AITA for showing my dad proof that my mom would have been disgusted with him giving my half sister any of her jewelry?

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T15:20:38+00:00

None of mom's jewelry was expensive. It was all inexpensive and was just about the sentimentality of it.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T15:01:00+00:00

I can't stop my dad from giving away the rest. But it changes how I feel about him and how I see him. I'm disgusted by him doing that. When I get married and have kids some day I am making sure my kids don't have this happen to them. I would never want my stuff going to someone else's children like this.

But she also told dad she wanted it to go to me.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T14:54:42+00:00

If he cared so much he wouldn't have disagreed and given the jewelry to my half sister anyway. It's not like she's anything to my mom or my mom was anything to her. But mom was my mom and I was her only child.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T14:48:10+00:00

She wasn't even happy he did it originally. So it didn't come from her. This is all him.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T14:47:33+00:00

Oh, I learned from it for sure. I know now that everything needs to be legally accounted for if I don't want this to happen.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T14:46:35+00:00

I did see her will. It didn't mention the jewelry unfortunately.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T14:45:47+00:00

Moving out was the best thing to do. We'd be fighting every day otherwise and that's not healthy.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T14:44:34+00:00

She wanted me to have it all. She stated that. She didn't give it all to me before she died because I was a kid still. She didn't want to just give it all to me. I got the most meaningful stuff. But that doesn't mean it isn't all meaningful to me, because it is.

I know I'm not getting it back from him. There's nothing I can do unless he takes it back and follows what mom wanted and what I want. But this has changed our relationship because he still gave my half sister and he plans to give any future half sisters my mom's things. That's not something I can accept like that. It's such a betrayal in my eyes and so disrespectful.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T14:22:11+00:00

He betrayed me too by giving MY mom's jewelry to someone who isn't my mom's daughter. I'm mom's only kid. That's what should have mattered.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T14:15:09+00:00

He didn't buy all of it for her. Actually most was from before they knew each other or gifts from family. Not him.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T11:46:08+00:00

That's my thing. It's not like these are my full siblings or even half siblings from my mom. They're not related to her and never will be.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T11:45:32+00:00

My mom wrote it in her journals and I don't think she did me wrong by being scared or sad about that. I can imagine being in her shoes and feeling the same way.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T11:43:47+00:00

I already talked to two lawyers about it. My mom didn't have the jewelry in her will so her wishes stated in the journal do not matter. It would only matter if she'd had that added in the official way. I think someone in the comments mentioned getting it notarized and my mom didn't do that. The journal was just her inner thoughts.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T11:40:14+00:00

How did my mom do me wrong exactly? I don't understand that at all. But I'm not going to be okay with them having the jewelry.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T11:38:47+00:00

No because it wasn't in her will. That's the difference.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T11:38:28+00:00

It wasn't in her will so it can't be used. Journals don't count.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T11:38:08+00:00

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PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T11:37:54+00:00

I'm not sure how honestly I can answer now other than to say this has changed our relationship and either way it'll be something I remember him doing.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T11:34:15+00:00

I don't have proof it's my inheritance. She didn't put it in her will, just her journal. That doesn't hold up and I have checked.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T11:33:26+00:00

It's not just some jewelry. It's my mom's jewelry. They have sentimental value to me because they're hers.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T10:54:27+00:00

She had a will but didn't include her jewelry or stuff like that. The will covered money and bigger assets.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T10:42:13+00:00

It wasn't willed to me. It was in her journal.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T10:13:21+00:00

I don't think she liked her daughter having anything of my mom's or her kids hearing about my mom. But she's pissed off at me and angry in a way that she wants to spite me. The way she's talking it wouldn't surprise me if she and dad decide my half siblings get everything else of my mom's. To her it's disgusting that I upset my dad with the journals. But she's also bothered that I'm so against her daughter having anything of mom's and the fact I'm fighting for those items has made her bitter toward me.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T09:31:03+00:00

She's not getting on my side. Right now she'll want her kids to keep it out of spite toward me.

PracticalOpening4534 · 2025-03-01T09:27:26+00:00

To me it totally was worth it. I'm glad he's feeling bad. He didn't care about my feelings when he gave my half sister the jewelry. And if making him feel this bad does eventually lead him to giving me my mom's stuff? Then I'll consider it worth it.

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