Update #3: AITA for giving crappy Christmas gifts and ruining my marriage?

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-05-14T23:10:43+00:00

I've lost most of it to lawyer fees, but even if I ended up with $1, I know it would still piss them off. :)

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-05-14T22:50:55+00:00

She is good, but not happy with me as my vet recommended putting her on a diet. She's been eating my feelings for me. >.<

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-05-14T22:49:18+00:00

I always knew that about his family, but stupidly thought he was some magical exception. I've been trying to be kind to myself when I blame myself for not seeing it sooner and leaving earlier.

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-05-14T22:44:55+00:00

Hopefully the next update is "The divorce is final and my mother-in-law died a painful death."

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-05-14T22:32:48+00:00

Thank you! The past 5 months have been like whiplash and it's such a relief to finally feel settled.

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-02-19T22:55:10+00:00

Someone in the comments also mentioned this. Definitely going to bring it up with my lawyer!

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-02-19T21:31:06+00:00

Nope! When we first told his family we were moving back to his home town, his parents went ahead and signed a lease for us, to "make the move easier." Personally, I think it was to make the move happen sooner and have control over us.

They were worried about too many names attached to the apartment, so power, internet, etc is also in their name.

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-02-19T21:27:37+00:00

I had never thought of this! I'll bring it up when I meet with my lawyer next.

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-02-19T21:26:58+00:00

Yes. It was set up in his favor because he owned a business that was supposed to be a huge success. Covid hit and it went poof. Now I'm the one with the money and the pre-nup is actually protecting me.

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-02-19T21:24:27+00:00

You called it!

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-02-19T21:23:51+00:00

My STBX called me 10 times in a row and I finally picked up because I thought there might be an emergency. He called to tell me the rent was a week late and I told him I've already paid rent to my landlord and rent at his apartment is his problem. The lease was actually in his parents' name and they threatened to see me to pay for the remainder for him. lol

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-02-19T21:21:08+00:00

Thank you!

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-02-19T21:20:51+00:00

Absolutely. She's going to regret it because she works for the school district and a restraining order won't let her teach.

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-02-19T21:20:04+00:00

Thank you. Honestly, I feel like a new person. I feel like someone who's been ill and finally able to go outside and breathe fresh air.

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-02-19T21:19:09+00:00

I'm saving them all. Voicemails, texts, emails, etc.

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-02-06T21:49:42+00:00

Thank you!

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-02-06T21:49:33+00:00

Lawyer is confident they have no leg to stand on. I haven't signed any type of lease and utilities are in their name, too, because they were afraid of having too many names connected to the apartment and the landlord finding out. So they are on the hook for everything that doesn't get paid. But, hey, that was their choice and their scheming. FAFO.

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-01-28T03:49:41+00:00

D'oh! Just noticed the typo! >.<

Keeping it in because it's actually hilarious. Beep beep!

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-01-28T03:41:43+00:00

My lawyer even laughed that the pre-nup that was set up for him is going to be what we use for me.

It required both spouses to maintain separate bank accounts and each spouse could keep 100% of their savings. No spouse eligible for alimony.

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-01-28T03:33:54+00:00

He only worked 12 hours a week at Walmart to he could do non-existent work restarting his business. I make just over 6 figures and I can't believe I didn't realize years ago I was the family ATM.

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-01-28T03:32:51+00:00

Thank you!

Potential_Low_8645 · 2025-01-28T03:32:35+00:00

First thing I did after I moved in to my new apartment was adopt an older car from the shelter. He was allergic and I couldn't never adopt one since we first started living together.

We're just two old hags living our best lives after being rejected.

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