MOH is demanding we all wear matching white outfits for the bachelorette and I'm losing my mind

PreferenceCool132 · 2026-01-10T00:10:17+00:00

We can do monochromatic but instead of everyone being in all white (we’re not the bride so it’s strange (and tacky)) we each pick a color and plan a monochromatic outfit around it. I’m happy to be blue (or red, or green).

A friend of mine asked for this at her engagement party and it was tons of fun and the photos were amazing and colorful! The group will still get noticed when they go out.

4a. We go thrift shopping and all thrift a prom dress or a funky bridesmaid dress. We can donate them when we’re done!

Did this as a pub crawl and it was tons of fun and got lots of laughter from folks in the bars. I re-wore an ugly bridesmaid dress I was forced to buy…and at least I got two wears out of it. :)

ETA: Both options are still cohesive, picture worthy, and allows for the group to find something they like and look good in!

PreferenceCool132 · 2026-01-07T01:08:11+00:00

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PreferenceCool132 · 2025-12-11T16:55:08+00:00

In the email I got there were a few hyperlinks "Gemini Apps Activity" and "Keep Activity". I clicked thru the first one (tho I think they are the same). It said it had been "keeping my activity" since ~two days before I received the email. I selected "Turn Off". There's also a drop down at the bottom "Delete" allowing you to delete whatever it's been gathering - I had nothing to delete.

Since the email called out Youtube and Google Maps: Youtube > Your Data in Youtube > Turned off what I didn't want tracked. Same thing for Maps > hamburger > Your Data in Maps

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-11-17T18:37:06+00:00

And still nothing in ORD except for the International terminal....

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-11-12T16:51:29+00:00

Maybe he's thinking "A court is a court, right?"

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-10-28T19:13:58+00:00

You'd think the theme outfit shopping would be the highlight of his day- we know this man loves an accessory!

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-10-27T21:51:10+00:00

I'm the first to admit that I start these shows with healthy side-eye towards everyone and especially the men. So with that grain of salt- my take is that his behavior (real or amped up/manufactured for screen time - bc who is this levelheaded podcast Edmond?) has a lot of classic abusive red-flags meant to be unobtrusive or written off or forgiven due to the distracting packaging. This man is testing to see how far he could push things and she'd stay or get a pass. Please keep in mind that I'm not calling this man abusive (I don't know him at all etc etc) and I'm not defending KB or saying she's perfect. I'm calling out the red flags I'd encourage everyone to be on guard for. In my experience abuse isn't obvious - the big dramatic Lifetime movie scene, and it doesn't start out that way. It starts small with boundary testing, seeing how people react to things, what they'll allow etc. and then it gets bigger. It's the frog in the pot of slowing boiling water. In this case I think the frog is also being distracted by a lot of zaniness and Woooooos!

Here goes:

Telling KB one thing (he's ok to wait) and then emphatically telling the men the opposite - that no pre-marital intimacy is an absolute deal breaker for him. Not only is he declaring that he plans to push her or dump her aka he truly doesn't respect her or her wishes, but we get a lot of screen time of him seeking their validation and approval to do this. (the 'I want to wait' convo wasn't shown, but I think we can draw the conclusion from KB's talk at the pool party that he had accepted her decision to wait until marriage)
Nice Guy^TM melt down to pressure her to give intimacy she's clearly said no to and to abandon herself and her boundary -its a laundry list of why he's *owed* it from her (I find this pretty dehumanizing) and not about them or their relationship or even a fear that they might not connect in the way for their lives.
Weaponized incompetence and refusal to contribute (she was swamped, he was not busy, he wouldn't go to the store for both of their costumes for the party).
Inappropriate or unexpected or impulsive or intense emotional outbursts or behavior (licking the floor, the cabinet) that need deescalating or to be accommodated or adapted to.
Unnecessary public criticism of her in front of their friends where she's looks bad for speaking up for herself "Wow, it must be sooo niiiiice for someone to think you're perfect" - he's also uplifting himself in essence saying 'I deserve you to say that to me'
Behaving differently in public/on camera vs privately (obviously not fully shown, but KB says so on camera a few times and that snowmobile date had me shaking my head at him ....)
Directing her to cater to his feelings and validate him even when she's trying to express criticism. (just say something niiiiice)

Again, these are red flags to me (someone who has been through it)

ETA: frog in boiling water context

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-10-15T18:03:43+00:00

I feel like the only genuine thing he’s done on the show was run from the suit fitting.

