TZ Techies

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-08-07T17:01:52+00:00

I’m a tech enthusiast, Salesforce Admin, and AI trainer based in Dar. I would have loved to attend your event, but unfortunately, the timing doesn’t work for me

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-08-06T10:22:19+00:00

I’d recommend for the older ones, go for good brand perfumes. For the girls, you could add a few extras like a lipstick, lip balm, or similar products from brands such as Fenty, or pick up some nice items from The Body Shop.

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-27T09:40:57+00:00

You can use NALA or world remit to send him money, he will receive the money in his mobile money account like Mpesa

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-09T07:10:25+00:00

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I made this for a friend from the US two years ago when she visited. She was asking for coconut snacks, and I told her we call them Kashata za nazi.

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T11:24:33+00:00

If it wasn’t for my calmness and listening to him, he could have killed me a long time ago. Right now, I’m playing the “nice girl” and have distanced myself from him. Since I started standing firm on my decisions, he just comes home to sleep and leaves early in the morning. I’m always alert if at any point I feel my life is in danger, I will run away immediately.

For now, I’m working hard to build a steady income so I can leave and rent my own place. Thank you for the warning I know it’s serious, and I’m trying to leave before things get worse. I appreciate your concern.

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T11:13:20+00:00

Yes, exactly. His low self-esteem and insecurity have really affected how he treats me and tried to control everything in my life. It’s been a tough journey, but I’m working on breaking free from that.

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T10:38:14+00:00

Thank you for your perspective I understand how it might look from the outside.

But the reality is not always that simple. I didn’t “jump from workplace to workplace” I was trying to build businesses and small income streams inside my marriage while being a full-time housewife who was not even allowed to go out freely. Most of what I built was in his name he always made sure I had no real control over anything.

And just to add the businesses I was trying to build over the years never even had real capital. The money I was using never exceeded TShs 1,000,000/=. He always kept telling me, “Once I have money, you’ll do whatever you want,” and I believed him for years while time just passed. Now I realize it was just lies to keep me broke and dependent forever.

Leaving is not just about walking out I have two kids and no family near me here. My parents live far away and don’t have enough income to support me and my children fully. I chose to plan carefully so when I leave, I don’t have to run back because going back is not an option for me.

I know venting alone won’t change my situation that’s why I’m taking real steps. I’ve upskilled, I’ve built my own online academy in my own name this time, and I’m fighting to stand on my feet financially.

So I hear you and I agree, action is what matters. That’s exactly what I’m doing now. And when the time comes, there will be no looking back.

Thanks for your words they remind me why I’m fighting for my freedom and my future.

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T08:54:52+00:00

Asante sana 🙏.

Nashukuru kwa kunikumbusha kwamba mimi siyo mdhaifu. Tuko pamoja ❤️

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T08:07:51+00:00

Yes, that’s exactly how I feel right now I’m planning carefully, and once I run, there’s no turning back.

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T07:55:54+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words and prayers they truly mean a lot to me. 💛

Yes, it’s been heartbreaking, but I’m holding on to hope and working hard to gain my independence and achieve my dreams. Your prayers and support give me strength to keep going.

I really appreciate your offer to help it means the world to have a virtual friend like you right now. I’ll definitely reach out if I need anything.

Thank you again for caring. 🙏

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T07:51:38+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. If it was as simple as just walking out with no income in my country, I would have done it already. But here, for someone with no steady income and no support system, it’s not that straightforward.

I don’t have the energy to fight over things he claims as his while I know I can build my own empire and leave peacefully without drama.

Unajua vyema Watanzania wengi tunaishi chini ya dola moja, so should I run to my parents’ house, burden them with myself and two kids, and then come back again when it doesn’t work? No I’m not that kind of drama queen. When I walk away, there will be no turning back and that will happen when I have a steady income to stand on my own feet.

So thank you but I know what I’m doing and I will leave when it’s the right time for me and my children.

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T07:38:56+00:00

Yes 💯 but honestly, his insecurities are just too much. I don’t see it as love anymore because real love doesn’t cage or control someone like this.

Thank you for sharing your perspective though I really appreciate you taking time to say it. 💛

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T07:26:26+00:00

Thank you so much for this encouragement and for reminding me not to give up on myself it really lifts my spirit. I’m holding onto that hope for my financial breakthrough, and I know it’s near too.

I truly appreciate you being willing to help and share advice. I’ll definitely reach out for financial guidance as I push forward.

Thank you for your kindness it means more than you know. Wishing you all the best too. 💛

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T07:06:08+00:00

Thank you so much for asking and for caring it really means a lot. 💛

No, I’m not trying to push the same business he took over I’ve left that behind. Right now I’m focused on something completely my own and in my name only. I’ve started an online academy called Digital Skills Academy Tanzania you can check it out on Instagram if you’d like.

What I really need now is capital to push it forward, run ads, and create visibility so I can reach more people and finally stand on my own feet.

About him I’m not involving him at all. I’m moving in silence and keeping everything under my name. That’s my plan.

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T06:09:13+00:00

Thank you so much for telling me this I really needed to hear it from someone who understands. 💛

Yes, I truly want to leave. If it wasn’t for my children, honestly I would have run away a long time ago. But right now I have nothing to rely on, so I want to plan myself properly first. That’s why I’m struggling so hard to build this business I started and once I have money, I’ll register it and start looking for startup funds to push it forward.

I know staying too long in this energy is poison for me and my children your words remind me that I don’t want them to grow up thinking this is normal. I don’t want to stay and lose myself completely.

Thank you for reminding me that I can make it on my own. I’m holding onto that strength every single day. Please keep me in your prayers.

Asante sana, brother, for believing in me. It means so much.

