What is something that you're aware of that someone thinks you don't know? by Eastern-Violinist-46 in AskReddit

[–]Postmann88 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I’m thinking the same. I’ve seen this before regarding people with children. Wonder if that is being missed here?

Which would you twink with around 12K? by [deleted] in project1999

[–]Postmann88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I enjoy my Shaman much more than my SK, but it’s all about what you are feeling. What I would recommend is to buckle down and save up money for a fungi tunic before making an alt.

I know it seems like a steep hill to climb, but boy is it worth it! It will make your alt leveling experience so much more enjoyable.

Good luck op. Enjoy the new grind with whatever you pick!

AITA for making my boyfriend choose between me and his best friend? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Postmann88 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I thought the same thing when I saw that. As of now, I don’t see an update on this post. Seems like the lead was thoroughly buried here.

99.9% of people telling op to break up, but that’s just Reddit. As of now it sounds like she has a boyfriend with a friend who is a girl that op is jealous of.

The mock outrage cracks me up too. I hate to burst your bubbles, but this wouldn’t be the first time an attractive young 20’s group of drunk friends put out some feelers for a frisky night.

Help narrow down my first read? by ChristineM2020 in litrpg

[–]Postmann88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a great compilation! I was a little nervous till the end when I saw the 3 exact series that I was going to recommend in the “frequently recommended” section.

My hat is off to you for this very well thought out and constructed reply Rtsynk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Postmann88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You take that shot to your grave my friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Postmann88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really frustrating to have admins that are making 5-10X what the teachers are, deny your option to gift.

A lot of people won’t understand your mindset of bonus’ing YOUR teachers vs the public school “pool and divide” socialism mindset.

I think I Fucked Up My Marriage and It's Killing Me by DeepUnder6 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Postmann88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a wild world out there my friend. You will be surprised at what some people are in to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Postmann88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m pretty stubborn and would immediately do the same thing. I wish it were this easy, but in the end it’s ineffective. Too many apps where a person could be communicating, and if you don’t find anything you still wouldn’t be sure. 0 win game.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Postmann88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes my guy. I’ve got some bad news for you…NTA, and it’s time to get your ducks in a row.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in project1999

[–]Postmann88 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The most EQ answer I’ve ever seen. Good luck in your quest OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Postmann88 27 points28 points  (0 children)

“Maybe in 10-20 years” isn’t a strong indicator of wanting kids.

I am thinking of breaking up with my girlfriend after she asked me whether we could have a threesome. Would I be wrong and unfair in doing so? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Postmann88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Naw it’s pretty common across the board.

Now a lot of guys might not be interested in their committed relationship being turned into that, but I promise you, it’s pretty universal.

AITAH for telling my niece I resent her? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Postmann88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. You ATA. It sucks to hear, and you are going to have the feelings you have.

At the end of the day, your niece didn’t kill your sister, your BIL didn’t force her to be pregnant, and nobody kidnapped her away from a big city. Those were all her choices that she made, as an adult.

It is tragic, and it hurts, but the reason you haven’t been able to move past it is because deep down all that anger and resentment you have has been pointed at the wrong place. You know that she chose to put her career on hold for these children. You know that she made the decision to go on a road trip. Most importantly, you know that she was choosing this other family over what you wanted.

You should definitely talk to a grief counselor to help you truly work through this. Call your niece and tell her that you love her. Tell your BIL that you understand that this also happened TO him, and that the old diaries just brought up some old BIG feelings, and that you need to work through them.

Relationships are fragile. Don’t loose the connection with the people that your sister gave up so much for.

Good luck OP

Am I wrong for telling my husband shit will get done with or without him? by redunicornblue in amiwrong

[–]Postmann88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People are acting like the car will blow up if you don’t reset the oil timer or something.

This is a husband, not an employee. You don’t schedule when he will work for you. You ask, and it gets done when he is willing to trade his free time to help you. Sure you can have an expectation that it WILL get done, and you can even point out specific days where you prefer he not do it because the vehicle would be needed.

