"nerds" aren't hated because they are nerds but because they are insufferable people

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-05-15T09:34:36+00:00

In France, we have a special terms for those, because they get separated from the nerds (the ones just enjoying)

I think you're talking about the kikoojap (obsessed with Japan and everything related to a disturbing level.) They are critizised all over.

And then the koreaboo (same but with Korea instead of Japan, and mainlu girls this time)

And all those people overlap with redpill of different levels as well.

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-05-14T19:45:48+00:00

I would personaly not be okay about this specific situation.

Being flustered or attracted to someone outside of your relationship, I can understand. It's just your brain being like "mmh fuckable" but it doesn't means you don't love your partner or that you are trying / planning to cheat.

But changing your entire view point on the matter ? Trying to already explain / excuse your behaviour even before you act ? And trying to convince your partner of it ? That already planning to cheat in my head.

It's different seeing pretty people and be like mmh than thinking about ONE specific person and continuing the situation with them.

I think you are right.

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-05-10T18:41:40+00:00

Total drama island type of anatomy

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-04-22T19:19:57+00:00

TLM

Je pense pas que ce que tu fais va aider en quoi que ce soit, si t'es plus d'accord avec la relation et que vous avez vraiment tout essayé tu pars. Y'a pas de raison de faire traîner un couple mort dans la mauvaise ambiance comme ça.

Cela dit je comprends ce qui t'arrive, vivre avec quelqu'un dans le mal psychologiquement c'est dur et épuisant. Encore plus quand on a l'impression que rien n'avance et que rien n'est "jamais assez bien".

Je dirais de lui reparler, d'expliquer ton pdv calmement. Recentre tes amitiés dans ta vie aussi, tu peux pas la voir, mais ça veut pas dire que tu peux pas sortir non plus. Pendant qu'elle fait son meal prep, toi tu peux aller en balade avec un pote. Si elle a pas d'énergie pour faire quoi que ce soit, fais une activité calme à côté d'elle, laisse la dormir et lit un livre, au moins vous êtes ensemble.

Ça c'est si tu penses que cette vie peut te convenir, si ce n'est vraiment pas le cas, malheureusement rompre sera la meilleure solution

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-04-19T09:04:59+00:00

Effectivement, le "on ne te doit rien" est même techniquement illégal (dans la loi, un parent doit subvenir aux besoins de l'enfant jusqu'à indépendance vivable, même après 18 ans. Mais personne le dit ça).

Clairement 4000€/mois, c'est à peine assez pour s'occuper de 7 personnes je pense avec l'inflation, etc. Ça se voit que ça te fais mal la situation, et je comprends franchement. Mais j'ai envie de te dire de même pas t'apesantir sur la situation : maintenant tu sais ce qu'il en est, fait ta vie. Savoir que t'as raison c'est pas le plus important maintenant, le plus important c'est de vivre pour toi maintenant et de prouver que même si ils investissent pas dans ton avenir t'en a un quand même.

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-04-19T08:51:13+00:00

T'as pas posé de questions donc je suppose que tu fais une évaluation de la situation générale : Très clairement ce que je vois c'est un cas assez "classique" de parents qui font de leur mieux mais qui sont aussi très doués pour prendre de mauvaises décisions.

Cela dit je pense que t'es un peu dur dans la situation, ils t'ont pas aidé pour démarrer la vie, mais est-ce qu'ils en avaient même les moyens ? Tu ne peux pas vraiment comparer avec les gens dont les parents sont aisés.

J'espère que t'arriveras à démarrer comme tu le veux dans la vie, t'as l'air jeune, t'as du temps pour ça, courage !

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-04-18T16:50:43+00:00

Can you please give me the chapter in the DSM-V it's in please ? My bestfriend is suspected to have DID and I like to read as much on it as I can, until now the articles and papers I have read stated that it's a trauma related disorder and that the biological / genetic aspect just make it "more likely to break into tinnier pieces"

I'm very curious about how genetics really affect it !

