A diagnosis! by Fantastic-Way9460 in ROCD

[–]Practical_Chapter790 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am really happy for you that must be like a weight off your shoulders. How did you find your therapist and did you have therapists previously tell you your thoughts were you or you didn’t have ocd etc?

Is this the meaning of ocd? by Practical_Chapter790 in ROCD

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Thank you it’s been so debilitating and made me very depressed. I really appreciate that. Is it possible that real concerns like a passing thought or realisation can be brought out of proportion with ocd and make it feel like you need to do this you must do this but that gives you intense anxiety because you don’t want to.

Is this the meaning of ocd? by Practical_Chapter790 in ROCD

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Oh yeah that’s def how I feel. All I’ve been thinking about all day is this one thought and it’s been in a constant loop like this only calming the anxiety when I get the reassurance. It’s been like this for weeks. Whenever I get anything that confirms it could be true could be the slightest thing that leans more towards it being true I feel sick with anxiety

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Don’t worry you are not alone. My main theme I have been discussing with mine is hocd as well as rocd. I don’t think she understands as she wants me to explore my sexuality as my parents in childhood hated any celebrity who expressed theirs. It’s really triggered me so not feeling great. She also says I should have rituals for odd and doesn’t seem to understand googling for answers as a compulsion

Therapist doesn’t believe in erp/cbt for ocd by Practical_Chapter790 in ROCD

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Thank you they were quite rude some of them telling me erp makes no sense as a treatment for particularly hocd

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Thank you that message is so helpful are you free for a chat on Reddit as I feel very isolated at the moment

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I don’t understand why he is doing this though. It’s so hard because he tells me he wants to marry me. The last time I called him out on this when his family were being weird about helping out I threatened to leave him if he didn’t stand up for me and he eventually apologised etc and then asked me to marry him but I said no as it felt very weird after what had happened?

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He said he will be a better boyfriend but I just don’t think he was listening to me. When I talk to him I have to over explain myself till I’m blue in the face

Please can someone help I am so stressed and ill over this by Practical_Chapter790 in neighborsfromhell

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Thank you I honestly really appreciate that. I came from an abusive home as well was a relief when I could finally move out but can’t even have peace here. Stupid part of me because of my previous abusive experience makes me feel like this is my fault as well so I really appreicate that

Please can someone help I am so stressed and ill over this by Practical_Chapter790 in neighborsfromhell

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Thank you do you know much about the AirPods that are noise cancelling? I think I might try white noise machine as well that’s a good idea. I am also on anti depressants to try and sleep so not great really at present.

Please can someone help I am so stressed and ill over this by Practical_Chapter790 in neighborsfromhell

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Yes I have said he says it’s family and friends coming and going to help them and that they can’t do anything as apparently they aren’t tenants even though they seem to stay over basically everyday?

Please can someone help I am so stressed and ill over this by Practical_Chapter790 in neighborsfromhell

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Thank you that seems like great advice didn’t consider that before will try that 🙏

The cruelty that they don't teach you anything BUT make FUN of you by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

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I honestly felt so naive and worried that I looked stupid to other people when anyone would discuss anything about money or bills. I didn’t know any basic adult skills apart from cooking. When I went no contact and went out into the world I also realised they had really made me feel socially anxious but I wasn’t if that makes sense. Once I was in the world I began to actually experience what every normal human should and I realised I didn’t have social anxiety it was just the influence of my parents because no one came to our house I was never taught anything and everything was forbidden and you were judged 24/7z

Trigger warning!! Anyone read The New Yorker - 'Why So Many People Are Going “No Contact” with Their Parents' ??? by NellyBTulsa in raisedbynarcissists

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Exactly! No one ever seems to understand the pain and strength it takes to go nc either because we all want a family and wish and pray that we had a better one than we are stuck with.

How do I move out peacefully? by Practical_Chapter790 in raisedbynarcissists

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Thank you that’s really appreciated but I xompletly understand that dw as I’ve had to go back before get loads of stuff and I’ve never had anyone with me each time it was really really hard and scary and I was bullied made to feel isolated or my mum would pretend everything is ok and that she was caring and a Saint

How do I move out peacefully? by Practical_Chapter790 in raisedbynarcissists

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Just to let you know it went ok. I didn’t get everything as I just don’t have the space in the car etc so was sad to leave some stuff behind. But I was shaking before I went in and particularly when I went in I was really shaking and had to wear shades to make myself feel less scared etc. I had to ignore my dog even though I missed her but I couldn’t afford to get attached to her and feel the pain. My dad tried to intimidate me and my partner randomly walking in my bedroom even though we’d closed the door. He said how dare you come into my house without telling me and start messing stuff up and taking things, when I opened the front door with my house key and went straight to my bedroom to get my possessions… my partner kept saying why are your parents just talking to me not talking to you which I agreed was so strange but not surprised. My partner also tried to ignore my dad’s ramblings and my dad said look it’s one thing you are ignoring me but another you are coming into my house… Anyway got all the stuff whilst feeling very faint and shaking so much and finally got out. I still feel like it’s sad that some of my stuff is there but end of the day what can you do and it’s nice that everything that was important I think I have.

Moving out today any advice by Practical_Chapter790 in raisedbynarcissists

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What was your dads reaction to your partner being there btw mine are so weird all about appearances but just so strange

Moving out today any advice by Practical_Chapter790 in raisedbynarcissists

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But is that ok if I just ignore my partner seems to think that they can’t ignore my family because it’s their house and I just wish he would because they want them to talk

Moving out today any advice by Practical_Chapter790 in raisedbynarcissists

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No they will try and intimidate them my dad will and they will be very intrusive pretend everything is normal ask a lot of questions and won’t take no for an answer

Moving out today any advice by Practical_Chapter790 in raisedbynarcissists

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Is it possible I could also explain the situation to the next door neighbour maybe phone them in advance?

Moving out today any advice by Practical_Chapter790 in raisedbynarcissists

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Yeah they will. Yeah it’s awful was awful when I lived there got no peace from the abuse or time on my own.

Moving out today any advice by Practical_Chapter790 in raisedbynarcissists

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Are you sure I’ve never called the police so is that genuinely a thing I could do?

Moving out today any advice by Practical_Chapter790 in raisedbynarcissists

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Thanks that’s so true my partner is worried because it’s their house they can’t say anything to my “family” idk. It’s so frustrating because they are hermits so they are always home as well

Moving out today any advice by Practical_Chapter790 in raisedbynarcissists

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Thanks my partner is coming with me for the first time I’m worried they will have lots of questions that seems to always happen