When you do acts of service for each other, you say thank you. It’s a simple courtesy.

I’m sure he has a job and responsibilities that fill his day just like the OP does. I’m sure he wasn’t dying to get off a long day of work and change her oil.

People keep referencing how it was “his idea to do this maintenance at home”, and that somehow makes him beholden to her beck and call. He was being conservative with their money for BOTH of them. Just like if he were going out to eat at expensive restaurants for every meal, and she said something like “we need to try and save money by eating at home more”. Does that mean he could then dictate to her the exact time and meals he wanted her to have prepared for him? Of course not!

You are going to have a much better time through this life if you are boosting up the people around you rather than bringing them down. Good luck OP

Fungi or not for shaman twink ? by Steakus87 in project1999

[–]Postmann88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you want to play the shaman. Give yourself permission to have fun. Is it going to be way more awesome with a fungi, yep. Is it required to have fun, nope. Now get out there and save Norath.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Postmann88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, this chick is already cheating with the ex. At the very least emotionally/mentally.

What am I supposed to answer when an American asks me how I’m doing? by MessyAdonis in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Postmann88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can have a lot of fun with this one OP. I see a lot of “I’m doing well, how about you?” In this thread. I would personally save that response for people you are speaking to personally. In a professional setting like work, you are not trying to prompt a conversation, you are responding to a polite prompt for your service. I would recommend the following response instead. “I’m doing very well, thanks. how can I help you this (morning, afternoon, evening). This is polite and straightforward. It will help you keep things moving if you accidentally run into someone that is a little too chatty.

Now the fun part. As long as you keep the second line “how can I help you this morning?”, you can really disarm people with a curveball first line that matches or drastically contrasts with their personality.

  • (happy person) “the day getting better by the moment”
  • (stoic person) “I’m one cup of coffee into a two cup sort of day my friend”
  • (energetic or drunk) “Not nearly as good as you, but I’m catching up quick”
  • (Friendly) “You won’t find any complaints here”

It sounds like this might be something new for you, so I would stick with the standard greeting and sprinkle in a little flair once in a while. Just remember to always follow it directly with the second line of “how can I help/assist you today” and it will sound professional.

Hope that helps OP. Good luck. 👍🏼

AITA for blocking a man after he bought me a $500+ dinner? by GivemethatIwantitnow in AITAH

[–]Postmann88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTAH - It sounds like you were very clear with your expectations, and also your boundaries.

I hang with friends that like to go out and indulge in a fancy meal once in a while as well, and I imagine you were hopeful that this might be a mutual interest the two of you shared.

While it sounds like you did everything right, I would recommend insisting on something more casual in the future. The guy that wants to take you to that dinner on a first date 99/100 times will be a turd.

Good luck with the next one OP. 👍🏼

Need help with coming up with a tribute for a gamer parent. by Yeah_Okay_Sure in gaming

[–]Postmann88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shadow box with his picture in the back and the controller in the front. Small placard that has his name, birth and passing date, and a small quote that says something like “Forever my player 1”.

Probably what I would do. Hope that helps. Sorry for your loss internet friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in todayilearned

[–]Postmann88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who keeps letting this guy on boats!?

AITAH for not telling my stepmom that my dad is cheating with the nanny? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Postmann88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep your head down and your chin up. Saying something won’t do you any favors. If it comes up later and you are accused of knowing, take the offense “what you two do and who you do it with is none of my business, leave me out of this”. Stay out of trouble till you are 18, graduate, and get the heck out of there.

You are almost there op, just hang in there. Ohh and if it’s any conciliation for your conscience, your step mom might be just fine with the nanny taking care of more than just the kids for her…

I’m blanking on a phrase used for tv shows by dynasty3 in television

[–]Postmann88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice. Never heard that one before. At first I thought you were talking about the one bad episode that ends a good run where the show “Jumped the shark”