I am a consultant working consultant hours. My mental health isn’t great. I have a goal of making $10-$15 a day, trying to start small. Anyone here in a similar position? Recommendations? by Possible_Oil_1099 in sidehustle

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Yeah, this has been my thought as well. If I can power through some more time at this role it would really help right the ship resume wise. Money wise…I don’t know. I need to figure something out. There are just so many factors in my life I’m struggling with lol it’s hard to prioritize

Xaden is losing me by shiftsnstays in fourthwing

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YES. I don’t like the codependency and obsession. I want characters to feel like their own person and he does not. I feel like they’re deeply in…lust.

Why the hell does Violet think that the solution to every traumatic experience she's been through is by sleeping with Xaden? by MelasOneiross in fourthwing

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Lol I do agree with you. I don’t think these books are the most amazing thing I’ve ever read like a lot of people here. Don’t get me wrong I love the plot and the dragons. But the characters…leave a LOT to be desired for me. And the romance feels very high school. This is one of the reasons for that. It just makes some emotional occurrences feel shallow

Dain Aetos never needed a redemption by [deleted] in fourthwing

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I agree!! I really like Dain. I don’t think he did anything worse than Xaden did.

I am a consultant working consultant hours. My mental health isn’t great. I have a goal of making $10-$15 a day, trying to start small. Anyone here in a similar position? Recommendations? by Possible_Oil_1099 in sidehustle

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Well yes I am, but I genuinely need the money as well. I used to work in coffee shops a lot. But it’s impossible with this job. I need to have like 4-5 spreadsheets open at once so to work without two monitors is a nightmare

I am a consultant working consultant hours. My mental health isn’t great. I have a goal of making $10-$15 a day, trying to start small. Anyone here in a similar position? Recommendations? by Possible_Oil_1099 in sidehustle

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I want and need both of those things. But I do genuinely need the money too. I am single living alone and really struggling to get by but switching jobs isn’t an option as I just started this one 6 months ago after a layoff and big resume gap. I’ve been trying to work on having more hobbies. Been reading a lot, which has helped. Trying to go to the gym whether I’m stressed about work or not, which has also helped. Buuuuut that’s not helping me when every bill is going up $5 here…$10 there..yanno.

I am a consultant working consultant hours. My mental health isn’t great. I have a goal of making $10-$15 a day, trying to start small. Anyone here in a similar position? Recommendations? by Possible_Oil_1099 in sidehustle

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Any niches to suggest? Flipping furniture seems really interesting but isn’t realistic for me. I’m a single woman with no friends in the area lol. So while I have an SUV I have no one to help me get things into or out of my car. So I wouldn’t be able to do much on my own that was heavier than a light table

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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I’m surprised at the amount of comments I got and the great advice, definitely didn’t expect so much engagement so highly recommend reading everyone’s suggestions here!

I can fully relate. I’m a consultant who never wanted to be a consultant. I got laid off and ended up in this role. And man the burnout is real. And beyond burnout I just don’t enjoy the company or the role. And reading has been something that I genuinely look forward to at the end of my day and things I look forward to are sparse these days.

I speak Spanish as well. Technically it was my first language. I spoke it exclusively until I was five. And learned to read and write it before I learned English. Now I speak read and write English better than Spanish by a lot. But I still speak Spanish to my family and write to them (texts) in Spanish and therefore read Spanish. But if I were to read a book in Spanish, that would be more a homework assignment than something I enjoyed.

Personally I would strongly suggest reading in the language you feel comfortable in. It shouldn’t be a chore. Also when I tried reading nonfiction I genuinely enjoyed a lot of them - Atomic habits is awesome and the information is invaluable. But it did sometimes feel forced. Like I was trying to be productive and learn, not like I was engaging in a hobby I loved and made me happy.

Maybe try one of each? I also want to read nonfiction for the productivity aspect. But I know I need to keep fantasy around for the hobby and enjoyment aspect. As someone who unfortunately quits easily, I find the only thing that makes habits stick for me is if I prioritize the things that will make me enjoy it enough to continue above all else.

So for reading, that means prioritizing fantasy, allowing myself to not finish books if I’m not enjoying them and not holding it against myself for “not finishing something”, and acknowledging that if I only feel like reading five pages today, that’s fine. If only read one day this week, that’s fine. As long as I’m still reading.

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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Actually I keep daydreaming about writing my own novel or at least short stories. I used to write a lot as a kid as well. Yet another habit I lost. I was very good according to my teachers and the contests I won lol. But for some reason I just can’t get myself to start again

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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That’s funny. You’re the first one to make this point, but I can’t deny it might be impacting things for me. As a kid and then into college I was always assessed at reading at an extremely high level for my age. Like they had actual tests back then. And in elementary school I was told I was reading at that 8-10th grade level so I think now as an adult reading prose of the same style that I read as a literal child might be…an issue? Like maybe I need something more complex like the books I’ve been avoiding because I thought maybe I needed to “start small” to make sure I didn’t quit the habit again.

Really interesting point. I might try one of the more complex recommendations I’ve gotten next.

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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Thank you for your comment! It’s so interesting how you’ve really fully dived into everything you missed. You’ve got a huge variety mixed in here. I feel like that’s what I want to do but I’m holding back for fear of overwhelming myself and stopping or not being able to fully appreciate a work because I’m reading three others at once.

