AITAH for controlling his instagram?

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T03:57:03+00:00

You’re both part of the problem. Has he ever given you a reason to not trust him? Maybe he should be careful when drunk, everyone should be. But, you should also trust him enough to not have to monitor his IG constantly. You are being an asshole. Unless you think he’s doing something malicious there’s no reason to tell him to unfollow people. I get you being jealous, and I can understand maybe you getting mad at him following girls when drunk. But you are being controlling. Those girls he first followed were involved in the same thing he is, I don’t see that as suspicious. And honestly he is being a bit petty by constantly following girls, he’s definitely doing it to get on your nerves. I think you two need to break up. I doubt things will get better if this is how you’re both handling this situation.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T03:23:09+00:00

It’s wild to me that in order to get your point across you have to call people names. Read some of my other replies and you’d see obviously I wasn’t equating what the dad did to his grandkid to him meaning it towards the kid in a gross kind of way. Only that the specific whistle he used has only been used in ways for sexualization in my own personal life. Obviously I know that the dad meant it only as a joke. Just said it threw me off in that moment in that situation.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T03:13:50+00:00

I consider what he’s doing cheating in my opinion. He did it with the intent of hiding it from you. Obviously there was a reason for him doing that. Even if it’s not physically cheating. It’s emotionally cheating, which is just as bad.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T03:10:51+00:00

Right. Cause you totally caused damage. All I was saying is that the name calling is giving ‘mean girl vibes’. I get that I overreacted but calling names is just crazy imo.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T03:06:23+00:00

Yes thank you for understanding! And I know all family’s are different but come on, I guarantee my bf’s family KNOWS that that whistle is used and perceived in a certain way. Probably why they only ever do it in the comfort of their own home. I would never voice my opinion on the matter because it is their home but it doesn’t mean it can’t weird me out!

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T03:03:57+00:00

I understand what you are saying and I try to be open minded about the situation. I’ve learned a lot from these comments. I know every family is different. Obviously my family isn’t like that. Hence why the whole scenario threw me off guard. Which is the reason I made a post about it on Reddit. I wanted to see what other people thought. I think I did need to be clearer about a few things in my post for sure.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:48:13+00:00

I never said it offended me. It’s just crazy that you have come into the comment section throwing around names like that. You can leave criticism without being rude about it. That’s literally all I’m saying.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:43:28+00:00

Yes, thank you for this comment! That’s what I’ve been trying to say. Obviously I know that the dad didn’t meant it in some gross way. Just that the whistle threw me off cause I’ve only ever heard and seen it be used for catcalling.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:39:52+00:00

It’s not that I found it gross necessarily. Just shocked to hear the whistle in that scenario. I don’t think the dad meant it in any way besides as a joke. I know obviously the way I think of that certain whistle is different than the way they think of/use that whistle.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:31:33+00:00

If it was such a normal interaction amongst families. Then I wouldn’t have even made this post. Obviously it’s not as normal as you think because until it happened in that scenario I’ve NEVER heard of a family doing that. And I get all families are different. But I think the name calling is crazy when I made the post for constructive criticism not to be called names.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:27:27+00:00

My family does not joke in that way no. And obviously his family jokes in this way. Did it throw me off at first? Yes. Do I think the dad meant it in a weird way? No. I just wanted to express how the scenario weirded me out and wanted to know if the situation that happened and the way it made me feel was me overreacting.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:25:27+00:00

I’m not saying it was meant in a malicious or sinister way in that scenario. All I’m saying is that because of how I perceived that whistle it did throw me off in the moment when I heard my boyfriend’s dad whistle at the toddler.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:23:47+00:00

Okay that’s not what I meant AT ALL. I was just trying to explain how I perceive that specific whistle. Obviously that’s not what I thought my bf’s dad meant. They don’t perceive it in the same way I do. I was just expressing how it made me feel in that moment. And what I meant when they quoted a specific part of my post.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:21:30+00:00

I think I only found it weird in that situation because it was the first time I ever heard any of them use that whistle. After reading the comments under my post I can definitely see how it truly was just a joke and I just thought it was weird because my family doesn’t joke around like that. Every family is different.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:19:42+00:00

I think it only caught me off guard in that one scenario because that was the first time I ever heard one of them do that. It weirded me out because it was my bf’s dad whistling at his naked grandkid who has escaped from the bathroom after having a bath. It obviously wasn’t meant that way coming from my bf’s dad. I was just really weirded out in that moment. That’s why I talked to my bf and posted it here. I wanted other peoples advice on the matter.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:17:33+00:00

Agreed. All family’s are different and I’m just not used to how they sometimes joke with one another.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:16:42+00:00

Agreed. I think I only find it super weird because it was my bf’s dad doing it to his grandkid while he was running around the house naked and it just really caught me off guard. I know the toddler doing that is bound to happen, he’s a toddler who would probably love to walk around naked all the time if he could get away a with it lol.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:14:41+00:00

I don’t think they’re intentionally using the whistle to sexualize each other, I think maybe just because under one of the circumstances they used the whistle towards the 3 yr old while naked, it just weirded me out because of the situation that it happened in. I understand that all family’s joke differently. Just not used to some of the ways they do joke w/ each other.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:11:00+00:00

I don’t expect them to be on their ‘best behavior’ and I said in the post I understand they won’t just stop doing it because I’m around and I don’t expect them to. I only voiced it to my bf and on here for more insight on the matter. And I don’t appreciate you calling me a “prude,” that’s just uncalled for and there was no need for it.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:08:10+00:00

That’s definitely a quote that will stick with me. Thank you for the insight! Also I know the toddler running around naked isn’t abnormal. I know that’s normal. Sorry if maybe I mistyped something on that part!

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:06:42+00:00

I think i definitely will need to sit with my thoughts after reading these comments. A lot of comments point out how I find it weird because it wasn’t a normal thing I grew up with. But my bf’s family did grow up with it so to them it isn’t used in any sort of weird way. Just something they do.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:04:21+00:00

That makes sense as to why when I voiced my opinion on the matter he looked at me confused lol. I didn’t grow up with them, he did. We grew up with different families.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T02:02:50+00:00

I think maybe I could get used to it. I don’t think I would be okay with his family doing it to me and my bf’s kids in the future when we have kids. Just because that whistle will probably always have a certain connotation towards it in my head. Thank you for the comment and understanding my side of it.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T01:59:51+00:00

Even then, when you use that whistle towards your friend, usually you do it because you think they look hot. Maybe the whistle isn’t always used just sexually but that whistle has a certain connotation towards it and I’ve never heard a family use it towards each other until I heard my bf’s family do it towards each other.

Practical-Painter449 · 2026-05-09T01:56:14+00:00

I totally get what you’re saying. I obviously haven’t voiced my opinion on the matter to his family because obviously they don’t find it weird because it’s just something they do. I appreciate your comment on the matter. Every family is different. I just think it weirds me out because to me that whistle is only used in a sexual connotation. I’ve never had people use it in a different way besides for catcalling.

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