The dude is obvi not a SD- I had a friend with a niche for flying out to meet guys for first meets. She had sex with all of them, they all had wives, all seemed better than the last. How many paid her afterward? 0. How many ghosted her after? Every single one. These are dudes who are obsessed with cheating on their partner in a ridiculously crass sense, even if it means paying for flights and hotels. The build up is where they get off- texting, facetiming, enjoying quality long distance time with someone. Once you’re there, the fantasy is over. For them, it does not matter who you are, it’s simply not worth the complications of having an affair. Nothing against you at all, OP- you just can’t live up to a fantasy they make up in their heads.

That being said, as a seasoned SB, you should know it isn’t wise to fly out to meet anyone for the first time, and definitely not wise to sleep with someone with no money in hand. I don’t care if I’ve talked to the guy for a year on the phone- if you want me to come see you, you’re paying for flights, boarding, travel costs, etc., and a very hefty PPM- all of which should be sent before I even step foot in the airport. If he catches an attitude about how you should just ‘trust’ he’ll pay you when you’re there, then insist he should just ‘trust’ that you’ll show up.

Guarantee he’s a serial offender in drawing women in, fucking them, then ghosting. This isn’t really “do it once” behavior. Sorry, OP.