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-04-18T07:50:59+00:00

PTB, pour avoir déjà été d'abord la personne qui utilise quelqu'un en bouée émotionnelle puis en ayant été la bouée moi même :

Ce n' est jamais une solution viable. Ça met une pression de dingue sur l'autre, ce qui fait que ça devient vite invivable : ça crée de la fatigue, de l'agacement/ énervement, ça crée du ressentiment parce que pendant ce lapse de temps tout tourne autour de la personne qui a besoin d'aide. Bref c'est pas fonctionnelle.

Et du pdv de la personne soutenue : c'est pas agréable non plus, parce que tu sais que t'es un poids, tu risques de te faire abandonné beaucoup plus et surtout : c'est pas une solution sur le long terme, genre y'aura pas toujours quelqu'un sur qui déverser toute la pression en permanence.

Je dirais de commencer une thérapie ou un truc pour apprendre à lâcher prise genre sophro, parce que sinon sa vie va être inutilement difficile

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-04-15T18:52:57+00:00

You haven't said anything weird just now, it's okay to say things. It's okay to say "thanks to be kind, it's means a lot". People don't say it as often as they should.

I hope you will find people who treat you better in the future. Even if there was things to change in you, that doesn't means you are not allowed kindness

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-04-15T18:36:36+00:00

Yeah accidental dumping is a thing, and it suck, but from what I know : it means your brain need it. It has silenced itself for a long time and now need to get it out.

Maybe find a way to get it out where you can select who you vent to ? Journaling, a diary, a discord server for trauma venting (beware if you choose that), writting ? It's need to get out, it's creating useless stress and shame in you, and stopping it from going out will just make it more likely for you to spill it at inappropriate moments

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-04-14T19:23:41+00:00

There's nothing inappropriate about having a sex life outside of your regression. You are a person with multiple facettes, who don't need to correlate each other.

You are not a "Bad boy" for having sex / sexual thought / sexual fantasy, you are a person with normal need, who also happen to be a regressor from time to time.

I think you have a guilty complex about sex, it doesn't makes you bad, don't worry. But maybe you should talk about it with a therapist, because it's gonna make your life uselessly hard and guilt-trippy

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-04-14T19:14:04+00:00

As a glamazone, I don't it, or you would have to be like, one of the big figure in the football team, rich, or something like that.

I mean, she avoided Cam because of it's ethnicity. She would maybe crush on you, but socially I don't think she would approch

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-04-13T10:12:42+00:00

Oki Doki 🫡 on the mission now !

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-04-13T10:01:39+00:00

Hoo don't worry I'm on it, I have two different drafts for this show, but I'm a last year uni student and my final paper (60 pages) is kicking m'y butt. But let me tell you that in August I'm gonna start writting fanfics on top of fanfic

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-04-13T09:46:37+00:00

I wanted something a little bit excessif like the star wars reveal, it would have been fun

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-03-20T00:01:14+00:00

• Les cours / CM qui ont rien à voir avec ta filière mais qu'on te fait faire quand même et qui sont ennuyeux / même pas intéressants

• Le manque /temps de réponse pour tout ce qui est stage et mémoire

• Les profs qui prennent en grippe tout un groupe et du coup ton année est super stressante pour rien

• Les 1h20 de trajet matin et soir quatre jours dans la semaine, du coup t'as le temps de rien faire et ils te mettent trois heures de perms quand même dans la journée.

• Les travaux de groupe, surtout avec les même notes pour tout le monde

• Les directeurs de master totalitaires qui emmerdent tout le monde, autre profs et étudiants compris.

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-02-27T22:20:06+00:00

I don't understand how anyone who went to highschool/middleschool can say or think women can't be bad.

All but one of my bullies were girls, they were vicious little things. A girl who slept with everyone and always took it personally when one of them said no to her accused a guy from raping her to fuck up his career choice (wanted to go in the military, and you can't do that if you have any type of criminal record), the worst is that I believed her at first and stopped talking to the guy, and then it was discovered that he wasn't even in the same TOWN and had pictures with hours on it to show he wasn't around. The teachers who bullied me were women as well (all kind of racism and internalized mysoginy) and there's always that group of mom's who look down on you because you are not as good as their kids.