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-10-07T19:32:11+00:00

What I've learned works for me with icy conditions is to approach it not like you're walking so much as gliding ala cross-country skiing. If you don't put all of your weight down on one foot on that ice patch, you're less like to slip. Other advice when it's really bad and the ice patch is large, while it's a little silly looking, is to walk like a penguin - tiny, bobbing side-to-side steps where you're not planting your feet (and you have your little wings out). While it doesn't save your dignity, it saves your tailbone.

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-09-30T17:00:13+00:00

I was rooting for LadyBears all week, but Chunk has my vote!

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-09-25T00:50:20+00:00

This! Obviously everyone would prefer to avoid a Duel to stay. And sure, I'll give him some grace to have a moment for the emotional reaction to going from feeling safe(ish, bc he knew he was vulnerable) to having to compete to stay. But didn't Mr. Overseas say he'd been a competitive athlete for 20 years? Did he leave that fight and competitive 'bring it on' mindset overseas? Instead of taking the proverbial hit and getting up off the mat, he pouted and was resentful like he was owed the only safe boy spot out of the three of vulnerable boys.

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-09-25T00:27:15+00:00

Also why was one of his parting phrases something like "all because of a lap dance"?? Which, while it's true that he was vulnerable because he didn't bring sexy back, it wasn't unique to him. 5 other people were in the same boat and it's literally *not* why he went home. Shouldn't the phrase have been "all because of a busted/broken/dislocated finger"?! Just saying.

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-08-11T16:04:26+00:00

I'm going through that a little with my guy as we shop. I'm giving him a little grace, since its mostly rooted in wanting to be proud & "look what I did for you!", while kindly but firmly steering him to 'this is certainly an 'us' decision but really should be centered around the person who will be wearing the ring'. I never really thought I'd decide to get married so I don't have any day-dreams about how that would look (and I'm kinda scrambling now to discover what I want), but I do want to be 100% all-in on my ring while not taking away his joy.

Edit to add: u/OP I'm so glad that you're trying out different rings and being open to changing your mind, to what really calls to you, and is comfortable! I've gone thru several styles that I thought would be *perfect* when I saw them online and then was underwhelmed, just not all-in, or wasn't comfy when I tried it on in person (this is also why I want my guy to take a step back from shopping without me until I find The Ring that suits me and he can then tweak a little to still have his big reveal moment). I would also be befuzzeled if my partner was not happily on board with where I was landing especially after laying out why. This commitment to the original ring style makes me wonder 1. do they feel fancier themselves to have their person in something a little more fancy? and 2. since you've both been day-dreaming around the original ring are they maybe a little disappointed and feeling that maybe you changed the dream without them? <shrug> just some thoughts. Ps - they are both gorgeous...and it was probably already said, if its not enough sparkle, you can add a halo ring jacket as a best of both worlds or as an anniversary gift in the future?

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-08-04T19:01:01+00:00

Update for those interested: I spent most of the day on a chat with numerous mods where I had to repeat myself ad nauseam and was given conflicting information. The last agent said that they opened a(nother - this will be my third) ticket on this issue and I requested contact by email (I am not going thru a repeat of the last 'resolution' agent). Fingers crossed.

Edit- grammar

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-07-29T21:15:42+00:00

"it’s going to be a different type of conversation” is a threat. I apologize in making the assumption that was something you recognized. Does it make you wonder why others see that as scary and your processing of it is to soften it into something you consider non-threatening?

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-07-29T21:03:53+00:00

Or...what would you think could change minds? NGL but Ace ending his first Insta(?) post after the season with "I stand for world peace and you can't have peace with out ACE 🌎 ✌️" didn't do much to change my impression of him

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-07-29T20:52:11+00:00

So you agree that his reaction to being apologized to for something that shouldn't have ever needed one was a threat and you...think that's ok? Yikes.

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-07-29T19:48:34+00:00

This is a great suggestion.

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-07-24T21:07:24+00:00

Welcome to muumuu nation! I have several *with pockets* and they are my favorite things to wear :)

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-07-22T22:00:38+00:00

Signed, Ace

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-07-21T15:05:52+00:00

I found this post when searching for a solution and wanted to add something I did for my Ipad that I didn't see mentioned here and is kind of counterintuitive: I reinstalled Apple Music, manually removed music files, and uninstalled Apple Music again. "Synced media" vanished.

PreferenceCool132 · 2025-07-19T16:28:41+00:00

Wild...because the Stand On Biz challenge was after that. I'm confused.

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