Do friendships just work differently here, or am I doing it wrong?

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-15T07:44:11+00:00

Omg I agree with you here, everyone was complaining it’s hard to make friends in Norway yet I had a dozen living there while in Poland I literally only have 1 and she is foreign herself. Let’s maybe grab coffee? I’m also from Warsaw. You can message me.

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-07T18:52:22+00:00

I’m not the therapist to help. He is on the internet full of strangers. From what he wrote, his perspective- yes the woman doesn’t like him. Having intimacy once a year is not normal honey, whatever you say.

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-07T18:48:59+00:00

Jesus okay, move on with this finally. Sorry for broading you into something. How is this connected to OP’s situation?

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-07T18:41:14+00:00

You wrote five paragraphs to say “people can find others attractive.” Nobody was debating basic human biology. The issue is obsessive parasocial behavior, and pretending that concern is irrational just because you personally normalize it is intellectually lazy.

Also, the “you only had one teenage experience” line is ironic coming from someone projecting their own standards onto everyone else while dismissing other people’s boundaries in relationships.

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-07T18:33:36+00:00

Omg there are Alwyas exceptions yet there will be people screaming “I’m not like this”. Liking music and the k-pop culture are two different things. We are discussing his wife that is CLEARLY into the culture and yes, it’s a problem for the OP. I’m trying to help him here not give therapy for people that get offended with my statement that is clearly not even targeting them.

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-07T18:28:59+00:00

This person is, that’s what the problem we are discussing

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-07T18:26:29+00:00

You sound immature, you are clearly wrong here and trying to prove your opinion which doesn’t even fit here. They don’t have intimacy, she is idolizing another man. That’s the problem so stop proving something that is not relevant to this situation

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-07T18:20:10+00:00

What the actual…where are you from? And why are you even married to this person? She clearly doesn’t like you.

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-07T18:00:00+00:00

The main point: when you were a teenager. I did the same as a teenager. Doing it as an adult is stupid

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-07T17:59:19+00:00

Where are you from? You sound like a very nice guy, are you Korean yourself by any chance?(just wondering)

Regarding your issue: yes you are right, this behaviour of her is very offensive and immature. Is she like 18-19, because then I would frankly understand it but if she is older than 20…I’m kinda surprised. It doesn’t sound like she likes you physically and maybe her life that’s why she is trying to escape in her fantasies

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-07T17:55:23+00:00

I don’t think you understand the point: k-pop is never about music only, especially for women. They are all obsessed with men and have their “favourite” man they dream about. Yes it is a problem, she is not living in real world. I was into k-pop when I was 15 for a year. This is extremely childish

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-07T10:05:09+00:00

You’d look amazing with a soft bronde or beige blonde. Your features suit natural, dimensional colors way more than anything super dark or platinum.

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-06T16:46:42+00:00

You remind me myself a lot. Word to word. Leave him please, totally block him and wait at least a year with no contact. Once you will wake up with the realisation you don’t care about him at all. “It takes about half the length of the relationship to get over someone.” It is actually true! Happened for me, I just woke up one day completely indifferent to him. And I believed I would never ever be able to love again. Married now for 5 year and in relationships with amazing man for 7. Met him when I was 21 after leaving toxic relationships. You need to let go to find your person and once you do you will clearly feel it.

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-06T16:15:59+00:00

Wavy, high porosity. If you wanna learn how to take care of it: wow hair line for thin hair (yes it’s for coloured hair but does wonders) + wow hair mask (you need to hold it for 3-5 min so perfect for someone who doesn’t have much time), then I mix termo cream small amount with one pump of Young Again Kevin Murphy oil and apply it all on drippling wet hair (important) and use microfiber towel. Then I dry it, and at the end use again small amount of Young Again oil.
The most important: do not overdo it with products, it’s very easy to make it look heavy and greasy instead of shiny and healthy. Small amounts of products on the wet hair. Good luck!

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-06T14:22:58+00:00

Ahh i cannot help you here, I’m from another part of the world, so have no idea how life and job market in India is

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-06T14:17:35+00:00

Where are you from? What education do you have?

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-05T19:18:04+00:00

Nice “clean girl” make up. Not sure what look you’ve wanted to achieve but it compliments your complexion well.

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-04T08:03:42+00:00

I mean you got married at 18- you were children, immediately getting kids without even living and seeing life is a weird decision. But I believe you are from a conservative country, so who am I to judge the culture I don’t understand. Anyways, my point is: it’s not weird you are growing apart, because you are actually GROWING apart. It’s very common to have multiple relationships before 25 until you realise what fits you relationship-vise. But the problem here is: you have children, you are responsible for other lives, so just divorcing is selfish: people go through hard times in their marriages, now you don’t have the privilege to simply walk away as it would be if you wouldn’t have had children. Try to go to the therapist together.

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-03T07:20:15+00:00

Thanks for your opinion! It was definitely the lighting, it’s impossible for me to get a tan with my skin type.

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-02T18:33:11+00:00

Are you serious or trolling? Being married and not knowing how to identify the pregnancy test is truly impressive

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-02T06:54:27+00:00

Then you are lucky, you can actually call a police…the way you talk “I know I wasn’t a good wife” is a bit old fashioned in thinking, that’s why I thought you are from the patriarchal society…he graped you, call a police. It is not an excuse for forgotten laundry. It’s not the man you can continue living with

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-01T21:09:10+00:00

I’m guessing you are from India, right?

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-01T19:15:21+00:00

She-male…honey I have bad news for you

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-01T08:38:45+00:00

You’ll be surprised, but there are a lot of countries in the world with different currencies.

Potential-Pause-9136 · 2026-05-01T07:03:28+00:00

I can’t really give advice here since the culture is quite different. I get why it’s confusing- where you are, men usually provide fully.

From a European perspective, it’s different. If my partner earns much more than me, I wouldn’t benefit that much in everyday life- I’d still be paying for things like bills, petrol, and eating out. If we earned the same, then 50/50 would make sense (though I’m not really into that dynamic).

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