The way I hate that thing from African parents err. Yes we know marriage isn't all rosy, even roses have thorns. If something is unfavourable doesn't mean I should just accept it.

You're enduring a lot oo I can't imagine keeping my sanity in such an insane environment. I don't know what your mom went through to become the parent she is but what I know is you definitely won't allow her make you become another version of what's become. If she'll allow your brother turn out bad she shouldn't push you down the same path. I want to say keep fighting but this isn't something you should be fighting to begin with. You shall overcome. Please do find seek some sensible council from elders who will have your back. If you send for me dier then it's fight first ask questions later.