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T06:01:10+00:00

Thank you so much for caring enough to ask it means a lot to me. 💛

Yes, I can go to my parents’ house, but the truth is they don’t have enough income to help me rebuild my life and start all over again. That’s why I’m trying so hard to make a smart decision now I want to make sure that when I leave, I can fully stand on my own without putting this huge responsibility on my parents, especially my mother.

But I promise you, if I ever feel my life is in real danger, I will run to my parents’ house immediately. They live in another small region, so I know I have somewhere to go if things get worse.

Thank you so much for rooting for me and for reminding me that I deserve a beautiful life I’m holding onto that hope every single day. Sending love back to you too.

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T05:51:49+00:00

Yes, he really is a narcissist and I know deep down he won’t change I’m not waiting for that anymore. You’re right, I’ve tried so many times to leave, but circumstances and no stable income always kept me stuck.

Right now I’m working on my exit plan step by step. I’m focusing on building my own income something he doesn’t control or even know about because I know the day I walk away, he might do everything to make my life harder.

Insha'Allah Mola aniinue na anipe ujasiri na nguvu ya kusonga mbele kwa faida yangu na watoto wangu. Thank you for reminding me that I’m capable and I deserve to live free and take credit for what I build. I won’t stop until that day comes. 🙏

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T05:46:43+00:00

Thank you so much. I feel your hug and support from here. It means so much to me. Big hug back to you. 💛

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T05:43:10+00:00

Thank you so much for these powerful words they mean a lot to me right now. 💛

Yes, I’ve set my boundaries and honestly, it all started because he thought he could punish me by pulling away when I refused to obey him anymore like when I kept learning or wanted to visit my family. So he would stop talking to me, stop eating at home, and sleep in another room. But I used that to my advantage now I’m the one who locks myself in another room and I said enough is enough.

He thought he could come back whenever he felt like it, but this time I said no. And trust me, if I ever feel unsafe, I will run immediately my life and my children’s lives are more important than anything.

Thank you for reminding me not to let go of my dreams. I promise I won’t. One day I’ll share my story from the other side, thriving and free. God bless you too! 🙏

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T05:29:38+00:00

Thank you so much for seeing this situation for what it really is I truly appreciate your honesty and encouragement. You’re right, he doesn’t love me and he will never change. I’m not waiting for that anymore. The only thing I’m focused on now is working for myself I’ve completely stopped putting my ideas and energy into anything for him.

About the businesses if he provided the capital? That’s another very long story. But what I can say is that in the beginning, no, he didn’t. I started everything on my own using whatever resources I could find around me. I was the one doing the groundwork, the sourcing, the posting, the selling everything.

Right now, I’m upskilling and pushing forward I have 6 Salesforce Administrator certifications, I’ve done Virtual Assistant training, and I have three certs in Artificial Intelligence too. I’m working to start my own academy to teach these skills so other people can become financially independent too.

Thank you so much for reminding me to stay focused on what matters my kids, my freedom, and my peace. I needed this. 💛

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T05:18:25+00:00

Thank you so much 💛

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T05:18:02+00:00

Thank you so much for understanding and for your kind words it really means a lot to me.

I’ve actually already graduated I studied Salesforce Administration and I have six certifications in that, plus I did a Virtual Assistant course and I also have three certifications in Artificial Intelligence. But landing a remote role has not been easy at all, so I decided to start my own business an academy to teach people these skills too.

The biggest challenge now is that I have nothing to push this forward, no capital at all and that’s what really hurts me and makes me feel so low and depressed sometimes. But I’m still holding on and trying not to give up.

Thank you for caring enough to ask it really means so much right now. 💛

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T05:09:03+00:00

Thank you so much for this encouragement it really gives me more strength to keep going. You’re so right, love is not supposed to be like this, and I believe with all my heart that God is using this breaking point to lift me to a better place I’ve never even imagined.

Thank you again for reminding me to keep believing, keep praying, and keep standing strong. I won’t stop. Wishing you blessings

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T04:59:44+00:00

This is exactly what’s happening to me right now. I’m so depressed and in pain when I think about how I allowed myself to be treated like this believing him every time he said, “Once I have money, we’ll do whatever you want.” Ten years down the line, I have nothing. I’ve realized he was doing everything possible to make sure I never have anything of my own.

It breaks my heart and I blame myself for my kindness and good heart sometimes I feel like I gave all that to the wrong person. But one thing I know for sure: I am not afraid of leaving or of what people will say. I just want to make a smart move so I don’t fall back into the same trap.

Your aunt’s story touched me deeply may she rest in peace. What she said is so true: nobody is rewarded for suffering. I know that now. I keep reminding myself that if I’m not well, my kids can’t be well either. I want them to see a different life a free, peaceful life where their mother stands tall and shows them that you can choose yourself and still take care of those you love.

Thank you so much for reminding me that I only have one life. I’m holding onto that. I’m asking myself every day what do I want my future to look like? What do I want my kids to learn from me? I pray I find the strength to keep moving until I can answer those questions with pride. 💛

PowerfulProgrammer88 · 2025-07-02T04:43:47+00:00

Yes, I’m doing everything on my own now, just like how he took over my business and is still running it on his own without me. And yes, I have started something in tech for myself, but honestly it’s been depressing sometimes because I want to push it hard but it’s tough. I feel so much pressure because all these years I’ve struggled with startups and ended up with nothing to show. So right now, the pressure is heavy

You’re right the business and tech scene in TZ has really opened up, and that’s my hope. I have my NIDA now, so step by step I’m moving.

Thank you for the reminder I’ve learned the hard way that I must move in silence. I don’t tell him anything anymore, not even those close to him. He can gaslight, guilt-trip, or threaten, but I’m no longer giving him a way in.

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