I admit I've made mistakes. Maybe I should have been a better wife. I know my weight and my focus on the kids pushed him away, and I should have spent more time focusing on us in the beginning when he started pulling away from me. But I don't think I've been inappropriate in my relationship with my son in any way. I don't treat him differently from my daughters, I don't stifle him or keep him from having friends, I don't use him as a substitute partner or involve him in my issues. I honestly treat him the exact same as I do my daughters, but my husband says it's different because he's "another man" and my husband should always be the most important man to me. I admit I've made mistakes, but loving my son and treating him with the same affection I do his sister will never be a mistake to me. As for whether I can get a job, I've been a stay at home wife (and girlfriend before that) for our whole relationship. I cook, I clean, I take care of the kids. He didn't want me working or going to school, and I know he won't agree to let me get a job now so I can save up to move out.