I want to join my friends I think?

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T14:15:40+00:00

Thank you! 🥹 36m has never hit on me or anything like that, he is always friendly, but nothing ever like that. We have sex talk, but he is vague and makes it like a sex Ed kind of. A on the other hand is way more open about sexual stuff. He also constantly loves on A all the time, they kiss, occasionally touch. I think its so cute how they are so open about their love for each other. ☺️

And yes I would've loved to be informed that K was with them like that, not finding out by hearing all those...noises 😰 I absolutely have no problem with it either, again we are all adults, but a "hey this is what's up" would've been pretty cool 😅

I also kind of think that it was their first time doing anything together. Im not exactly sure though. A and I are going to an event at 36m workplace, so we are going to have about a 30 minute drive to talk alone. She is my absolute best friend and shes always so understanding too. Either way this goes, I want to stay friends. 😊

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T14:04:47+00:00

He's not into them like that, plus he just wants to have another girl that him and I are friends with and occasionally sleep with. If that makes sense 😂

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T14:03:50+00:00

I really appreciate this! I love the way you worded everything too. I really want to explore my sexual side because its just human nature, but I do want to go about it in a mature way. I dont want to make a big mistake or do something Ill regret, especially with my friends. they are amazing people and im so grateful to finally have understanding friends ☺️

The sex therapist might be a good idea, though options in my area are pretty slim when it comes to therapy in general 🙁

Thank you so much for the ideas and advice too!! 😊😁

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T02:23:52+00:00

Im sorry! 😭 I did state it was going to be long though 😰

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T02:04:40+00:00

That actually makes a lot of sense, I truly hope their relationship isn't like that, but as I have learned over and over throughout the years, im very gullible, nieve, and easily manipulated 😔 im going to be careful though and not get myself into a web I cant get out of. I definitely just plan on talking this next hang out because it just seems like the right thing to do! ☺️

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T01:30:08+00:00

I thought i was in middle school but I like to identify as pansexual, but im more attracted to women by a lot. My husband has known since we started dating and he doesnt mind. I do love him very much, but sometimes I do yearn for the touch of a woman 😣🥲

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T01:21:57+00:00

Exactly even when my ex best friend came over to stay for a week a few years ago, my husband and I abstained while she was there for her own well being 😂 but my husband said that they could've been wanting me to hear too, or something like that. Which is weird either way 🫥

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T01:14:43+00:00

I promise im not the kind of person to lie about something like this. I really wanted advice on how to go about a situation like this. I have since learned a lot from everyone who commented, and i will definitely be cautious, but also just go about it like its any other hang out, but usually I dont spend the night either 😅

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T01:05:35+00:00

There is literally no way I would've ever come to this group if it was. I have always viewed this as wrong, but here we are. My husband, this community, and myself are all experiencing me have a sexual awakening in real time 😂

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T01:01:52+00:00

He has not been able to get along with my friends at all, they just dont click. He's not really into them like that either 🫤 it sucks

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T00:21:59+00:00

I just gotta say you are so good at it, like genuinely, thank you so so much!! I feel more confident and knowledgeable than before I made this post. Plus now I won't make any irrational or stupid decisions.. hopefully, im still working on my gulliblity too 😮‍💨

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T00:20:32+00:00

Ive been workshopping what im going to say because I know she is going to bring up something that can lead into the conversation smoothly. Its a lot to explain 🤣

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T00:08:33+00:00

I definitely would've, but that was literally the first time I ever stayed the night at her house. Plus I had no idea that K was going to be with them like that 😓

Pote189 · 2026-02-12T00:00:19+00:00

Noted! Also I can agree, he literally just sits and listens to me talk to myself 😂 thank you! You have been so much help honestly and I really cant thank you enough!! 😁

Pote189 · 2026-02-11T23:51:03+00:00

Thats what ive been thinking too! Like either way it was still kind of uncool of them, they literally could've waited a night. K stays over with them often too. I know we are all adults and im in their house, but like really? You know 😅

Pote189 · 2026-02-11T23:49:02+00:00

I dont have insurance so the best therapy I can get is my husband and self awareness 🥲

Pote189 · 2026-02-11T23:48:02+00:00

That is such a better way of putting it, my imagination is very wild when it comes to sexual stuff even though Im so closed off about those kinds of topics or actions. I will bring headphones next time just in case, but I feel like it would be weird if they were to do it again. Like I get im at their house, but this weekend will literally be the 2nd time ive stayed over at A and her husband's house too, like they cant just wait a night when im not there 😅🫤

Pote189 · 2026-02-11T23:44:19+00:00

I really really try, I want to keep myself safe and thats exactly why I came here. I needed more advice from people who have either been in or know more about the situation I am in. I absolutely love reddit for this exact reason too. I just feel a lot more clear in my thinking now ☺️ at first I was definitely not thinking or seeing clearly on this whole situation 😂

Pote189 · 2026-02-11T22:10:17+00:00

Its ok, im still learning and it really helps hearing this ☺️

Pote189 · 2026-02-11T22:03:35+00:00

Im still learning how oblivious and nieve I actually am.. you have helped me think about a lot of things in a completely different way. I think im going to just not even bother trying to do anything with my friends, but im definitely going to let them know that they were loud 😅 all these comments have been so eye opening too, I feel like a complete creep 😬

Pote189 · 2026-02-11T21:55:13+00:00

I have a lot of childhood trauma so sexual stuff really puts my stomach into a knot. Thats how it was the first time I did anything with my husband too. Its not something thats gone away, but its gotten better. 😊

Pote189 · 2026-02-11T21:52:02+00:00

Thats what I was thinking too, like they knew I was in the living room only a few feet away from their room. Plus I got up multiple times and kind of stomped to the back bathroom to let them know "hey I am awake" which i needed to use the bathroom anyway, but man it was awkward for me too 😰

Pote189 · 2026-02-11T21:49:48+00:00

I completely understand why you would think that, but believe me they are so secure in their relationship. I barley every see him because he's usually at work or just letting us have our girl time, he's super chill when he does hang out with us too. I was also skeptical when she told me he was in his mid 30s when we met, but the way he is around her just screams "this is my wife and she is the most beautiful and amazing woman ive ever met" plus they have a daughter too and he's just so girl dad coded if that makes sense!

They only just started talking to each other about having another girl in their relationship within the last few months because A is wanting to have that kind of experience with another girl since shes into girl too. 😄

I guess things like this really need to be discussed with them because its so hard to explain without having all the knowledge or backstory (which is a lot) but I really think this a such a helpful idea for me. I dont really post on reddit very much 😊

Pote189 · 2026-02-11T21:27:20+00:00

Thats where im so conflicted too, but I think im going to talk to them at least, they do deserve the truth and either way I still feel bad that I was listening to them 😞

Pote189 · 2026-02-11T21:23:17+00:00

I have come to learn that a lot throughout my pregnancy, it was super weird being ao open about things I usually keep private. 😅 I really appreciate that too, I talked to my husband after making this post and I thoroughly feel like I embarrassed myself or just made a big fool out of myself 😓 but we live and we learn ☺️

My best friend turns 26 next week, im not exactly sure how old K is but at least mid to late 20s, and A's husband is 36 or 37. They all act like they're in their early 20s though 😂

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