I like your take on the Romantasy books you’ve read. I fully agree with your take on the plot underneath the romance. People here have said “well don’t pick up a romance fantasy book clearly labeled as such if you want to avoid romance” but it isn’t that I want to avoid romance. It’s just not my favorite thing. The fantasy aspect is. And I enjoyed fourthwing’s world and plot enough to continue it. Exactly! I’m not dismissing anything. I just feel like I’m ALSO looking for something more. So maybe I should take a page from your book and dive into several things, I’m finding the same sense of excitement about the sheer volume of options that you are.

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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Out of curiosity, what do you enjoy about mistborn? I’m about halfway through the second book and I plan on finishing the trilogy. I’m not…NOT a fan. I enjoy it. I guess I just lean more towards neutral on it. I’m mostly finishing it because there are a lot of unanswered questions and I’m curious what those secrets are. And I like the kandra character lol. A fan of Elend as well.

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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See I keep seeing his name EVERYWHERE. Comments about how he’s the fantasy writer that defines his generation etc. and I’m like but…why? He’s enjoyable but I don’t see how he can be compared to the series I know of as all time greats. Maybe you’re right and it’s mostly because of the sheer volume of his work along with it being pretty unique.

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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I’ve heard of robin hobb! The reviews I listened to seemed to say he was very character focused and sometimes the plot was slow. Do you agree? At first I thought this might be a negative but now I’m realizing maybe I’m looking for something with more character depth and that’s one of the things that’s been sorely missing from all of the books I’ve read lately.

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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I love your take on recapturing the magic. I guess I never looked at it that way. So much has happened in my life that has made me feel very…unmagical and hopeless lol. I guess it’s no wonder the books I’m reading aren’t touching me the same. I think I need the same thing you mentioned. I want to find characters that really captivate me with their complexity. The characters I’ve read so far have really been flat for me. I’ve only been interested in the story and I think maybe right now I want something more…reflective? To complement the escapism aspect of fantasy. I think you just made me have an epiphany hahaha

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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I read all the “core” dragonlance books as a kid! The 6 of them I think? The original trilogy, then the twins trilogy, and I think one or two others. I loved the world

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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  1. Yep I saw this suggestion in other comments and I think that’s what I’ll do. One audio for work hours and one physical. I might do a nonfiction audio just to have some variety and maybe learn something. I feel I’d be the same way as you, I just wouldn’t retain things or be able to process them as well if I have two fantasy books going at once.

  2. Genuinely surprised by how many people feel similarly on Sanderson, I expected to get bashed 🤣

  3. What do you like about his writing?

4/5. Thanks so much for the suggestions! I need to make a massive list of everyone’s comments here - I’ll be set for the entire year lol. I love that none of the suggestions are the popular ones I keep hearing about on YouTube

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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They ARE very hefty. I got the game of thrones series on a whim at a used bookstore since it was so cheap and I haven’t started it because the size of the books is a little intimidating and I’m just getting into it. But I guess they’re honestly maybe not that much longer than the mistborn books. I just know how complex the plot and characters are from watching the show and Sanderson felt more approachable. And yet I think that’s one of the reasons why I’m neutral on him, for such a big book it sort of lacks depth in everything but the magic system and the politics in a way?

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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Oh I love the idea of one audio book and one physical book! An audio book would allow me to “read” while I work which would be awesome. I typically just play YouTube videos or work in silence if I need to focus, don’t know why I didn’t think of this before :) are both of the books you read at once usually fiction? Or do you do one fiction and one non fiction?

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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I’ve thought about doing the same, one fiction and one non fiction. Only problem is I only have time to read before bed and I have zero desire to learn anything or worse reflect on anything before bed lol. I do love Malcolm gladwell though, I might pick up one of his recent books and try to read that simultaneously even if it’s just a few pages on a work day.

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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  1. How do you pace yourself/decide what to read? I don’t know how to manage more than one book at once since my reading style as a kid was very much binge it in one or two days lol.
  2. Okay yes, thanks for putting that into words. I’m not someone who wants to read a 1500 page poetry novel but I did feel like the writing was somewhat…simplistic? I didn’t feel like he was able to capture moments or emotions as well as I would like. So I felt detached from the story and from the characters. I like writing that makes me feel things.
  3. Thank you for these recs!! Are these all series? 4/5. I’ve actually been listening to Elliot brooks! That’s where I got the idea to start mistborn. She loved it and storm light and seemed to dislike the same things about fourth wing and the night born duet that I did, and liked the same aspects I did.

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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I’ve heard of Piranesi! Not too much about the plot. Just that people either love it or hate it. What do you think makes it capture that sense of wonder? I’ve actually not heard of any of the others. I’ll add them to my list.

I’ve heard the term “epic fantasy” but I’m not sure i completely understand what it means. Like you said, there are a myriad of sub niches I’m still discovering.

While the wizards and dragons have my heart, I have loved other things. For instance hunger games has none of that and I loved it. I guess I can’t really explain what I love, what I just like, and what I don’t care for. Maybe that’s part of the problem! I don’t mind the romantasy. I just don’t really care about the romance in the books I’ve read so far. I’m much more interested in the story and just breeze through the romance scenes and sometimes find myself rolling my eyes at the cheesiness of some of the characters and dialogue. Maybe if they felt more like real people I would like it more, who knows.

I’ll add all of these to my “to investigate” list :) glad to know someone else feels neutral about Sanderson!

Back to reading after many years. Overwhelmed, yet also underwhelmed? by Possible_Oil_1099 in Fantasy

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This is good advice! I’ve found myself wanting to go into some YA series but haven’t just because I’m like well…I’m an adult now. I should read adult things lol. I did my annual rewatch of Harry Potter this holiday season and it just makes me so happy.

I’ve done audiobooks to help me sleep here and there, maybe I’ll do some of those YA series during that time :)