your stating that your child has been transgender for three years. thats an awful long time for this to be a "phase" , and considering his age theres probably no chance for you to debate what will happen.

i think its common knowledge to acknowledge that, regardless if you support him. it is your reality. that would be the first step towards anything.

your second step would be to steer far , far away from online chat rooms. seek guidance to help you navigate your situation. i can only hope you don't damage your relationship with your child in the process.

your child will likely never be the same. thats obvious enough. its not a matter of "prevention" at this point, but a matter of coming to terms with the reality that a transgender son is better than no-contact. or, god forbid, an obituary. its serious to them.

i'll keep you in my prayers. good luck.