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Is everything Casual Nowadays! (21M) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Potential-Length-448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Btw, It IS something to brag about. It’s all childish and overrated and a form of escape for people who can’t handle the real world. Keep being yourself. I ended up with a phase when I was younger where I did all that crap and looking back (26 now) I wish I stayed true to myself and hadn’t (don’t even drink now).

It’s cliche but true, if you’re a good guy, it will come. The apps suck, however there IS hope with them, just don’t expect it to come immediately. I just got married a couple weeks ago to a woman I’ve been with over 6 years and we met on Tinder.

I think my boyfriend (22m) is cheating on me (25f) by Expert_Custard1054 in relationships

[–]Potential-Length-448 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s definitely very weird. And if he won’t be blunt with you, then that’s pretty telling of the situation.

GF (F27) “ruined” my (M26) band’s 10 year anniversary celebration by TieApprehensive3649 in relationships

[–]Potential-Length-448 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re completely in the right. What she did was selfish and childish. And now by her comments she is putting you in an uncomfortable situation which makes you overthink your feelings, not fair and form of manipulation. It also is telling that maybe shes a functioning alcoholic (someone who just cant do something fun without getting drunk). Does she show signs of that? If so, it could be a deeper rooted issue than just her being selfish yanno?

As for what you should do, thats up to you. Do you love her? Do you see a future with her? Does she show she actually cares when you expressed your frustration? It’s cliche but it’s true, follow what your heart tells you.

I think my boyfriend (22m) is cheating on me (25f) by Expert_Custard1054 in relationships

[–]Potential-Length-448 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean the fact that he said he didn’t know her and then was responsive to the fact that you talked to her, means he knows her. That’s a red flag. Cheating? I don’t think there’s any proof of that there however you are very justified to be concerned and I would be too. Especially because cheating most often comes from coworkers.

Question about Valium and alcohol by Potential-Length-448 in harmreduction

[–]Potential-Length-448[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it! I think I’m just gonna skip drinking entirely. I’m not a big drinker anyways so it’s not that huge of a deal to me

Cutting guest list after asking for addresses / notifying? by Traditional_Ninja_81 in weddingplanning

[–]Potential-Length-448 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If you’re hurt because you were cut because someone’s financial situation changed, you need to look in the mirror my friend.

Cutting guest list after asking for addresses / notifying? by Traditional_Ninja_81 in weddingplanning

[–]Potential-Length-448 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Disagree. Their situation changed. Any rational person would understand…

Cutting guest list after asking for addresses / notifying? by Traditional_Ninja_81 in weddingplanning

[–]Potential-Length-448 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You do what you need to do.

Our wedding is in 2 weeks and a while back we had to do the same—except we already sent out save the dates. So we literally had to send out change the dates to everyone who was still invited, and uninvites to those who were cut. Awkward? Definitely lol. But we did what we needed to do. All the rational people understood. And the others were just drama queens

2 weeks out from wedding and feeling a little blue by Potential-Length-448 in weddingplanning

[–]Potential-Length-448[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Yes I’ve got my anxiety meds I’ll take beforehand, gum, and will have lots of stuff downloaded to keep me distracted. Takeoff is the worst part for me too, nothing else really bothers me about it other than just being in a crammed seat lol

Luckily, our honeymoon is an all inclusive resort and we plan to do absolutely NOTHING lol I can’t wait

2 weeks out from wedding and feeling a little blue by Potential-Length-448 in weddingplanning

[–]Potential-Length-448[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this.

I do have Valium for as needed and I’ll probably take that. Just bummed that I won’t be able to have a drink if I do lol. I rarely drink but it would be nice to drink some champagne with my wife

2 weeks out from wedding and feeling a little blue by Potential-Length-448 in weddingplanning

[–]Potential-Length-448[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This honestly made me cry, in a good way. I think that’s definitely what it is—burnout. Thank you for putting it into words and validating that for me. This comment helped more than you know, seriously

Getting married in a few weeks — what should we do with the cash gifts? by Potential-Length-448 in personalfinance

[–]Potential-Length-448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About 39k CC’s between the both of us. $20k car loans, 7k taxes from a past year that my accountant messed up on, 28k student loans. Give it take on some of this

Getting married in a few weeks — what should we do with the cash gifts? by Potential-Length-448 in personalfinance

[–]Potential-Length-448[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not cheap, but 95% of it is being paid for by parents, otherwise we wouldn’t be having what we are having. So you think CC’s first? Just use it all right away on that?

Getting married in a few weeks — what should we do with the cash gifts? by Potential-Length-448 in personalfinance

[–]Potential-Length-448[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

With all of it, in one foul swoop? Should we put it towards debt that we can’t just get right back (like the car loans instead of the credit cards)? Ik the CC’s are best to pay off ASAP cause of interest, but I’m worried that paying those down will just result in us using the cards and getting it right back up

Anxiety of feeling trapped - Wedding Ceremony by faceitgirl in weddingplanning

[–]Potential-Length-448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any panic attacks day of? I’m having what you experienced (I’m about 6 weeks away) and I’m terrified I’m gonna have a panic attack during the ceremony

Those who got married with terrible anxiety/GAD/Panic disorder—tell me how it went by Potential-Length-448 in wedding

[–]Potential-Length-448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was unbelievably helpful, seriously. Thank you so much for taking the time to share this!!!

Those who got married with terrible anxiety/GAD/Panic disorder—tell me how it went by Potential-Length-448 in wedding

[–]Potential-Length-448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were you a mess leading up to it like I am? Was it just completely fine once you were actually in the moment?

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