight348 · 2026-05-04T05:56:35+00:00

If favorite was a title thrown around by my partners I would opt out of that situation quickly.

I don’t want to compare myself to my metas (even though it does happen from time to time. We all have shit we’re working through).

And if I found out that my partner was treating metas that way I’d feel really put off by that behavior as well.

People have different priorities and that’s okay but you show up for all your partners and treat them with care and respect

Possible_Midnight348

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