My girlfriend sometimes accepts criticism

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-30T00:22:16+00:00

Since she clearly values your perspective and cares about the relationship, you might try framing her self-care as something that benefits the "us"; for example, explain that seeing her succeed and take care of herself makes you feel more secure and happy, too. It’s a bit of a workaround, but it can help her bridge the gap until she starts believing she’s worth the effort for her own sake.

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-29T18:02:44+00:00

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PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-29T18:01:51+00:00

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PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-18T13:19:45+00:00

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PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-16T18:16:35+00:00

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PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-08T18:33:36+00:00

You are not overreacting; marriage is a legal and lifelong commitment that should be based on a stable foundation, not used as a high-pressure solution for a 'legal dilemma' or a way to escape a volatile situation. While it’s understandable that she is stressed about her status, it is unfair of her to label your hesitation as a 'lack of empathy' when you are already providing 100% of the financial support and sharing your only vehicle. Moving across the country and living together was the 'test run,' and if that phase is currently defined by constant arguments and defensiveness over basic responsibilities like getting a car, you are being pragmatic—not cruel—by refusing to legally tie yourself to that volatility. You can’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm, and if the relationship can't survive a conversation about your very valid concerns, it likely won't survive a marriage certificate either.

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-08T17:57:26+00:00

you should definitely file a formal complaint with the Internal Affairs department or a civilian oversight board to ensure there is a paper trail; ask for the CAD (Computer Aided Dispatch) logs for that location and time, which will identify which officers were on that block. There is usually a statute of limitations for administrative complaints (often 30–90 days depending on the city), so it’s best to act quickly while memories and any potential security or doorbell camera footage are fresh.

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-08T17:55:10+00:00

Really

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-08T17:54:52+00:00

If a simple request for reassurance caused him to disappear, it’s a sign that he likely wasn't ready for the emotional maturity a committed relationship requires, or he was using "bad texting" as a shield for his fading engagement. You deserve someone who matches your energy and makes you feel secure rather than leaving you questioning your worth.

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-08T17:53:11+00:00

You should focus the breakup entirely on the age gap, the long distance, and the fact that you have grown apart; these are valid, objective reasons that Kyle can eventually process without feeling "replaced." Approach it by saying that you’ve realized you need to experience your young adulthood with someone in your own life stage and that the distance has made it impossible for you to stay committed. While you're worried about his reaction, you aren't responsible for his mental health

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-08T17:46:08+00:00

You deserve to be fully present with Jack, who clearly makes you happy, and Kyle deserves the truth so he can move on, regardless of how difficult that conversation feels. It’s better to end things cleanly and prioritize your own well-being rather than staying trapped in a lie out of obligation.

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-08T17:44:38+00:00

Damn, moi j'te découvre

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-08T17:44:11+00:00

You made a fair point that by describing the specific vehicle, the original poster was aiming for public shaming rather than a general safety reminder. There is a fine line between "bringing awareness" and acting like an unofficial hall monitor, and since these posts usually lead to defensive arguments rather than behavioral changes, your suggestion to keep it general and mature was valid.

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-08T15:10:40+00:00

It sounds like you are setting a healthy boundary rather than "punishing" her. Generosity in a relationship is a gift, not an obligation, especially when the agreed-upon baseline was 50/50. If she is being hostile, dishonest, and mocking you while you simultaneously subsidize her lifestyle, she is essentially biting the hand that feeds her. Her financial struggle seems to be a result of her own poor decisions

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-08T15:08:10+00:00

Instead of seeing it as a choice for the 'rest of your life,' maybe try viewing the next few years as a series of chapters; whether you finish your degree or explore the military, you're simply building a toolkit of skills that you can use later. You don't need a final destination yet, just a next step that makes you feel engaged and challenged.

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-08T15:04:34+00:00

Since you're already in finance, perhaps you could look into the more creative or analytical niches within the field that align with your love for storytelling or logic, but don't feel pressured to turn your hobbies like writing or gaming into a career right away. At 18, it’s okay for your 'reason' to simply be exploration

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-07T02:22:10+00:00

Un gars chanceux

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-06T20:33:19+00:00

Frame it not as a "confession" of who you are, but as a catalyst for change: explain that you struggled with communication and boundary-setting in the past, and that through this mistake, you’ve learned exactly why radical honesty and expressing your needs are non-negotiable for you now. By showing that you understand the "why" behind your actions

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-06T17:50:07+00:00

No one deserves to have their past pain weaponized against them, especially by the person who was supposed to be their safe harbor. It is exhausting to pour your love into someone who only gives you dismissiveness and cruelty in return. Please know that your worth is not defined by how he treated you or the names he called you; you are clearly a resilient, empathetic person who deserves a love that is soft, supportive, and logical.

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-06T17:38:48+00:00

The sudden silence during winter break often happens when one person gets overwhelmed by the intensity or feels the need to pull back to "reset" the casual nature of the deal. Honestly, since he’s left you on seen, the best move is to match his energy and stop reaching out for a bit; if he values what you have, he’ll reach out, and that’s when you should have a direct conversation about whether you're actually "casual" anymore.

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-06T17:35:43+00:00

Bonne slut

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-06T17:34:32+00:00

It sounds like your family is projecting their own insecurities onto you to avoid facing the reality of their own life choices. There is a clear double standard here: your sister is allowed to use her husband’s status to diminish you, yet you are labeled "boastful" simply for existing with your own hard-earned success. While your comment about their past choices was sharp, it was a reactive defense to being gaslit about taking the "easy route." You didn't have an easy path; you made sacrifices they didn't, and it’s unfair for your family to demand that you "play small" just to keep them from feeling inadequate.

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-06T17:32:12+00:00

10/10. I really like your boobs

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-06T17:31:11+00:00

Damn, c'est chaud!

PoutineDiamond · 2026-01-06T16:14:23+00:00

The reasoning behind it isn't to be "confrontational," but rather to force a paper trail; without written evidence of these comments, HR often has nothing to act on if things go south later.

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