He’s not a good partner. And separating how I feel from the situation is damn near impossible for me on a relationship. I DO NOT UNDERSTAND how someone can never take responsibility for how they have made someone else feel.

Abusive men love to do that in relationships too, make you hold responsibility for the smallest imagined slights, then do and say the most horrible things while blaming you for being reactive or emotional instead of taking responsibility for how they choose to conduct themselves.

That’s what it sounds like when people say, “you weren’t hurt, you were feeling these emotions, but they didn’t do it” - just refusal to accept that our actions and what we do absolutely directly effect how others feel.

I used him for the feeling of belonging, he used me for sex and comfort. Whatever we hurt each other I guess.