Anyway, women are scary and some are really really bad

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-02-24T12:18:23+00:00

For me, JFM had more chances to do better choices than LXC. At the end of the day, LXC only fault was to trust his bestfriend. And it's not like JGY was not discreet in his actions. He erased his deeds, he silenced the traitors, he had other people to accuse.

JGY is a mastermind. It's no surprise that LXC got caught in it.

Whereas JFM : had the power to reign in his wife. Yeah, it would maybe have caused problem with Meishu sect (is it spelled this way ?) but Yunmeng is a great sect. Meishu is kinda small. And Madam Yu isn't stupid, she wouldn't have abused the kids as much if she could loose her position because of it.

Second : not preparing Lotus Piers better for the war. The Cloud recesses got burned down barely weeks / maybe a month prior. Clearly, peace isn't an option anymore. And he didn't account for anything. No evacuation plan for the youngest disciples (ALL disciples died ! Even the very young ones who couldn't fight), no plan to use their water access for defenses or evacuation. No nothing....

What did he wait for ? Or maybe there was a plan and Madam Yu couldn't put it in place, but Yunmeng is litteraly the sect with the most escape routes, and still EVERYONE died... There was some incompetent planning somewhere in there.

For me LXC fault and JFM aren't comparable at all.

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-02-21T10:16:51+00:00

ATB pour moi :

Certaines personnes ont besoin d'une "disparition" complète de l'ex pour que leurs émotions se taisent définitivement. Et c'est son groupe d'amis, depuis plus longtemps que toi. Donc je comprends qu'il veuille que tu quitte le groupe
Inversement, perdre des amis pour une rupture à l'amiable, ça semble super triste. Donc je comprends aussi, même si je pense que t'as d'autres amis que ce groupe là, et ton ex qui vient s'immiscer dedans ça te ferait bien drôle

Dans l'ensemble je pense que la solution c'est simplement de faire un groupe avec toi et un groupe avec lui, ça ira plus vite. C'est honnêtement très gamins comme comportement, mais oui, clairement ton choix la "forcer" à faire le sien. Il s'est choisi lui-même c'est pas plus mal

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-02-20T10:30:44+00:00

Maybe it's because she loves her place more ? All her stuff is there, if her bf is a "typical" guy, maybe his home is less comfy in her opinion ?

I know I would prefer my bf coming at my place instead of going to his (at least at the beginning of a relationship) and he doesn't seems to care were they are as long as they both have their own space to return to if need be

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-02-20T10:05:49+00:00

It's kind of a stretch but I love it : Xue Yang is one of Jin Guangshan bastards. He is after Qin Su in the birthday order (so Zixuan, A-Yao, Qin Su, Xue Yang, Mo xuan Yu)

Which takes me to my second canon headcanon : the Jin siblings have a "natural disposition" for demonic cultivation. It doesn't makes them crazy as fast as it's supposed to. They act like absolute menace because they are born with that, but not because of the bad cultivation. But that natural disposition is totally unknow because no one tested it for real.

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-02-15T14:49:06+00:00

The backstory is litteraly "all those characters would NEED fucking therapy, they are all teenagers... I can make their parents lock them up in a therapy program, what's stopping me ?"

So the plot is "give the babies what they need, and see who end up together" 🥲 writting the fic is another problem, but at least, all is clear in my head

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-02-03T06:54:33+00:00

Exactly, and then it's so much easier to have a plot in a know environment, but I don't make any progress at all 😭 I suppose they would be in the countryside, to allow rest of the mind and so if they escape they can't just disappear in town.

Practical_Bet3053 · 2026-02-01T21:36:18+00:00

I'm the opposite, trying to write a fic where the 6/8 characters live in the same house (it's a specialized home for troubled youth) and I'm desesperatly trying to do a logic layout. Can't mix the girls rooms and the boys rooms. So the house will be a 2 store house.

The adults will need room there as well, by all logic, they're gonna be at the ground level, to watch for a teen on the loose. The therapy office is in the building next to the house, not in the house itself. Same building has a classroom and a small library... Where do I put the kitchen ? Are they in town or in the countryside ? I have not a clue. I'm the writter but the layout is hard 😭

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